Well I never thought I'd be here again, but after a bit, I am expecting dear child #3 in Jan 2011. I had a vaginal hospital birth with DD, then my son was a planned Home birth. My son flipped at 40 weeks and was full breech during labor and after my water broke, so there was no way my midwife would deliver him at home. I had a mentally traumatic, but physically pretty routine, c-section. The whole thing left me with a bad taste in my mouth. All that preparation, only to end up back at the damn hospital.
Well fast forward almost two years and now I am looking at options. I went to my first "nurse visit" today at the M.D.'s and I was so not excited about going back. The doc is ok, I guess, but the whole experience was depersonalizing. And honestly even the "best" hospital birth turns me off. I'm resentful about the hospital owning the process and taking control of my experience. I'm already irritated and I'm not even 8 weeks preg! Imagine how this is going to build as I go on through the pregnancy.
So I came to say Hi, chat and maybe learn something. I could go through the whole hospital business, and then just, stay home during labor and see how hard it is... I guess unattended birth after a c-sec is irresponsible. Uterine rupture and all that. But I'm already dreading it and I am thinking that way.
Sane alternatives, anyone? I wonder if I can still have the homebirth of my dreams.
Good luck, you do have options!!!
Wife to DH 8/2003; Momma to DS 5/2007 ; DD 5/1/2010 !
I would love to hear your birth story. Thanks for the resources and support. I think I know what the right thing to do is, but it's hard to find people who agree.
Hospitals, generally speaking are not VBAC friendly. Another reason to avoid...
I don't see why you shouldn't have a homebirth. Based upon your feelings towards hospitals (which I agree with ), it sounds like your best shot for a peaceful birth is at home. Utilizing the above mentioned resources, I would also look for a MW that is experienced in vaginal breech birth. An auto c/s for breech presentation is an outdated policy that is based on a bad study. More info here.
However, I am concerned about the MW not being willing to catch breech, or find someone else who could. I may be spoiled by having one of the most experienced MWs in the area as my MW, but I feel like MWs *should* be catching breeches, twins, etc. I'm so sorry yours wouldn't do it. Perhaps there are other midwives in your area who may be a good fit?
HeatherB ~ mama to 3 wonderful boys: 03/02; 09/04; 09/07 - and Eliana, 11/13/10!
Founder of Houston Birth Alternatives: Be Informed, Encouraged, Supported birth support group and aspiring midwife.
Kaiti, in with Shane, astrological mama to Sophie *12.27.05*, Maya *09.25.07*, Phoenix *08.23.09* & due *12.04.11* Having a after 3 cesareans!
SAHM to Kaylynn 12, Alec 10, Gideon 5 and Silas my hba2c baby born 4/12/10!
I had a lovely HBAC in November with a CPM. It can be done! I am with you on the 'bad taste' from the hospital experience. The homebirth was easy and very mellow and I'd do it again in a heartbeat. I had a bit of shadow care from a local Dr. but for the most part, care was with the m/w. It was nice to avoid all the pointless pee-on-a-stick appointments that lasted all of two minutes.
ETA: I'm 36, almost 37 (FWIW) and here's my HBAC birthstory: http://www.mothering.com/discussions....php?t=1169909
I came back after a period of time and saw all these supportive messages. Since then I've had another discouraging visit with an OB. He is actually quite reasonable, encourages "trying" a VBAC, but I know how these things usually go. I'm already cringing. Did I mention that I hate the damn hospital?
I will be in the process of finding a midwife, I think. I'll post back to this thread and let you know how it goes. The section was such a disappointment, you know. That had been a picture-perfect pregnancy and DS's positioning was ideal right until 3 days before launch. If I had had a different midwife, I wouldn't be going through these spasms of anxiety right now. However, I did and still do like my midwife and think she provided excellent support and prenatal care. Even so, I will be looking around for other HBAC options.
I do so appreciate these thoughtful responses. You are all so encouraging. You put heart back in me. Thank you.
This time, we are HBACing, after interviewing 9 MWs (which I did in a matter of about 3 weeks) I chose a CPM who had an HBAC with her second after a CS with her first for the same reasons we did. It's all about trusting your body and baby and really listening to what is going on (even with uterine rupture).
I had to have a stern talk with my baby and body a few times and to tell them that they know how to do this and they are going to do everything right as far as positioning goes, etc. I also do Chiro care, which I hear helps TONS with breech babies.
It's really about putting your mind at ease and feeling secure that your birth is going to go the way it's supposed to, and that's not a huge medical procedure and not an accident waiting to happen either.
Canadian mom of Myron born in Japan, March 2007. Our second son born at home, wonderful HBAC in July 2010. I am a jeweller, I love creating things!
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I am 40 and expecting #4; this pregnancy is sandwiched between dc3 (who is 4) and a very emotionally draining m/c in 08. My dc3 was an unplanned, emergency C-section. I had an infection two days after birthing and ran a temp of 105; had a horrible time after birth, healing. UGH.
My first visit with my OB left me almost in tears, as he told me that he prefers to do scheduled c-section. NO way. To be fair I am expecting to get my tubes tied after this baby, so it would be easier for HIM.
I told him how opposed I am to the whole scheduled c thing, and he said, "well, I'm open to discussing a VBAC, but you tend to have big babies and if that scar ruptures, it's a mess for you and the baby." Wha? It's been a long time since I've researched birthing and safety but I'm pretty the rupture scenario is remote (I have a bikini scar).
Dh is hesitant to have hb, and I honor and respect that; however, I am wanting to do anything I can in order to avoid another c-section. Will be contacting the midwives group here (CNMs) and talk with them in a couple of weeks.
An update- it took some time and some hunting around, but I found out that a fantastic midwife and her apprentice - who helped me the first time around are now doing primary HBACs. So I'm back on track.
What a relief. I was never happy during the whole pregnancy, dreading the hospital experience. It isn't impossible that I won't end up back there, but I'm a great candidate for VBAC and I think it's unlikely.
In any case, I'll post back in Jan. 2011 when baby arrives. It's interesting to note that they (this team of CNMs) are also now willing to take on the risk of delivering (frank, uncomplicated) breech births at home. I think my previous experience had something to do with the investigation of this possibility.
To all of you still trying to figure out this riddle, keep looking for a safe HB option. My midwife and her apprentice provide a standard of care that improves wellness for my whole family. And I'm so relieved to know I don't have to grab a suitcase and head out into a Wisconsin blizzard when I'm in labor, that I'm sure labor will go much smoother.
Wish me luck Mamas! And thanks for the kind words and support last summer! How is everyone else doing with their decision and options?
BEST WISHES TO YOU!
Hooray! We welcomed DS2 yesterday morning in our own home. It was a terrific, wonderful, happy, healing HBAC and I am so glad we did it this way.
Our two oldest got to watch their brother be born, I labored in the tub (for 6 hours, only) and baby brother was caught by his Papa. It was fantastic.
We are going back to bed now for a babymoon but I thought I'd tell you all a happy story. Everyone is delighted with the outcome, especially me! Definately the most comfortable birth and best birth I've had, out of the three, and if I would have #4 I would do this again! Keep trying for your VBAC Mamas, find a provider who will work with you and don't give up.
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