Join Date: May 2007
Location: South Sound, WA
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I was induced because the 37 week u/s showed a big baby. He wasn't,but that's another story.
Anyway, very similar story to yours, with a posterior baby, failure to progress, labored flat on my back for 12 hours. Everyone telling me it was the shape of my body and big baby that made birth impossible for me.
I did a LOT of research and found a new hospital and doctor,since a midwife is not an option in my area. Was told constantly that my body would not support a vaginal birth.
I labored at home as long as possible with a doula. Showed up at the hospital fully dialated with baby nearly crowning. STILL got lectured by the staff for my dangerous behavior of not being in the hospital and accepting the interventions. Delivered naturally my 8lb boy 30 minutes later with no complication or drugs! Then got lectured the whole way to the recovery wing about my reckless behavior of trusting the process and my body.
Even with an example before them of a relaxed, uncomplicated pregnancy and uncomplicated delivery, I still couldn't get any support from the hospital. But who cares? I knew, my doula knew, and my husband knew we were making rational, sound decisions.
IF you want to labor and trust your body, then you have to study up on the facts and be assertive. Try to find a supportive provider, but never give your power away to make good decisions for yourself.
Just as a note, I did have a backup plan in case of complications. I knew as many of the signs of labor problems as I could, and made sure my doula and husband knew too. So if there was any sign that more medical help might be needed, we had a plan for getting that help. I made my peace in case another c/s was needed. I just made sure that it was a final resort, and not a first convenience for the doctors.
Know thyself and trust thyself. Hang in there!