So, at 36 weeks, I'm getting nervous and feel like maybe I should have a doula. I've found one who is not certified yet, but does have good references and experience with VBAC clients. She charges half the going rate because she is still working on her certification. I'm under the care of midwives in an OB practice, but am starting to get nervous that I'll somehow get stuck with an OB instead of a midwife. My husband is supportive of a VBAC, but doesn't really "know" anything about labor -- poor man is working 2 jobs and is exhausted all the time.
What should I do? Doula or no?
I totally think all women should have a Doula, especially those seeking a VBAC in a hospital.
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Momma to DD (12/04) and DS (11/09) .
I survived 16 mos! Ask me about breastfeeding a baby with posterior tongue tie, high palate, and weak oral motor skills- whew!
Anyway, in a traditional hospital setting, a doula who can help you AND help to be your VBAC advocate would be the best idea to insure success birthing.
ETA: I just wanted to say that during my pregnancy, even though I knew the very remote risks of VBAC, I thought for sure the fears would creep up in labor. However, due to feeling completely comfortable (what women are seeking when birthing in their own safe environment) I never ONCE thought of rupture during my labor and delivery. Not once did I fear those fast and furious contractions were causing me or baby damage....I was so safe with my body. So, be CONFIDENT-which a doula helps with, as well.
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I had one, but didn't end up taking her to the hospital with me. My midwife was enough for me, along with my mom who was a midwife at one time. So, I had the support I needed. But, I will get a doula again if I have another hospital birth.
Mom to James ( 5/2006), Claire ( 6/2008), furry kitties Calvin and Bob, and wife to Dennis.
Your doula will not only support you but be able to support your DH and help him support you. My husband would also say YES! to hiring a doula. He still raves about what a difference they made for him.
My dh was very hesitant about hiring her at first (he liked her but didn't think it was worth the $$). Now he's the first one to recommend hiring a doula!
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I can't afford to hire a doula at this time, but if I could, I definitely would! So go for it!
Or you can simply ask if any of your local doula's will work for trade or lower their fee for you.