|with the OB we saw today there seemed to be no reason, since she insisted that there is no way I can give birth to a baby over 9 lbs
ARGH! I so wish for you that OBs weren't such idiots when it came to "big" babies - and I really do mean "big" as in supposedly big. I haven't had shoulder dystocia - then again I've never actually given birth. I have a wonderful 18 mo old ds, but haven't the foggiest idea what a contraction feels. I never went into labor b/c I was given the same spiel you are being given now about my "big" baby. I was coerced into a primary c/s (elective on my part according to my records, but that's a WHOLE nother can 'o worms).
Here's the deal...what you described from the birth of your first sounds nothing like "shoulder dystocia". It sounds more like OB dystocia in that their amt of patience as compared to the amt of time your body/baby needed to give birth was off.
|I just saw an OB and she thinks that I have a 50% of delivering vaginally
I'm amazed she even gave you a 50% chance. Most OBs wouldn't have even given you that much. She's giving you a very clear indication here. Even if she were to "let" you go into labor (and BTW, no one "lets" you do anything when it comes to the birth of your child - you let them!) you can probably already begin to hear the things that she is going to be telling you to undermine your ability to birth your baby. So...kudos to you!! You've read her right and are starting to look for another care provider. That's certainly your first step!
I think that eating right is a wonderful thing to strive for and very important for the health of you and your child, but please - don't go crazy! The fact of the matter is - your body (unless you have GD, which it doesn't sound like you do) won't grow a baby it can't birth! You are living testament to that! If our bodies were so flawed that we couldn't give birth safely w/out extensive medical intervention, none of us would be here even discussing this!
[QUOTE]- she will not allow me to go even one more day past my EDD if she suspects a large baby.[\QUOTE]
This, unfortunately, represents a very sinister undercurrent in our present birthing climate. It's beginning to represent a VERY large chunk of "elective" c/s. I would suggest that you familiarize yourself with the term "suspected fetal macrosomia" aka big baby. Do a search on any search engine for "fetal macrosomia" - it will be eye opening. One of many you will find is a 2001 study done by the AAFP. You can find it here: http://www.aafp.org/afp/20010115/302.html
|- she does a measurement of the pelvis and measures the baby's head about 38 wks. If the ratio is not within her comfort level she will want me to have a C-section.
This is another one of those crazy things that some OBs do that really provides NO USEFUL INFORMATION, other than it's a great way to scare someone in to doing what you want them to do. She can measure your pelvis all she wants, but that is NOT A RELIABLE indicator of whether or not a baby will "fit" through your pelvis! There is absolutely NO WAY she can predict how your labor will go based on this. Women's bodies are amazing in that they can stretch and change to accomodate a baby on it's way out to meet the world! Not only that, but the position you give birth in has an impact how much room a baby has to twist and turn its way out. It's amazing how something as simple as getting on your hands and knees or squatting can give the babe more room.
Pre-labor checks for dilation are another one of those things OBs like to do that provides NO USEFUL INFORMATION and is NOT A RELIABLE predictor!
And, last, but not least, RUN, don't walk your way over to www.ican-online.org
. They have OODLES of info on their website that I'm certain you will find helpful - including some things to consider when choosing a care provider. They also have an email list that I am very confident you will find helpful. It'll be a little bit like drinking from a fire hose, but I know you'll find it worth the time and effort. Oh...and take a look to see if there is an ICAN chapter in your area. They'll be able to give you a better picture of the birthing climate in your area and maybe even give you some suggestions on providers.
HTH! Remember, YOU CAN BIRTH THIS BABY!