I know this is an older thread, but it seems VBAC is always on my mind.
My planned homebirth this July turned into a hospital transfer and Cesarean. My labor was short (for a first timer) and easy(ish) - even with a malpositioned baby and back labor. I pushed for 6 hours (in every position I'd ever heard of and some the midwives suggested that I hadn't heard of) by the time we transferred. I had pushed for 9 hours by the time the spinal went in. It was a (mostly) necessary section, but not an emergency one by any means. I say mostly necessary because her head was stuck completely sideways in my pelvis and on the one in a million chance we got a provider who would do a high forceps rotation I probably could have pushed her out. But no one here does that anymore and it comes with its own set of risks anyway, so...
Irony of ironies I had one of those nightmare doctors that is the reason many women choose homebirth to begin with.
He started yelling and screaming (no I'm not kidding) the second he walked in the door, did a rough internal on purpose, threatened us with a court order for a c-section even though I never said I wouldn't have one. He also tried to call CPS on us for refusing the ethromycin and Vit K. Thankfully they laughed.
I was perfectly healthy, and so was my baby (apgar of 9), but they would not allow me to see her for 20 hours. I begged and pleaded, attempted to get out of bed immediately after the c-section, everything, and they would not let me. "Hospital policy" because she was in the NICU on antibiotics (because I was GBS+ even though her cultures were negative).
The NICU also fed her though the IV for two days just because it was in. They introduced a bottle first and then let me "try" to breastfeed on day 4. All knowing I wanted to breastfeed her. They had no LC and we were not able to latch. They had arbitrary feeding guidelines (like baby can only be fed for 30 minutes every 3 hours) which made me feel like if I tried to BF, and wasn't successful, that I wouldn't have time to give her the bottle and she would go hungry. We were not able to successfully nurse for 7 weeks. They also kept her an extra three days to give her a sodium supplement (while we were begging them to let her go) but when our Ped called their ped he admitted there was probably no reason for them to keep her. You can bet that bill is in dispute.
Those pictures people post of their babies, just born, naked on a warming tray and screaming their heads off? They break my heart. I just think "That baby needs to be in someone's arms!! That is not the way to come into the world!" And then there was my baby, screaming on a warming tray. The pain I felt made me want to die right then and there. I felt I had failed her in every way. I will never forgive myself or those nurses for that.
I am sorry that is so long. There was so much wrong with that hospital it is hard to make it shorter. I still left out a lot. And people wonder why I'm a birth advocate!
But I feel a little luckier than many. Some women have a fine c-section and anything other than a successful VBAC is emotionally devastating. I had probably the worst experience anyone can have and still have a healthy baby and mom, so while I want a VBAC (so bad it's all I think about) the thing that matters absolutely the most is NOT THAT AGAIN.
I will be seeing my midwife's backup OB for tandem care next time (we plan to wait 18 months to 2 years to TTC), so that if I transfer and need a section it will be different in every way.
I'm Kellie :, married to Chris , and mom to one baby girl (7/12/09).