Rachel , wifey to best friend Karl ,
SAHM to Kaelan (11) Chandra (9) Liam (7) Lachlan (5) Killian (4),Riordan (1), Baby Boy EDD 11/14. All born at home!
and Brigid Eleanor (11/20/08)
Such a difference from my ds's hospital birth!
J, partner-in-crime to D, mama to 4, including our brand new , missing my 7-wk-er
Oh, one thing -- I would have arranged to have more pictures taken, and longer video. But the birth itself--I couldn't have been better if I had special ordered it.
Jen, journalist, policy wonk, and formerly a proud single mama to my sweet little man Cyrus, born at home Dec. 2007 . Now married to my Incredibly Nice Guy and new mama to baby Arthur.
Now, I will tell you -- I read all the Ina May Gaskin books and Birthing From Within etc. etc. so I was expecting angels singing from on high while I gave birth in a peaceful, low-lit space making low-toned, but calm, "vocalizations" -- um, no -- they hurt, a lot, and were long (both 24 hours +) and the "vocalizations" you were hearing sounded a lot less celestial and a lot more like a barnyard -- so that is my *only* caveat to you: be prepared for some pain and for things to not go as you "dream" they will -- but if you are like pretty much every other mom I know -- you will NOT regret your homebirth and will rank it as one of the most incredible experiences of your life, if nothing else to be able to say, "I did it! I gave my baby (and myself) the best possible experience we could have on my own terms in my own space." You will feel like a superhero at the end -- what's 24 hours of pain compared to that???
I think as with anything, there are little details I would change if I could, but even accounting for that, my homebirths were far superior to my hospital births, despite all of my births being midwife attended.
There may of course be women who regreted homebirth for one reason or another, and their feelings are valid, but that does seem to be a very small minority feeling.
A doula who married a cop & became a mama to 3 boys: G 12/22/00, my rainbow baby B 2/2/07 and L 2/10/10 my CBA2V baby, waiting for my little caboose late February 2013 & always remembering my two angels 2006 & 2012.
No regrets in choosing a homebirth. I am sad that I didn't waterbirth like planned, but the pool was too far away from my bed I don't regret my first born's hospital birth either since that is what helped open my mind to "alternative" birth choices.
That doesn't mean that my homebirth was everything I expected, though. I, too, was expecting this really spiritual experience after reading Ima May. I mean, I knew it would probably hurt (my first one in the hospital did, after all), but I still expected to feel the angels singing, or something. Nope. The birth was so fast and intense that I just held my baby in my arms in shock, feeling like I had just been run over by a freight train. I was actually more mentally "present" for the exact moment of ds1's hospital birth than I was for ds2's homebirth.
Of course, with the recovery after birth there was no comparison. PP at home was the blissful, peaceful, spiritual bonding time for me. But, the experience of such a fast birth could've been pretty traumatic if we were rushing to the hospital or delivering on the side of the road, so I don't regret the homebirth at all.
I'm just hoping #3 will take a tad bit more time arriving!
I am so inspired and committed to homebirth, that we will be having our first breech baby right here in our bedroom!
I can't wait!
I have no regrets.....none at all.....
Though I do wish I had more food prepared for my midwives following my daughter's birth...this time, I have planned to have a fried come over and make a huge supper for all participants.....
In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you." Buddha
I am now and forever a homebirth advocate. I hate bumper stickers but for homebirth, I'd put one on!
Nirvana is . . . the living happiness of a soul which is conscious of itself and conscious of having found its own abode in the heart of the Eternal. --Gandhi