You do not need to go to your doctor at all. I have had three babies (one in hospital, one at a freestanding birth center and one at home) and have never seen a doctor for pregnancy. Midwives can do everything you need and if something comes up later that requires a referral, then the midwife can help you find the right OB at that time (but of course we hope that day doesn't come).
I would suggest interviewing some local midwives. Get recommendations from friends. Try contacting your local La Leche League - they will likely have some good names for you. Most midwives will meet with you at their birth center for no cost - you can learn what their philosophy of birth is and just get a feel for whether or not you "click" with her.
You say you want to "hear both sides". Both sides of what? Homebirth? Most doctors will tell you that out of hospital birth is unsafe - this is simply not true but they can make you very fearful with scary (often untrue) claims. All three of my births were in different locations and all were good (though I did prefer the out of hospital births - I think this is mostly a case of those births being Licensed Midwives NOT Certified Nurse Midwives). What does your dh think? What does your insurance cover? These are more important questions than what your primary care doctor thinks about homebirth or natural birth in general or midwifery care.
There are lots of good books. I like "Natural Childbirth the Bradley Way" by Susan McCutcheon-Rosegg. "The Birth Book" by Sears. "A Good Birth, A Safe Birth" by ? I recently read a fantastic book that compared the different types of midwives and how the place where they practice can affect the care they are allowed to give. Can't remember the name....
Good luck finding a midwife you love.
Oh, another good resource for finding good midwives is your local Bradley childbirth instructor. Call her and see who she likes in your area. Not positive of the Bradley website - maybe www.bradleybirth.com