Join Date: Dec 2001
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Yeah, too little action here... I've been hanging out elsewhere (the May 2004 due date threads and the cesarean support thread).
Empress, I think a doula is a really good idea. We had a doula with our recent VBAC (yea!), and I don't think I realized going into the birth how much of a difference she was going to make. Seriously, I had a long, grueling labor, and there were many points at which I would have thrown in the towel if she hadn't been so supportive (and to be fair, dh was amazingly supportive too, and the best dr. at my practice was on call, the hospital nurses were great, too, and obviously, things came together in a really miraculous way).
I second a lot of what Kim said. I was incredibly super anal (and probably pretty annoying) during my prenatal appts. I basically used almost every minute of them (after pg medical stuff was covered) to discuss how we were going to handle the birth. And I did this with each of the drs. at the practice. I didn't necessary like everything I heard, and I negotiated whatever I could, but at least I knew where they'd be coming from. But yeah, I was fortunate to get the most supportive, most "lenient" dr. when push came to shove (so to speak).
And I agree with your 2nd paragraph, Kim. I think there's a fine balance in preparing for a VBAC. I had to be mentally prepared for a repeat C, because I was afraid that if I bought into the VBAC "too much" I'd be devastated if I had a repeat. Like you said, not everyone will agree with that... Yeah, I wish I lived within driving distance of the Farm. Yeah, I wish I were an earth mother with short easy labors, etc. But I'll take what I got.
Best of luck to you.
Who else is out there waiting to give birth?