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#61 of 356 Old 03-30-2007, 02:06 PM
 
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just a bump because this is a great thread.
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re: meconium poop and baby's bottom, olive oil or any veggie oil works great too
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re: meconium poop and baby's bottom, olive oil or any veggie oil works great too
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Sesame oil works awesome, you can also mix it with vit e and its a great moisturizer and acne clearer

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So, especially because it's not likely you'll have to use it, have a plan, and a hospital bag, ready!
I wish we had done that. And put a brush in the hospital bag. We did have the diaper bag packed with cute newborn stuff (because that was fun to prepare), and that helped.

We had someone there as a "go-fer," just there to help fetch and find things, a good friend I could trust to be low-key and just help. That was helpful when the only thing I consented to eat during labor was red jello.

It's good to have a nice rug to crawl around on. You might need to crawl.
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Others have mentioned it already, but I lend my voice to the chorus: have someone take pictures, even if you think you don't want them now. You can always delete/destroy them later. I regret not having any photos of the birth. I thought it would be my weakest moment but in fact it was my strongest.
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Others have mentioned it already, but I lend my voice to the chorus: have someone take pictures, even if you think you don't want them now. You can always delete/destroy them later. I regret not having any photos of the birth. I thought it would be my weakest moment but in fact it was my strongest.
I wish I had worn a bra in the pool--I'd love to show more people the pictures (like my dad), but most people don't want to see my boobs!
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I wish I had asked dh to set the pool up earlier. Then end happened so fast I was in a pretty cold pool because we hadn't gotten enough hot water in it. I just had to get in no matter the temp.

I wish I had had it earlier to labor in.

Mom of a 7 yr old, 4 yr old, and 1 yr old. Wow. How did that happen?
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Oh, and some of the best advice that i took was to not look at the clock.
: ABSOLUTELY!! I couldn't believe how much easier it was with my second when I had NO idea what time it ever was.
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I didn't have any tears after my marathon home birth and I pretty much attribute that to tons of olive oil and hot ginger compresses that the midwives used. And definitely the birth pool!!!! Made it all possible, that and a ball to sit on to open my pelvis. I'm glad that no one actually told me the truth as to how much it would hurt. It was the most horrendous unbelievale pain ever and pushing didn't make it any better. granted there was a sweet prize at the end, but I'm glad I didn't know ahead of time. I guarantee that if I'd been at a hospital for the birth, I'd have been begging for drugs!: so good thing I was at home!
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That too many people around me caused my labor to slow down immensly. This time, it's just dh and I and my mw's.

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To tell DH to catch the baby. Not just "no stay here (instead of leaving to go to the bathroom) because I feel his head.
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I was looking for this thread! Bumping for ease of finding again...

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Can I add one?

I wish I'd known to have at least one peri bottle for every bathroom in the house! Perhaps even an extra one, just in case. And to be religious about refilling them when I was done. Because there's nothing worse than juggling a newborn and a peri bottle and a cold sink while you're doing the pee-pee dance two days after you've had a baby.
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Great thread!

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Have someone who is ready to cook a great meal afterwards (my SIL did this and it was wonderful).

All the supplies in one easy place and other people knowing what/where/etc. My dh and mom were great this way.

Megan Davidson, Labor & Postpartum Doula, Breastfeeding Counselor, Anthropologist, Mom to August (9) and Clay (4), Partner to Shawn.

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I dont ahve any words of wisdom, but I would emphasize something like having OJ on hand. I bled a lot when i had my son at home, and OJ kept me in reality. I dont like orange juice, but i bought osme for some weird reason, and i actually needed it...


This is a great thread.. and soooo makes me wanna get pregnant....

Melissa- homeschooling mom to Samantha ( 9) Gabby ( 8) Emma (6) and Diesel (12 months) and Rachel Rebecca Brock Erik Joe Noah 6-25-10 5 early miscarriages
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That I'll be thirsty like a horse nursing and big pitchers and sigg bottles everywhere will be the subject of my daydreams.
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I wish I'd known how much better homebirth was before my hospital birth I didn't get a bunch of birth supplies, and hardly needed anything. So I guess I'd say look at the homebirth kit and decide what you think you will REALLY need before buying it

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Im planning my first homebirth too, and my birth class teacher recommended these things as her most cherished items:

A "Rice Sock" Basically a long tube sock filled with raw rice w/ a knot tied at the end. This can be heated in the oven or microwave and stretched around a mama's lower back/abdomen during contractions. She said if she's running to a birth and coud only grab one thing, this would be it! I'm planning to make 2 so I can have one on me and one in the over heating up.

My other favorite idea of hers is a "2 Tennis Ball Massage Sock" You can also use racket balls, basically put them in a smaller sock with a little space between them and tie a knot. Really wonderful as a massage tool for your support team, because their hands can get tired too! Great for lower back pain ( rub on either side of the spine, not directly on the spine) I treid this out in class and it felt gooood!

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This needs to be a sticky!
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Have an Enema handy (my little piece of heaven and c-section preventer )- my midwife asked her coleague to bring one after I requested one since hers was expired.

Bowel Buddies (Bran wafers) were truly my best buddies, better than stool softeners for me

I'll definitely get a tub next time around.
Why is an enema a c-section preventer? What are the benefits of enema before labor? what kind do you use?

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I wish I had known that midwives are NOT always empowering or as hands off as they say they are, and to have someone there to advocate for me against the midwife, instead of telling everyone ahead of time to trust her.
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i second that this should be stickied! i know i'll be looking for this thread again in the future!
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This is a great thread... thank you all...

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I wish I would have disciplined myself to drink more water and eat more. It was only an 8 hour labor and birth with 1 hour of pushing, but I was whipped and because I didn't drink enough water my blood pressure bottomed out at 60/30 and I laid on the bed for 6 hours too whacked to do anything. DH had to force me to nurse Henri. I know they say to eat and drink as you feel, but I don't think it hurts to keep hydrated even if you don't feel like drinking. Other than that, everything else was perfect. I wish someone would have told me how beautiful and EASY homebirth is when I had my FIRST kid!
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That it would still feel painful. I thought that being at home and with just my dh, my bff, and the mw, would make it peaceful and pain-free. Peaceful, yes! Pain-free, yeah right!

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OOOOH.
This thread is full of great stuff.
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