My labor with DS2 was so much easier than with DS1. I kept waiting for those horrible contractions to hit, like I had with DS1, and they never really did. We had been walking the mall the night he was born to try to get labor going, because I was at the manditory induction day the next day. I kept getting these painless tightening of my uterus, to me I thought they were Braxton Hicks Contractions. When they hit, they were so so so tight I would have to stop, there was not pain just extreme tightness. When we left the mall, they were about 5-7 minutes apart, lasting about 60 seconds. I had no clue it was true labor, but we called the Midwife to ask her what was going on and to see if I should come in because the tightness was so so so hard to deal with because it was taking my breath away. Well, we waited an hour and a half, and by the time she called back they had slowed down and I had not had one for 20 minutes.
About an hour after she called me back, I started having the exact same thing. I figured it was more Braxton Hicks, like the Midwife also thought they were, so I went to take a nice relaxing hot bath to make me a bit more comfortable. I had also started timing them, and they were 5 minutes or less apart, but no pain. After I got out of my bath, I was sitting on the bed and for like 15 minutes I had this painless extreme tightening one on top of the other, like 2-3 minutes apart lasting for about 90 seconds each. At the end I was starting to feel crampy, so I went back and got into the tub, oh and kept having the feeling I need to poop and pee. About 20 minutes later I asked hubby to bring my birthing ball in....I figured I was in early labor. I had a nice set up in my bathroom...I went from tub to toilet to birthing ball to hands and knees to tub whenever I had felt the need to change positions. Around 2:00 DH wanted to know how close together they were, so he started timing them. They were 2-3 minutes apart lasting 60 seconds. Around 2:30 we called the Midwife and she told us to call the birth center...we called and they said to come in. At this point they contraction were starting to become painful (like my bad cramp day of AF where I just want to curl up and take lots of drugs for them to go away). By the time we got to the hospital I couldn't walk through contraction any longer. I didn't think I could take much more labor, because I figured I was maybe only 4-5 CM and it was going to be just as bad as with DS1.
When I got in and they were finally able to check me, I relaxed and let out all the tension, because I found out I was 9 CM bulging bag of waters, and on my way to 10. The baby was going to be born in a very short time and I could handle and had been handling the pain very well. I think the hardest part of pushing was feeling the "ring of fire", it felt so wierd, but after it hit, I didn't feel anything down there till after birth. It is almost like a natural anastetic.
I too had 3rd degree tearing and they were able to do the stitches with local anastetic but did take me back to the OR so they could have the really good/bright lights to see by so they could do a good job on the repair.
DS1 was a hospital induction and I wasn't able to relax and wasn't dialating or effacing even after 18 hours, so I was told epidural and labor a bit longer or start the prep for a c-section. I chose the epi...over a c/s.
Hope that helps anyone. My second birth was very healing from the traumatic birth I had with my first.
I am hoping this pregnancy is healing for me.