I very much agree w/the whole "it's too early to tell". It was our plan as well when we got pregnant but I was by NO MEANS feeling completly confident! Far from it. But I believe that once you commit to something (and this was a long process for us and very gradual) that the universe responds and you find the courage, etc. to do it. BUT I did know I would be disappointed in myself if I didn't do it since I knew I wanted it. And I felt called to do it, so I proceeded--one step at a time. The faith came gradually and during.
I would also recommend JEannine Parvati Baker's site: www.freestone.org
as well as her books. I found her helpful and highly inspiring. I also like Hygieia Halfmoon's books: Primal mothering in a modern world" and " I can do this" (which is her journal from her pregnancy w/her ds--who she freebirthed w/only her two other kids present. It really helped me realize that even someone I considered to be "different" from me, meaning more confident, etc was also riddled w/doubts.
This is just MHO, but I believe there is a significant if subtle difference having someone in the next room and not having a paid professional there. I am not trying to be a purist, or exclusionary, I think it is a very valid option, if that is what seems right for you and yours, but really feel *personally* that a UC is really TOTALLY taking on that responsibility for yourself. FOr me, I knew it would make a huge difference if someone was there, or even if someone was on call for me, KWIM? But this is also due to what *I* wanted to get out of my birth. Your goals or "things" you need to work through w/this birth might be different. (Again, I am not trying to be a birth snob, but feel that it is hard to sit on the fence w/this one. ) I felt very strongly that I had to do this w/just dh and me (and dd).
As someone else mentioned, listen carefully to that little tiny voice, be it your intuition, your baby, your spirit.....and keep listening. THat is one of the greatest gifts of freebirth, IMO. An wonderful opportunity to listen to yourself more completely and learn to trust yourself. Oh, yes! and your dreams. Mine revealed SO much to me, esp. in pregnancy.