I just found out my SIL had a successful VBAC, and while I am SO PROUD of her, I am also SO JEALOUS. (I had a "failed" VBAC in 2010.) She wasn't even going to try- her MD told her she had only a 10% chance of success, but after I told her about the safety and benefits, she decided to go for it. Also, I'm now pregnant with my third (only 6w, she doesn't know about it yet), and having a difficult stressful time finding a VBA2C provider... of course I didn't want her to have another section, but I'm feeling rather miserable about her success too. Hope someone can identify with me, thanks for listening.
My SIL had a totally great normal birth with a 6 hour epi and no complications what so ever, and she has complained ever since about how hard her birth was. She didn't even try to BF, not even for the first day or anything. A mere 6 weeks before, I had my CS to my total disappointment and all the ensuing complications including pumping for months while BF only worked by an absolute miracle of G_d. She still reminds me of "how easy" it is to have a CS and how I'm "so lucky" I got one. I had to bite my feelings back (and on several occaisions, my tongue), but now I can talk to her about it without hard feelings. It gets easier, I promise. Although, I have to protest at the "CS is so awesome" comments, still can't let that one slide...
We all a little whine now and then...
Slightly crunchy mama of three, one cs, one ubac, one vbac. Planning a vbac in October. Bookworms anonymous member.
I totally get where you're coming from! I also had a failed VBAC attempt in 2010 and when my baby was 9 months old, my friend had a relatively quick vaginal birth with her first child. While I was thrilled that she had her baby and her story didn't end like mine, I had those feelings of jealousy and anger come up. Eventually, once I saw that beautiful little face, It went away.
Mama to Keegan and Rhiannon