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#1 of 121 Old 02-08-2008, 02:02 AM - Thread Starter
 
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I am having my first homebirth in a few weeks after two hospital deliveries. I'm wondering if anyone regrets having a homebirth! I just think it's going to be so wonderful (the overall experience) and everywhere I turn, I hear that people love it. I'm just wondering if there is a flip side to it... I have heard virtually no negative from people who have had one...
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Nope. No regrets at all.

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Not at all! I had an HBAC and it was wonderful! I'm pregnant again and planning for another homebirth in July. I've never met anyone who didn't love having a homebirth.

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Nope! There are a few things I'd do differently next time (like have DH catch) but beyond that it was wonderful.

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Not at all. I've had 4 and planning another in a month or so. Can't imagine doing it any other way.

 
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Wouldn't change a thing.
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i have had 1 hospital birth followed by 2 homebirths. barring an actual medical problem, i would never birth in a hospital again. my homebirths were fabulous.

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No regrets, except that I wish I had felt like pushing in a position that would've let me catch! However, I am not so sure that at a hospital, we wouldn't have some sticky shoulders, so it was all good.

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My only regret is that I didn't have the first 5 at home too. Only #6 was a HB. Any more babies will be born at home.

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Ive never had a homebirth, but even of the ladies I know who have transfered they still didn't regret starting out at home with the intention of staying there. I can't imagine a reason to regret a homebirth. Of course, I'm still a newbie though.
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Nope. I am happily planning to have my twins at home too!

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Nope.

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Absolutely no regrets and any others will be born at home as well.
Such a difference from my ds's hospital birth!

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None!

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Like another poster said...my only regret is that I didn't have them ALL at home!
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Not a single regret. It was hands down the most incredible experience of my life.
Oh, one thing -- I would have arranged to have more pictures taken, and longer video. But the birth itself--I couldn't have been better if I had special ordered it.

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no regrets at all, and i'll do it again.
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No, and as I work with new moms (as a counselor), the more hospital birth stories I hear, the more I say (to myself) "thank God/dess I had them at home, thank God/dess I had them at home!!!"

Now, I will tell you -- I read all the Ina May Gaskin books and Birthing From Within etc. etc. so I was expecting angels singing from on high while I gave birth in a peaceful, low-lit space making low-toned, but calm, "vocalizations" -- um, no -- they hurt, a lot, and were long (both 24 hours +) and the "vocalizations" you were hearing sounded a lot less celestial and a lot more like a barnyard -- so that is my *only* caveat to you: be prepared for some pain and for things to not go as you "dream" they will -- but if you are like pretty much every other mom I know -- you will NOT regret your homebirth and will rank it as one of the most incredible experiences of your life, if nothing else to be able to say, "I did it! I gave my baby (and myself) the best possible experience we could have on my own terms in my own space." You will feel like a superhero at the end -- what's 24 hours of pain compared to that???
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: Hiya.

No regrets here, but you already knew that.
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I don't regret my homebirths at all.

I think as with anything, there are little details I would change if I could, but even accounting for that, my homebirths were far superior to my hospital births, despite all of my births being midwife attended.

He who can no longer pause to wonder and stand rapt in awe is as good as dead; his eyes are closed.  ~Albert Einstein
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Absolutely not... I do regret my hospital birth though!
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Not one bit. I can not imagine myself hospital birthing again.

(I, on the other hand, am glad I had both experiences [ds1 was hospital, ds2 was home]. It gives me perspective.)
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As another poster said, even the women I know who transferred do not regret the homebirth choice, and the ones who do not have a medical indication for hospital birth after the transfer plan on planning homebirth again.

There may of course be women who regreted homebirth for one reason or another, and their feelings are valid, but that does seem to be a very small minority feeling.
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No regrets in choosing a homebirth. I am sad that I didn't waterbirth like planned, but the pool was too far away from my bed I don't regret my first born's hospital birth either since that is what helped open my mind to "alternative" birth choices.

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Nope, no regrets about having a homebirth here. It was incredible.

Lisa, Navy wife, mom to two boys born 6/06 and 3/09

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Never!!!! Mine was wonderful,amazing and so liberating..I tell everyone how wonderful it was!!!

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No regrets in choosing a homebirth. I am sad that I didn't waterbirth like planned, but the pool was too far away from my bed I don't regret my first born's hospital birth either since that is what helped open my mind to "alternative" birth choices.
Exactly, except for me I was never able to make it out of our bathroom after I threw up!

That doesn't mean that my homebirth was everything I expected, though. I, too, was expecting this really spiritual experience after reading Ima May. I mean, I knew it would probably hurt (my first one in the hospital did, after all), but I still expected to feel the angels singing, or something. Nope. The birth was so fast and intense that I just held my baby in my arms in shock, feeling like I had just been run over by a freight train. I was actually more mentally "present" for the exact moment of ds1's hospital birth than I was for ds2's homebirth.

Of course, with the recovery after birth there was no comparison. PP at home was the blissful, peaceful, spiritual bonding time for me. But, the experience of such a fast birth could've been pretty traumatic if we were rushing to the hospital or delivering on the side of the road, so I don't regret the homebirth at all.

I'm just hoping #3 will take a tad bit more time arriving!

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I have no regrets...I have had 2 out-of-my-homebirths (one in a hospital, one in the elevator of the hospital), 2 homebirths (one unplanned unassisted---wow, what a way to be introduced to homebirth, no?, and the second attended by the midwives who are waiting, along with me, to catch my 5th baby!)

I am so inspired and committed to homebirth, that we will be having our first breech baby right here in our bedroom!

I can't wait!

I have no regrets.....none at all.....

Though I do wish I had more food prepared for my midwives following my daughter's birth...this time, I have planned to have a fried come over and make a huge supper for all participants.....
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No regrets at all - probably the best decision I ever made was to follow my gut and go for a homebirth.

In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you." Buddha

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Another voice chiming in with a "no"!! I had a fabulous, life transforming experience birthing at home and I can only pray that my future births will also be in the comfort of home.

I am now and forever a homebirth advocate. I hate bumper stickers but for homebirth, I'd put one on!

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Nirvana is . . . the living happiness of a soul which is conscious of itself and conscious of having found its own abode in the heart of the Eternal. --Gandhi
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