From the way you describe your first birth attempt, you are right--it was the conditions imposed that created the eventual csec scenario. NOT you/your body!
Do you have a doula? Can you maybe labor with support in a hotel room near the hospital, rather than going in too soon? Of course, if you're 3hrs away from hosp, you may arrive pushing anyway--2nd babies are often pretty fast.
Also, MANY VBAC moms have pushed out babies as big or bigger than the one they got sectioned for. Have you visited ICAN--I bet they have a link to a beautiful slide show on this very topic.
stay strong, don't let her predictions run you down.
I have done my research and planning, I have opened my eyes to all the possibilities and have accepted them, I want to make informed decisions when the time comes, and just try my best overall.
Be confident that you will make the right choices for the right reasons.
Sami , wife to , mama to Tate 10/14/05, Kaleb 12/17/07, Bram 3/13/10-11/17/12, Alden 2/1/12, October 2014
She may have been trying to helpfully manage expectations - or setting you up to fail - hard to know. I would probably try to engage on the details above...and do NOT let her comment undermine your confidence in yourself.
Remember, its hard for any OB, with so little experience of normal birth, to make a fair judgment about what's possible or likely. She's just not probably the best source for this particular kind of opinion!
I would check your local ICAN chapter to find a TRUE VBAC friendly care provider in your area. If your provider doesn't support you and believe your body can do it, you are probably not going to have any success with them.
Momma to DD (12/04) and DS (11/09) .
I survived 16 mos! Ask me about breastfeeding a baby with posterior tongue tie, high palate, and weak oral motor skills- whew!
I've not had a section (only due to the fact I was at home with a supportive midwife...) I pushed for around 6 hours with dd, around 8 with ds.
Here's what I see you had working against you:
1. it may have just taken you longer to push...
2. you were induced
3. you had an epidural
4. you were on your back
Don't give her that power. Trust yourself, trust your body, and read lots and lots of positive VBAC birth stories. Educate yourself and do your best and the let go, and I bet you'll be able to be happy no matter what the outcome of your next birth may be. ((hugs))
RN-BSN 5/11, CBE, former doula
Jennifer, LPN and nursing student, Doula, CPST, and VBAC mama x3 to
AJ (5/03), Evan (12/04), Ilana (11/06), Olivia (2/09), and Unity (8/2012)
Don't let this OB shake your confidence. My first VBAC attempt failed because the OB I had scare-mongered me. I had a successful VBA2C three years later because I had amazing supportive people on my side.
You can do it too.
My first labor before my C section doesn't sound as hard as yours, but I was given a "70% success rate" quote. While it would obviously suck to have to endure an episiotomy, long labor, etc like you did, and THEN have a C section too, I would still risk it to go for a more than 50/50 chance of success. I decided that I would be more upset to not try and always wonder what might have happened than to try for VBAC and "fail" (and in the end, 9lb 6oz posterior baby flew out! Same weight and similar position to baby #1, just less intervention and more confidence. But who knows exactly why it was different really. It just was!)