My DH was afraid of my desire to Homebirth, and we had had a previous caesarian, too. But I knew, having run the hospital gamut before, that I wasn't going to a hospital unless I were in need of urgent lifesaving, because I felt pretty sure that the prospects of a successful VBAC in a hospital were bleak, especially with the attitude the only "pro-VBAC" OB in my area had. Very fearful attitude.
As the pregnancy progressed, my certainty that I was having this baby at home increased. I felt like I would rather chew off my own foot than go to the hospital unless there was a NEED to be in the hospital, and the simple act of giving birth didn't qualify, in my opinion. Long story short, I hired a country midwife (NOT a CNM, or "Medwife", whose views of birthing are too often identical to OB's) who had 30+ years of experience including many VBACs. She said VBAC is just like any other birth, so long as you don't stress out the mother in labor or do anything chemical to her, to speed up labor or make it come too hard and fast (such as Pitocin). So we had the Homebirth After Caesarian, with a 10 lb. 2 oz. boy, with a nuchal hand (arm coming out alongside his head). No problems, no complications, only 1st degree tearing. As for DH, he would have been scared whether we were in the hospital or at home, but he really didn't have a choice in the matter. Not to be harsh, but his feelings mattered to me, but the bottom line was, I had to birth where I felt comfortable.
The books available on the subject of why hospitals aren't nearly as safe for normal births as home, did help. Let's see, they were Silent Knife by Nancy Wainer Cohen, and a couple of others about homebirths, and one about VBACs in particular.
Good luck to you in getting the information to hopefully help your partner get behind you in your choice, but if he can't, I would say it's still the most important decision you'll ever make about your own body, and it would be a darn shame to let anyone else make it for you.
And go check out www.hencigoer.com
if you haven't already!