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|Originally posted by tandemmama
hmm...what ARE the technicalities? good question
actually, I think it has a lot to do with us being a military family, so we are not near ANY family at all. therefore, we don't have much support. I guess I sort of feel like I need someone to tell me I'm doing alright. You've got me thinking...am I looking at this the wrong way? I think I need her here more as a doula than anything...but that's not how it's going to be, is it? She's going to take control more than a doula would. Not as much as an OB would, but I am still putting trust in her and following her advice. The CPS thing worries me a bit, since I've got some pretty nasty things written about me in dd's med records...accusations of medical neglect and refusal to provide adequate nutrition (long story and a stupid ped.) but then again, I'm using a lay midwife and they aren't legal in MD anyway...so I'm still putting my "reputation" at risk.
|I guess the answer is that as comfortable as I feel with my body and as much as I trust that I can do this without a hospital...I'm not quite ready for an unassisted birth. What I meant when I spoke of technicalities, was simply that she WILL be there, but I'm not *depending* on her to make things peachy.(like I did with the OB's who delivered my first two) I am picturing the birth as more of a harmony between my baby, my body, my state of mind and her presence. Am I making any sense? I didn't think so LOL
You have given me some things to think about though! hmm...
|Have you had friends use her in the past and what did they say? There are so many different types of mw's it seems...the backgrounders, the "take-charge"'ers, and some in between...what situations have you talked about w/ her?|
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