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DD is 7 months old now and was born at home, and over the past months I've come up w/a few wish-I-had-done's that I wanted to share.

1. Have someone take pictures. I don't have any b/c I didn't think I wanted them, but now I have none - nothing from being in early labor, nothing from giving birth, nada. I really wish I had some. And the few pics taken right after she was born came out bad and I don't like them.

2. Have food for your midwife! I didn't and still feel terrible about it. I had coffee, lol, but not much food. IIRC she scrounged and found a container of nuts to snack on. Not cool.

3. Have food for YOURSELF. I didn't think I'd want much to eat during labor, and I was right, but not having the option sucked. Fresh cut watermelon or something would have been great. Even broth would have been good. But I didn't have anything.

4. Have something prepared to eat right after you give birth. There was nothing rewarding about that bowl of cheerios I had after pushing out my daughter.

5. Hire a doula. My husband was my rock, and was with me the ENTIRE 12 hours I was in labor, but he could have used a potty break and some down time. I would have liked to have someone who could both support me and give him a much needed break from the situation.

These may have all been said somewhere in this thread but I wanted to put mine out in the world, too. I hope all you future homebirthers learn from our "mistakes" and have great, empowering, and wonderous births!

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This is such an awesome thread! :

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DD is 7 months old now and was born at home, and over the past months I've come up w/a few wish-I-had-done's that I wanted to share.

1. Have someone take pictures. I don't have any b/c I didn't think I wanted them, but now I have none - nothing from being in early labor, nothing from giving birth, nada. I really wish I had some. And the few pics taken right after she was born came out bad and I don't like them.
lol I see I'm not the only one. We were sooo focused on my laboring that we didn't accept any of the help out there...just one simple phone call is all it would have taken for us

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This is an awesome thread! I've had a homebirth before, but I still picked up quite a few tips from this thread!

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1. this is not the time to be cheap. i am normally cheap so i was the same during labor. i bought a cheap fishy pool. we checked it beforehand but during labor it sprung a leak. it also almost popped when DH poured a pot of hot water in and it hit the side wall. the side expanded and almost popped. next time i'm going to get a nice pool with heat. i don't want to deal with a cheap pool or have DH deal with it when he should have been next to me.

2. hire a doula. i was cheap and didn't want to spend the money. i think a doula and her positions expertise might have prevented me from transferring.

3. have someone take lots of pics. you'll want them afterwards.

4. have a hospital transfer bag and know how to get to the ER! i didn't and we scrambled to get one together before transferring. plus we had to mapquest to the hospital. never expected to go so we didn't even know the quickest route! how stupid is that?!
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-that I should have been MORE specific in advance about what all members of my "team" should do. There was some tension because of unclear responsibilities and things could have been smoother in that department.

-I wish I knew that I would be in the first stage of labor for MOST of the 39 hours it took! LOL I barely progressed until the last few hours.

-That I would want a video! I thought I didn't because I'd be naked and it would be gross...but I wish I had the option now. You can always never watch it, but if it's not there at all your screwed!

-That it would exceed my expectations and change my life forever. I am a completely different person now...and I have gone through trial by fire because of those changes; having to re-evaluate my priorities in life and leaving behind old friends who are NOT part of that vision. I have self worth that I never had before and confidence I couldn't have gotten any other way.
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4. have a hospital transfer bag and know how to get to the ER! i didn't and we scrambled to get one together before transferring. plus we had to mapquest to the hospital. never expected to go so we didn't even know the quickest route! how stupid is that?!
I totally second getting a hospital transfer bag ready. I didn't make one in advance either, feeling superstitious about the idea of getting one together, like if I did I'd be putting out the idea that I might have to go to the hospital and thus be jinxing the success of the hb. I never in a million years expected to go to the hospital - but ended up going. And I would have been glad to not have to get stuff together at the last minute when my midwife decided it was time to go - there was enough else to think about, and of course we forgot stuff that we wanted. If we do this again, I'll pack a hospital bag, making my superstition the reverse of the original thought; this time I'll think, "If I don't pack this bag, I might have to transfer to the hospital!"

And re doulas: oh yes. DEFINITELY, DEFINITELY, DEFINITELY get a doula!
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It depends on your personality. I've transferred twice, and still didn't pack a bag and won't in future.

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It depends on your personality. I've transferred twice, and still didn't pack a bag and won't in future.
True, it depends. For me, I packed the bag *knowing* I wouldn't use it. And then I transferred. For me, it was nice, during that hard time at the hospital (they made us stay 48 hours since I was GBS+) to have a few of my own things. (Shampoo, facial soap, my Lansinoh lanolin, flip-flops for the shower, etc.) I left some things out and regretted it (snacks for DH, Boppy, nursing pads because it is horrible once you start leaking on the hospital gowns, and nursing bras/tanks.)

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With my first, I forgot some stuff, but we lived close enough for my husband to pick up what I needed.

With my second, I had advance notice that I might have to transfer, so I made a list and then packed when I went into labour.

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double post, sorry!

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It depends on your personality. I've transferred twice, and still didn't pack a bag and won't in future.
I packed a bag, printed a map with the quickest root to the ER and even had printed up birth plans for the bag. I wanted to be prepared...and not tempt fate. I know someone who didn't pack a bag, and needed one later...and even though I didn't want to go to the hospital, I knew that there were things out of my control and why be stuck with itchy socks if I'm there! Better to have one and not use it than to get stuck with your husbands taste in clothes!

In all seriousness...I think packing the hospital bag is an important part of letting go of the DESPERATE NEED to have a "HOME birth". It's about doing what is neccesary, and sometimes medical intervention IS necessary...so why stress yourself out about it and ignore reality out of some kind of indignence?
JMO...but I would recommend that EVERYONE pack a bag...it may be the ONLY thing you can control if you are in the hospital after all!

Also, if you have the means..HIRE someone to clean your house for 2 weeks! Unless you have one of those rare mothers that come over and really does what you need done!

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Do you mean indignance? If so, my reasons have nothing to do with that. It isn't about ignoring reality or a desperate need to have a home birth.

I hate packing. I don't want to do it if I can help it. Plus, everything I need or want to bring to the hospital are clothes and toiletries I use every day, so I can't really pack ahead of time.

Like I said, I had two transfers. One my midwife and husband packed a bag while I was in crazy labour, and the other one, I packed at the onset of labour.

I don't understand why you are projecting these reasons onto me and why you don't understand that not everyone thinks the same way as you. DIfferent people have different stressors, different priorities, different preferences.

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maybe we should start a "to pack or not to pack a hospital transfer bag" support thread!!

ha ha, just being silly.

like i said, i didn't pack one and wish i had. but i never thought i'd transfer, and i was also lazy. when i'd think about doing it, it meant packing things i always use and needed on hand. (and i was superstitious, didn't want to transfer, thus didn't want to pack one!)
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I wish I had known to relax about pushing and trust my body. Becuase of my first baby I was all keyed up to purple push and even though nobody shouted "PUSH PUSH PUSH!!!!" through every contraction, I think I told myself that in my mind anyhow. I really tore badly and I think part of it was that I just slammed him out but really pushing ridiculously. This time around I hope to be more relaxed about it and listen to how much my body wants to push and just allow the involuntary level of pushing that feels unavoidable...smooth and gentle will be my goal.

I wish somebody had told me there was something I could do about afterpains besides just popping Tylenol and crying. This time I'm going to stock up on arnica and other herbal helpfuls.

I wish I had realized that having a childcare person is a really good idea, even if you want your kid to be there for the birth. I felt badly that my midwives ended up helping babysit my two year old on the side.

I wish I'd known that if you want to give your midwife a gift to thank her for her loving help at your birth its a good idea to plan it in advance. I meant to do something but after the fact I was so caught up in the excitement of new baby and then my family's visit that I never did anything for her and now I feel really badly about that because she was super wonderful.

Have a designated photographer. Again, we didn't and the assistant midwife ended up snapping shots for us. Her pictures were amazing and she was super kind about it but, I wish we'd freed her to just focus on assisting our main midwife instead of multi-tasking to fill a role we didn't plan for.

I wish I had worn waterproof mascara. Its vain but, everyone wants to look pretty in pictures and I look a lot better with a little mascara.

If you want to plant that placenta in the yard...do it. Have it be the way you celebrate actually getting up and around again physically or something.

I wish I had frozen pads to help with afterbirth care...and I also wish I'd stocked and used prune juice to help with the first bm's.

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I wish I had known to relax about pushing and trust my body. Becuase of my first baby I was all keyed up to purple push and even though nobody shouted "PUSH PUSH PUSH!!!!" through every contraction, I think I told myself that in my mind anyhow. I really tore badly and I think part of it was that I just slammed him out but really pushing ridiculously. This time around I hope to be more relaxed about it and listen to how much my body wants to push and just allow the involuntary level of pushing that feels unavoidable...smooth and gentle will be my goal.
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plus we had to mapquest to the hospital. never expected to go so we didn't even know the quickest route! how stupid is that?!
My MW requires that we include maps to the hospital as part of the birth kit.

I will NOT be packing a bag, though.

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I took such care during pregnancy to prepare for the labor and birth, but I wish I would have prepared for the post-partum period better. And it's something that always has to be prepared for, whether it's a first or fifth baby.

"Mothering the New Mother" by Sally Placksin has checklists to help Mom and her partner think about what will need to be done so Mom and Baby can heal and rest and bond afterward, for the first day, week, two weeks, month, and beyond. There are also chapters which talk about a normal range of feelings and emotions, as well as identifying post partum blues from post partum depression and how to get support for either.

One thing I think most people find surprising is that technically, the "post partum period" lasts for 9-12 months. Many women expect to be up and around and "back to normal" by a certain amount of time (say, 6-8 weeks) and when at three months post partum they still feel down or tired or out of sorts, there is a huge let down and they start wondering what is wrong with themselves, when it seems like every other woman is back to work, losing weight, and their baby sleeps through the night. Just having an understanding of what one can expect can relieve feelings of overwhelming guilt and sadness and help Mom to accept her new role as the mother of her child(ren) and make the necessary adjustments.

Some things to consider preparing for, logistics-wise:

child care for older sibling(s), meals and groceries/picking things up at the store, household chores/cleaning, visitors?, breastfeeding help (line it up: get your local LLL meeting information, a phone number of a lactation specialist so if you find you and baby need help, all you have to do is pick up a phone). Who will change diapers? Is dad willing to do some of these tasks, or will you need to ask for help from family and friends or hire a post partum doula? There is a lot to consider, and in our culture, unfortunately, it lies on Mom to make sure she is taken care of.

Know your local resources for post partum depression if you are prone to that. Just talking with your partner about what to expect (have them read some parts of the chapters which discuss the normalcy of certain feelings/emotions/hormonal imbalances following childbirth) so they can be prepared to handle not just a new baby, but a "new mom" as well! Think about someone who can mentor Dad, if needed. Does he have a trusted person he can talk to for his questions and worries about being a Father?

Of course, not all of these things will be all taken care of beforehand, but the more aware you are of needs, and how you can meet them, the smoother that transition in the first days and months after birth can be for everyone.

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Here is my question. This will be my first birth, and we're planning on a homebirth.

My mom really wants to be there. We have a good relationship but I still have reservations. I told her I wanted a doula, but she thinks she can act as a doula, or that another friend could do it. I tried to explain to her that I felt it would emotionally complicate things, but she doesn't seem to understand this. I know she'll respect my decision, but what I'm getting from this thread is that most people found it helpful NOT to have moms there.

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Here is my question. This will be my first birth, and we're planning on a homebirth.

My mom really wants to be there. We have a good relationship but I still have reservations. I told her I wanted a doula, but she thinks she can act as a doula, or that another friend could do it. I tried to explain to her that I felt it would emotionally complicate things, but she doesn't seem to understand this. I know she'll respect my decision, but what I'm getting from this thread is that most people found it helpful NOT to have moms there.

Any thoughts?
If you have reservations, I wouldn't let her be there. You can work out how best to break the news to her, but the bottom line is you are the laboring mother and anything that bothers you can stall your labor. You need to surround yourself with support.

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I wouldn't even "break it to her." I'd smile and say, "Thanks for being so supportive and eager to help. I'm glad that you love me so much!" And then hire a doula...and if you want your mom there...then work in her in a non-threatening way.

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The fact that you have reservations is an indication not to have mom join you for the birth. I'm not having my mom there either and my midwife totally agrees with it. Aside from the fact that I wouldn't want her there, my midwife has seen scenarios where the mother is just so taken aback with what goes on in labor that she is just not a good support person. If you're so inclined, you can call your mom afterwards and let her know of the birth of your baby and ask her to stop by. We are still toying as to when we'll call my mom because we may be really exhausted afterwards and just would like to sleep with the new baby.

Please do what feels right to you.

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Here is my question. This will be my first birth, and we're planning on a homebirth.

My mom really wants to be there. We have a good relationship but I still have reservations. I told her I wanted a doula, but she thinks she can act as a doula, or that another friend could do it. I tried to explain to her that I felt it would emotionally complicate things, but she doesn't seem to understand this. I know she'll respect my decision, but what I'm getting from this thread is that most people found it helpful NOT to have moms there.

Any thoughts?
I went through a similar situation and was given the good advice to tell people who were interested in being at the birth that I was unsure as to whether or not i would want them there, "I appreciate that you want to support me. I am unsure who, if anyone besides my husband and my midwives, I want at the birth. Can I call you if I need you?"

I did this with my mother, sister in law, and good friend, all of them took it well and said that if I needed them they would be there.

I wrestled with this issue for awhile so I understand how sticky it can get when it concerns loved ones. Best of luck to you.
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Thanks for all the advice! I'm going to tell her "no" this weekend. She'll be disappointed, but I know she'll understand.

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I'm loving this thread - I'm planning a homebirth for No. 2, after a midwife-led hospital birth.

Bendy straws, no clocks, hospital bag, no phones - all great ideas. (I can totally see me forgetting to turn off my cell phone and then throwing it across the room.)

One question - how much stuff did you end up throwing away? Towels and sheets and stuff like that.
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I'm loving this thread - I'm planning a homebirth for No. 2, after a midwife-led hospital birth.

Bendy straws, no clocks, hospital bag, no phones - all great ideas. (I can totally see me forgetting to turn off my cell phone and then throwing it across the room.)

One question - how much stuff did you end up throwing away? Towels and sheets and stuff like that.
We had a black plastic bag with used chux, etc. from the birth that got tossed but washed towels and sheets and the blood came out fine. Hydrogen peroxide helps, and washing with oxygen bleach is a good alternative, too. You could use old sheets and throw away if that appeals to you more, we just decided to have someone do the loads of laundry to helps us out that first day.

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How do you warm rice socks if you don't have a microwave?
Some ppl use a crockpot set on low; you just have to have someone watching it or it can burn!

Or you could try the hot packs like Hotteeze stuck to a long piece of fabric, like fleece, with some velcro sewed onto the fabric to hold it on (similar to a maternity belt). You can put heat on lower abdomen or back at the same time, and have it wrapped on, hands free--better still, the heat lasts 8 hours or more, no warming needed! It's my latest invention and I'm going to give it a test-run with this birth.

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