today i'm a day past my due date. at my last appointment i was 50 % effaced, no dilation yet..but the good news, OB agreed to let me go 2 weeks past due date. i have braxton hicks here and there, especially at night but haven't lost my mucus plug or anything else...
my DS was born Nov 2008 by c-section after ROM and failure to progress, never got further than 2 cm dilation...this time I was hoping for a VBAC but today is my first day of cold feet. i read a paper this morning (silly me) that said it was risky to do VBAC if earlier than 24 months since the section, because of UR...does anyone have thoughts on that?
I've hired a doula and was planning to labor at home as long as i can and as long as my water wouldn't break my OB is ok with me heading to hospital at 5-1-1 (1 min ctx, 5 min apart, for 1 hr). i've been really motivated for my VBAC, but today having my first day of cold feet...could be related to the fact that my toddler has 103 fever and ear infection and i haven't slept great for days now so i'm probably not in the best mental state...I'm fearful of putting my unborn child in danger. What doesn't help is that in my immediate environment here I don't know anyone who wants to or plans a VBAC, but instead all of the mothers I know personally plan a repeat section so I often am left doubting my decision. The hospital I'm delivering at has little less than 50% c-section rate and about 5% VBAC births (ie. 95% go in for ERCS). I've done a lot of reading, contacted ICAN and really enjoyed following the discussions on this website, and have felt very powerful and excited about VBACing, ...until today, I find myself kind of gloomy about the whole thing and worried about what if I fall into the small percentage that ends with UR. i guess these fears had to surface at one point, i really didn't think i was fearful of that...but today, i'm in need of some advise, encouragement and positive feedback from strong VBAC mamas
There are so many positive VBAC birth stories on here. Read up and try to get yourself in a more positive frame of mind. I think that's half the battle, thinking you CAN do it. Try not to let the hospital stats get you down. Being an informed birthing mama can help change those numbers. I imagine so many stats are skewed by first time mamas who haven't done their homework (I'm one of them) about the risks of epidurals, failed inductions, etc that lead to c/s. Second time around, we are wiser and do more to be advocates of ourselves.
It's great that your dr has given you two weeks past your DD. That too is a battle that lots of mamas face, so it's so good you've got your doc on your side.
Hang in there!
Just hang in there!
Sending you happy joyus labor vibes!
Sami , wife to , mama to Tate 10/14/05, Kaleb 12/17/07, Bram 3/13/10-11/17/12, Alden 2/1/12, October 2014
I know it can be hard when nobody around you understands what you are doing. I didn't know anyone else who had a homebirth, much less an HBAC, but I knew it was the best thing for us.
Try to savor the end of your pregnancy-maybe plan some special things each day to make time go by. You deserve it!
I'm gearing up for my 2nd VBAC. Sometime in May.
My first VBAC went well. Have faith in strength your body holds.
The best thing I remember being told during labor was during transition. I was almost ready to throw in the towel. Literally I said, "I dont think I can do this anymore". My Dula calmly said that means you are almost done. My daughter was born in 30 minutes.........
Afterwards I felt so strong. I was so high on life it was amazing! I felt like I could run a marathon. I was sooooo happy and one of the best things was i didnt have a sugery to recover from. I didnt have to take meds that made me loopy. I didnt have to hold my tummy to simply sit up in my bed. I did have skid marks but they were so worth it.
You can do it! Hang in there!!!
It's good your OB will go to 42 weeks. Most won't. Personally, with my VBAC (and I'm a homebirth VBAC) I'm choosing to go to 43 weeks if that is what it takes, but that's my choice, based on the research I have done, and it's, I believe, a personal decision. Due dates are approx, so don't worry if you do go past it, and no labor, dilation, etc. Of what I know, it's is QUITE normal for a mom to not dilate at all till labor. So vaginal exams are typically not that helpful. I was 4 cm at 39 weeks, and didn't go into labor till 41+3.
About the risks of VBAC, according to the NIH conference where they had tons and tons of specialists researching all the studies, they found that 18 months from previous birth to birth of the VBAC baby is more accurate than 24 months between pregnancies. I also wouldn't worry about that because according to Birth After Cesarean by Bruce Flamm, a scar takes about 42 days to fully heal. So if your uterus was not stretching from the day after surgery to day 42, I wouldn't worry, that's about a month and a half between last birth and 1 or two months into subsequent pregnancy.
Those are just the facts. It's great you have a Doula, and it's also WONDERFUL that you are expressing your fears, aware that you have them, and asking for help, and reaching out for healing. No matter how silly your fears may be, it's great that you are expressing them. I'd talk this over with your Doula too, and ask her what her thoughts are, and what information she has, and where you can find more information.
Much Love, Happy Birthing!
Mom to James ( 5/2006), Claire ( 6/2008), furry kitties Calvin and Bob, and wife to Dennis.
my OB is amazing and supportive. he feels strongly about VBACing best carried out as a natural birth, no intervention, so he is against inducing. now, "all i have to do" is get started with labor and because the hospital has the constant monitoring requirement, I'll hopefully do most of the laboring at home. I'm really happy that my OB is letting me bring my birth ball to the labor and delivery room and he has no problems with me moving around and changing positions. I asked him if I could choose the position I want for pushing and he is totally fine with that. I feel like I'm in great hands with my doula and the OB and thank you all on this website for embracing me and helping me sort out my fears
My VBAC was 10 days past my EDD, and those 10 days felt like an eternity! I was terrified that I would end up with another c section at 42 weeks because my body failed to go into labor. But guess what... it did. Those ten days, the stress and tears, and yes cold feet, were so worth it to have an awesome VBAC.
Hang in there mama, your little one will be here before you know it
always missing our (11/04, 4/07, 8/07, 5/10)
We walked for miles that week and the day I went into labor I had walked a total of 6 miles, lol.
Effacement is great! you'll get there soon!
re: castor oil? gross! I tried it last time and it made me sick and didn't start labor.
Canadian mom of Myron born in Japan, March 2007. Our second son born at home, wonderful HBAC in July 2010. I am a jeweller, I love creating things!
1***5****10****15****20****25****30****35***40****45, Due June 10th, 2014
Glad you stuck it out!!
Momma to DD (12/04) and DS (11/09) .
I survived 16 mos! Ask me about breastfeeding a baby with posterior tongue tie, high palate, and weak oral motor skills- whew!
Congrats again on your new blessing and your lovely birth story!!
Kelly, married to the love of my life, Den , DD1 5/07 , 11/07, DD2 10/08 , DDS 8/10, expecting our next blessing this winter!