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Originally Posted by the_lissa
Oh yeah I remember you mentioning some other things about him too. :
I know I made the right decision. I didn't need a Dr making me second guess myself. Especially a Dr that doesn't practice evidence based medicine ifun ya know what I mean....
My family doctor was actually more interested in the homebirth when we took DD in the first week (she was bruised some from the birth, the midwife wanted it checked just to be sure). I'm going to miss him when I move, but not the OB!
Andi, wife of Seraphim
Mom to Elijah (6/05) and Moses (6/08) and baby Joshua, UBAC February 18, 2011!
It was simply wonderful all three times.
After the birth of our first dh said he would never want to have a baby in the hospital. Home is so relaxing and comfortable.
I have a number of friends who had their first at home, and have no regrets.
Originally Posted by the_lissa
How were your midwives?
I've gone to the Community Midwives of Hamilton for both my pgs.
Andriea and Sandra were at my birth though, Margret was on vacation.
lol She came back the day after I gave birth. How's that irony for ya?
Originally Posted by teewa
Why not a birth center? Just wondering, since that is an option I'm seriously considering now.
Thanks for the input
My midwife says that in most birth centers, you have to be:
- not too big, not too small
- no high nor low blodd pressure
- not thin, not fat
- no breech baby
- not too young, not too old
- etc, etc......
because some of them do not want to adapt to your special circumstance....
obviously, it depends but in my area, it is like that
that being said, my mother delivered me and my sister in a birth center and we were both breech babies, so......
I know some birth centres where you can choose on your "big" day whether you feel like staying at home and the midwife comes to you or whether you'd rather drive to the birth centre (well, be driven I shall say.....).
At first, I thought of a birth centre for this pregnancy (my first) but then I just thought why make it complicated? Transfers are fast whether you are at home or at the birth centre anyway. And I feel way more comfty at home with my things around me. Besides, I don't want to see any strangers, just my midwife, so home is best.
Good luck to you
-Alice, SAHM to dd (2001) and ds (2004) each of whom was a , who each self-weaned at 4.5 years , who both 'd, who were both, and both: . Also, , and !
Originally Posted by cymbeline
Truth be told: I had unrealistic expectations about my birth. I read a bunch of gentle birth stories where mamas moan and sway and then deliver and feel like goddesses. I screamed and convulsed and pushed and my first words were, "I'm never doing this again!" But, looking back, I know now that every woman gives birth in her own way...
I had my first and only child at home. We're planning on TTC this summer and will do a home birth again. My SIL had 3 homebirths so it wasn't a foreign concept to me but I was still planning on doing a natural birth in a hospital until I took a childbirth preparation class. Then I switched to homebirth. I was in labor for 2 days and would have had a CS for sure if I was in the hospital.
Good for you for having the strength and courage to consider a homebirth! You can do it!
Molly, mom to three homebirthed girly girls: Lila 6/05, Nellie 12/07, and Lucy 1/11
10.5 hours. in the shower, midwife came in, I stood up, she 'fell' out. just me, my husband, and my midwife. it was great.
Originally Posted by JenMidwife
Hi batsoup, I'm planning to HB #1 in August & am near Philly too! Are your midwives from Woman Wise? They're mine. I can't wait!
For example, we did no VE's, etc but she forgot that I said no doptone and whipped it out when I was in transition--in retrospect I was very upset, also she brought out a mirror when the baby was crowning, which was SO distracting and "supported" the fundus while waiting for the placenta (ow!) and chatted with the doula (annoying!). However, this is nothing compared to typical hospital protocol and I am soooooooooooooooooo thankful not to have been in a hospital. Even at a birthing center (had I not been dropped earlier for refusing all their multitudes of tests), I may have been risked out due to having my first contraction over 12 hours after my water broke.
In interviewing midwives I think it's a danger sign when they praise Ina Mae Gaskin's works too much--they tend to make birth more about the midwife than about the mother. however, that's just my preference--I have read that some people prefer to be directed and have several midwives present.
Originally Posted by batsoup
Yes, they are! That's great! I know, I'm so excited too! Feel free to email me privately (batsoup@ comcast.net) -- i've been looking for other first-time moms in Philly!
Originally Posted by sskf
I had a home waterbirth with #1. I was the only one of all my friends and family to do it, so there was a lot of anxiety around that. People seemed worried if something went wrong during the birth, whether or not a hospital transfer would go well.
My homebirth was empowering, and being able to snuggle in my own bed afterwards was just what I needed. There was no stress about leaving, or getting in a car. It was wonderful, and I'll do it again and again!
Jill, mama to three fiery girlies and a sweet baby boy: Grace, 11.30.2005, Ayla, 3.22.2008, Norah 9.5.09, Reed 8.19.11 & dfs Gage 2.29.12 x4
Long labor and birth
Suprised by the pain
So glad when it's over
Other than that, it's a world of difference. I just KNOW I would have had a c-section in the hospital with my first due to a very long labor and needing to give birth in an odd position due to interference from my public bone. So, homebirth was definitely best for me.
Having said that, more importantly to me, is the respect and excellent, gentle care given to both my girls by their midwives. Instead of being tossed about, rubbed and cleaned immediately, injected, poked and prodded under bright lights by cold handed strangers, both my girls were handled gently by warm, loving, respectful hands telling them what was going on every step of the way and took all the time that was necessary. That to me, is worth pushing through any fears you have about homebirth.
It's not just women that deserve homebirth, it's children.
for me there was never even a thought about going to a hosp! even though i had 3 miscarriages before my dd was born, i knew that i would not need a hosp staff to give birth.
it was the best experience of my LIFE! i remember telling my mw during labor that i sounded like a singing whale underwater...........the sounds they make are beautiful!
most family and friends thought i was crazy: ....... but i've never really cared what other people think.i knew it was the best thing i could do for my child and my future health.
it also helped that i watched my mother give birth to my sister at home with a mw when i was 10. i cut her uc and held her right after my mom did. homebirth just seemed like the right thing to do!
This time, I am going to give Hypno a try. I would like to be more present at the birth. The first was *so* intense, I think I travelled a little further in my brain than I wanted to. It is hard to remember parts of it, so I am very happy that we have a great video from the tripod that DH set up. DS (now three) has seen his own birth and he just loves it. It's interesting that the extreme intensity (and pain) that I experienced so does not come across on the video. My vocalizations are just low and growly -- different than I how I imagined them to sound. I plan for DS to be in the house for this birth and if the intensity becomes too much, his caretaker (my neighbor) can take him to her house.
I highly recommend HB for number one.
ETA: I am pregnant, due in January. Perfect example of pregnancy brain!