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Oh, mama! Hugs.
Yk, I think that we all have regrets about our births and we all feel failed somewhere along the way - even 'successful' VBACs can leave a mama feeling unsuccessful for having chosen pain relief, know what I mean?
It's okay to mourn, no matter what the circumstance - especially since being hungry and exhausted changes who we are, our briain chemistry, our reactions etc...so that when we look back while we are rested and fed, we can feel such regret and confusion and betrayal.
Labour isn't life. It's not who you are, it's a process and a journey just like all the other things we do, and learn. It's adds to our human experience and shapes how we respond in the future, but it doesn't define us. No one experience defines an entire woman, so be gentle with yourself. Be kind and be soft.
Kate: fumbling through the best years with W, L, F & V...newest arrival coming Jan '11