Seriously...how are your vaginas? - Mothering Forums

Forum Jump: 
Reply
 
Thread Tools
#1 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 01:38 AM - Thread Starter
 
IHeartO's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2008
Posts: 71
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Okay. I have great girlfriends and we pretty much let it all hang out in our discussions about birth and beyond, but there is one thing that I am not sure we are honest about and that is our vaginas (vulvas, perineums). I recently gave birth for the first time (4 months ago), and after hearing everyone say that they were "back to normal" regardless of their birth stories.

I, unfortunately, ended up with an epiosiotomy - my midwife stated that she was avoiding what looked like it might be a 3 degree tear - that and my son's heartrate was low and slow to recover in between the last contractions and there was meconium etc. In any case, I just don't feel "back to normal" and I'm pretty sure I won't. I think maybe I have had unrealistic expectations of what "normal" would be after birth. Should I have expected to heal completely or is it just "normal" that your vagina (vulva or perineum) will never be the same again - after all I did just push out a baby!!

Any thoughts and honest opinions are appreciated.
IHeartO is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
#2 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 01:49 AM
 
NokomisThree's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: Nokomis Florida
Posts: 96
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I agree that most of the discussions on this seem to be a bit candy coated. My stuff is NOT back to normal-First baby 7 months ago. And for me it wasn't even the small tear. It almost like my vagina was a puzzle and it was put back together with one extra piece. I had the flashy golf ball hangin out for a couple months, I still sometimes feel a tiny bit of pee squirt out when i sneeze, my clitoris seems smaller, the list goes on and on.
Now, the problem with talking about this, especially among women who had C-sections, is that they tend to point to these issues as justification for C's. :
I will tell you that at about 4 months, I felt the worst. That was when it was the worst and it's been getting better since. I'm hoping that about the same time I've lost all the baby weight, all of me will be back to "normal."
NokomisThree is offline  
#3 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 01:52 AM
 
fairejour's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2004
Posts: 915
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My baby was literally stuck in my vagina for 2 hours. We eventually had a failed forceps (pulled 3 times) and then a c-section. For 6 months, when having sex or using a tampon I could feel exactly where she had been. There was a circle of pain, iritated area 3/4 the way in my vagina.
fairejour is offline  
#4 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 02:00 AM
 
jjawm's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2007
Posts: 1,407
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My vagina is better than ever. Honestly! Intercourse used to be painful occasionally, but now I've loosened up, and everything is much nicer. So for me childbirth really helped.

I did have an episiotomy, and it healed up well after a few weeks.
jjawm is offline  
#5 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 02:09 AM
 
milkmamamerina's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2008
Posts: 219
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
with my 1st I had what I refer to as a blow out. My midwife couldn't even tell me how many stitches. She just said "a lot". 6 months out I still was in too much pain to have sex. It felt like I was smaller somehow. So my midwife referred me to a physical therapist specialist who worked at stretching the tissue that was tightened due to scar tissue. I took about 2 months of weekly visits and I was "back in business" so to speak. and yet things were still different. My clitoris was hard to find, and there was definitely a bit of a stretched out look and feel to things. Add nursing hormones to that and sex was not really that great, at least for me.

Now with baby #2 I only had an episiotomy instead of being ripped to shreds like before. Despite pushing the 10 lbs bundle of joy though my hoohah, I'm relatively the same as prior to my pregnancy with her.

::: Mama to Feingold target: Sebastian(10/05) and Savannah, my allergy princess (b 6/08). Avoiding dairy, corn, soy, oats, sesame, eggs, nuts, seafood, and banana
milkmamamerina is offline  
#6 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 02:09 AM
 
liliaceae's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2007
Posts: 1,946
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I had a first degree tear and everything seemed to go back to normal once it was healed.

lady.gifMama to DS banana.gif(5) and DD broc1.gif(2)
 

liliaceae is offline  
#7 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 02:28 AM
 
NokomisThree's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: Nokomis Florida
Posts: 96
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Just wondering...could this be age-related at all? I'm 37 with first babe and it's taking a while to heal even though I only had a small 1st degree tear and baby practically shot out of me.
NokomisThree is offline  
#8 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 02:33 AM
 
Aubergine68's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: in the soul's garden
Posts: 2,882
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
It has been 2.5 years since my last of three vaginal deliveries and my vagina is fine. Had an episiotomy with my first and a couple of stiches with a tear with my second.

Honestly, I felt more sensitivity there after vaginal childbirth than I ever did before. In a very good way, I mean
Aubergine68 is offline  
#9 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 04:05 AM
 
liliaceae's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2007
Posts: 1,946
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by NokomisThree View Post
Just wondering...could this be age-related at all? I'm 37 with first babe and it's taking a while to heal even though I only had a small 1st degree tear and baby practically shot out of me.
Could be, I was 26 when my son was born.

lady.gifMama to DS banana.gif(5) and DD broc1.gif(2)
 

liliaceae is offline  
#10 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 08:28 AM
 
phatchristy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2005
Location: Controlled chaos...
Posts: 9,037
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by IHeartO View Post
Okay. I have great girlfriends and we pretty much let it all hang out in our discussions about birth and beyond, but there is one thing that I am not sure we are honest about and that is our vaginas (vulvas, perineums). I recently gave birth for the first time (4 months ago), and after hearing everyone say that they were "back to normal" regardless of their birth stories.
I think cosmetically things will be different for most women. In terms of function sexually I think there can still be a ways to go even 4 months after birth. Do you do any kegel exercises? For me that seems to be what gets things back on track after birth.

And, I DTD only a couple of weeks after my second (no tears with the last two births), and there was a definite difference in terms of muscle strength and tightness at that point...but things 'got back to normal' after I had used my kegel exerciser.

Honestly, here in a lot of respects here it is better with regards to sex. Since my 'hymen was blown' (maybe that's the term I'll use) I don't seem to get the same irritation during intercouse that I used to when it was prolonged.

In terms of orgasm, etc. things are as good as they ever were, if not better actually. I can't tell how much of that is the birth or the fact that I'm probably around the stereotypical sexual peak for women. LOL

I've actually had more complaints from women who had sensations of being 'too tight'...claiming that their OB used a 'husband stitch' or that overly agressive suturing left them with so much scar tissue. I don't know if it is why I've been OK, but when it came to my first birth where I had a first degree tear stitched I believe that the mw was rather conservative with how she stitched it. I don't seem to have much scar tissue at all there.

It does seem like most women who have an episiotomy have much more difficulty down there with pain as well. My good friend had one with her first, and it was over a year before she felt Ok about intercourse again. My mom apparently had one with all her kids. As did my SIL. Their experiences healing and with pain/intercourse sound rather horrible in comparison to the majority of moms I know who birth naturally and only rarely or occasionally have stitches for minor tearing.

As for someone who commented about c-section mom's using it as justification...well, I've met c-section moms who have had a lot of pain with intercourse after their section...for months. They too can develop scar tissue. Some women can also have pain that lasts permanently, and intercourse sensations do change for them as well. I've known a couple who have said they were amazed at how much pain they had afterwards. Again--it's a matter of scar tissue. Exterior vaginal and perineal scar tissue is a lot *easier* to treat than internal scar tissue.

I really think all of this is so variable.

Perpetually breastfeeding or pregnant ENFP mom to a lot of kids...wife to a midwestern nice guy...living in tropical paradise...pink cats and homebirths rock!

phatchristy is offline  
#11 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 10:24 AM
 
tireesix's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2006
Posts: 2,257
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
At 27 and after 3 children, 3 second degree tears, I can honestly say am a ruddy mess down there. To make it worse, I now have a prolapse.

Not long after DH and I got together I developed vestibulitis, sex was a nightmare, very painful, first birth reduced the symptoms but the birth was traumatic (mentally, it still affects sex) and my tear wasn't sewn properly, so sex was again difficult. After second birth, my previous crap repair was dealt with but sex was still an issue to the mental aspect of first birth. I was feeling great after most recent birth, but the discovery of the prolapse and seeing my perineum in such a state has made me wonder whether I will ever have enjoyable sex or ever feel comfortable about myself.

I feel like a wreck. Part of the problem is my health problem which can cause tissue fragility and that together with pregnancy has pretty much ruined my body. If I had been diagnosed pre-children, I wouldn't have had any, not for vanity issues but the physical problems it has caused.
tireesix is offline  
#12 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 12:30 PM
 
Haselnuss's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2008
Posts: 358
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
3 vaginal births, the last one 4 years ago - I honestly think mine is back to normal, although I guess it's possible I don't remember what "normal" was. I had no tears, though, and have done tons of kegels, so that may explain it. Things look a bit different, but feel the same.
Haselnuss is offline  
#13 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 12:33 PM
 
Amila's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: Hellertown, PA
Posts: 2,668
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
With both babies, it seemed to snap back to normal within 6 weeks. Sometimes it actually feels tighter during intercourse. Who knew? I only had minimal tearing with DD ( 3 stitches?) and no tears with DS.

Amy, mommy to Ava, 6, Gavin, 4, Lila, 2, and Baby #4 due in early November! joy.gif
Amila is offline  
#14 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 12:57 PM - Thread Starter
 
IHeartO's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2008
Posts: 71
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
well if nothing else I find this discussion refreshing! I am curious to know what the "flashy golf ball" is referring to as I think that might be what I am experiencing...and I love that someone else uses the word "hoohah" . I think the reason I like the responses so far is the acknowledgement that things can look different, but feel the same - largely this is how I feel about my situation. My episiotomy site isn't perfect, but for the most part feels okay. I have been doing lots of kegels and generally feel like I could bench press a few reps with my vagina, it just looks and feels different on the outside - a bit more exposed you might say. My husband claims it feels fine to him and although I have asked him to be really honest, I still suspect he is only going to say that! As to the age related question, I suspect so as well - my midwife was always talking about 20-something vaginas compared to 30-something vaginas - mine is also of the latter!
IHeartO is offline  
#15 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 01:21 PM
 
ShadowMoon's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: Rhode Island
Posts: 1,390
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I've only had one vaginal birth with no tears and honestly it feels about the same as before and only looks slightly different. As someone said previously..a bit more exposed would be a good way to describe it but nothing I don't mind. I think it really depends on how traumatic the birth was on that region....and men won't be all that concerned as long as it's functional and they're getting some attention lol

S~ Peace loving, natural living, FuNkY vegan mama to Keiran bouncy.gif 23/Dec/06:
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" ~~ MLK
ShadowMoon is offline  
#16 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 01:44 PM
 
diamond lil's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2003
Location: Toddlerville
Posts: 1,933
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My vagina and I are no longer on speaking terms.

Seriously.

We used to have a really good relationship. We used to spend quality time together. We took long walks on the beach and had some really fun times together.

*Sigh* Those were the days...

Since the natural birth of my DD three months ago and the subsequent 2nd degree tear and resulting scar tissue, my vagina has shut me out. And my husband, too.

We've tried to normalize relations, but it's been difficult. There are good days and bad days.

I haven't given up on her. We're just taking it one day at a time.

ETA: Are there spas for vaginas? I'd like to buy my vagina a spa day for Christmas.
diamond lil is offline  
#17 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 02:11 PM
 
claddaghmom's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2008
Posts: 3,823
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
What a timely thread! DH and I just DTD! ::

It's been 23 days since my vaginal delivery. I had a 3rd degree tear and needed the sphincter re-done. Oooh that sounds weird lol.

Anyways, I can say that it wasn't painful at all. Didn't need lube. The only thing I noticed....TMI....my labia were stinging a bit, much like rug burn or chafing. I guess they need a bit more time to heal. My perineum/tear area didn't cause any problems at all. And IMO DTD was even better than pre-pregnancy! : It's as if I was more "in tune" with things down there and had more sensation.


There's also something of a turn on when you're trying to mess around quietly while the babe is asleep lol.

Mama to expecting Babe 2
claddaghmom is offline  
#18 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 02:39 PM
 
mama2annabelle's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2002
Location: florida
Posts: 688
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I think some people need more time to heal than they expect. I didn't feel "normal" after my first baby until about 9 or 10 months post partum. And DD was a tiny 6 lb baby, no tears or episiotomy. But still it took that long period of time for me to feel like I had fully healed. I healed quicker with both of my boys, but it still took to about the 6 month mark for me to feel back to how I was prepregnancy.
mama2annabelle is offline  
#19 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 02:40 PM - Thread Starter
 
IHeartO's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2008
Posts: 71
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
OMG - Lori, if you find a spa for your vagina please let me know - I'm laughing mine off right now!
IHeartO is offline  
#20 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 02:59 PM
 
Ceinwen's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2004
Location: The cold, crazy north
Posts: 2,599
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by diamond lil View Post
My vagina and I are no longer on speaking terms.

Seriously.

We used to have a really good relationship. We used to spend quality time together. We took long walks on the beach and had some really fun times together.

*Sigh* Those were the days...

Since the natural birth of my DD three months ago and the subsequent 2nd degree tear and resulting scar tissue, my vagina has shut me out. And my husband, too.

We've tried to normalize relations, but it's been difficult. There are good days and bad days.

I haven't given up on her. We're just taking it one day at a time.

ETA: Are there spas for vaginas? I'd like to buy my vagina a spa day for Christmas.


Oh my, this is exactly how I feel.

I had a fourth degree tear with my first and it required extensive repair, many MANY sutures, packing, at seven months post partum I was back at the midwives trying to figure out what was wrong down there.

I'm afraid she's broken for life. I've seen several specialists, including naturopaths and that route, but I have a lot of scar tissue, and things were definitely put back together 'puzzle like' as a pp described.

My poor vagina.

Full time working mom to two bright and busy little girls! treehugger.gif
Ceinwen is offline  
#21 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 03:18 PM
 
AlpineMama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2007
Posts: 1,780
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I'm 25 and had two babies. The first was a stuck baby with a nuchal hand, prolonged pushing. Resulted in a skidmark tear. Second baby, quick pushing, no tearing. With both we resumed DTD around... 3 weeks PP? Whenever the lochia stopped. For about a month with each it was so, so painful, I gritted my teeth through it all. But we kept on and soon it wasn't an issue. The only difference I noticed is that my outer labia are a bit loose, and I seem "shorter" which IS a bit problematic, but only in some positions.

The Sahara desert dryness is annoying though.
AlpineMama is offline  
#22 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 04:10 PM
 
MegBoz's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: Baltimore, MD
Posts: 2,063
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

I had a 1st degree tear. Really small. MW put 2 stitches in there, but said normally she wouldn't have stitched such a small tear - but it wouldn't stop bleeding. I pushed for about 40 min, so DS wasn't stuck there a while or anything. I'm 31 years old.

But DTD 10 weeks PP hurt- well, oral hurt, so we didn't move on. I apparently had a "skid mark" below my urethra. As another poster wrote, it felt like a "rug burn" - like an abrasion. Painful to have anything touch it.

Then I read that BFing can actually SLOW the healing process.
Um, yeah, that's not a very smart evolutionary outcome.

Now, at 4.5 mos PP, I'm trying not to think about it. I can take care of DH's needs without my vagina, so I'm going to wait until 6 mos before giving it a try again. Cuz I'd rather wait before trying & not worry about it for now - then try again & deal with the disappointment of feeling "rug burned" below my urethra. It's too hard to try to stimulate my clit & vagina without coming into contact at all with that skid mark spot.

Forgot to mention, I too feel like my vagina looks more "exposed" - used to be that you couldn't see the inside vaginal walls, but now they're visible. We did also DTD one other time & I felt tighter. We had expected dryness as a result of BFing, so we didn't even try without lube.
MegBoz is offline  
#23 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 04:47 PM
 
nummies's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: in a state of love
Posts: 3,145
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My vagina is much better than before. I had a 2nd degree tear at my DS's birth around 18 months ago.

It is one of those things that is different for every woman and different for every birth.

Three boys.  jumpers.gif
nummies is offline  
#24 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 05:01 PM
 
Mrsboyko's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2007
Posts: 1,702
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I had a c-section after 24 hours of labor, 3 attepmted forceps placements and attempted vaccume extraction. I truly felt like I had given birth 2 ways. I was no where near normal till 6-8 months out. The first time we DTD (8-10 weeks maybe) it felt like my cervix was too close to the outside and was being hit in a really bad spot. I had to make him stop and we didn't try again for another month.

Around the time when either my cervix moved back up or I tightened back up (like 6 months, when we could DTD again.) all of a sudden my labia began to shrink. I swear the outer labia disapeared. By about 12 months i had only a little majora in the front, nothing in the middle and even the minora was shrinking. Kinda disturbing and NOT something I have ever heard of happening. It pretty much stayed gone till Igot pregnant again. Now it is swelling and I have a fat vagina again. I wonder what will happen after this one?

Oh, anf FWIW, once the pain was gone, sex was better. I could never orgasm before with sex, but after birth I managed a few and boy was that fun.

W (26) and C (27) parenting G (11/06 ) and D (2/09 ) plus a new one (3/11)
Sometimes the greener grass is actually AstroTurf, a false promise and nothing more.
Mrsboyko is offline  
#25 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 06:55 PM
 
AugustLia23's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2004
Location: In the present
Posts: 3,552
Mentioned: 3 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Mine is great!! With my most recent baby, I didn't tear at all, and we resumed penetrating sex at 2-3 weeks pp, and it was lovely. I do think I look a bit different now, but not nearly a huge gaping hole, just a bit more accomodating Also, I don't feel like I'm all stretched out or anything, I feel perfectly satisfied by a normal "average" size penis, whatever that is. Friends of mine have stated that after birth they don't feel as satisfied by the size penis that had previously been good for them, that isn't the case for me. And I have taken good care to make sure that I keep my perineal and vaginal muscles toned.

Non Practicing Midwife, going back to school! Mamma to my 3 loves, living each day to the fullest.
AugustLia23 is offline  
#26 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 07:38 PM
 
laohaire's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2005
Posts: 7,115
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I only skimmed the answers. Seems like we run the gamut of experiences here.

Here's my totally honest, non-sugar-coated answer. I tore I think pretty bad with DD. Nobody told me what "degree" but I think 3rd degree, but maybe it was just a bad 2nd degree tear. I homebirthed but went to the ER afterwards to have an OB stitch me up. It took FOREVER, like he put 200 stitches in me (can't be, but gosh, it seemed like it).

DTD was very, very, very painful for 1 year.

Then it was better than ever. The tear healed, and DTD felt better since I wasn't as tight as before. It's not that I would want to go through that again but I'm happy with the ultimate results

Homeschooling mama to 6 year old DD.

laohaire is offline  
#27 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 07:45 PM
 
peainthepod's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: Chasing sanity
Posts: 2,242
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Mine is pretty awful. I'm scared to do too much manual exploring and there's no way I'm ready to look yet. I also have weird pressure inside that could swollen tissue or could be something else. And the hemorrhoids are brutal. I had a small perineal tear that required a few stitches but nothing too bad. I feel like a huge wimp after reading some of your stories!

But I'm only just over 2 weeks postpartum. Hoping things will get better soon--being sore like this is really draining and frustrating.

Loving wife partners.gif and mama to my sweet little son coolshine.gif (Fall 2008) and a beautiful baby girl babyf.gif(Fall 2010)

 

When a stupid man is doing something he is ashamed of, he always declares that it is his duty. --George Bernard Shaw

peainthepod is offline  
#28 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 09:21 PM
 
AutumnAir's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: In my head
Posts: 1,695
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I don't think mine will ever be 'right' again.
I had a huge medio-lateral episiotomy (the scar is 3 inches long, so practically the entire length of my vagina) and high forceps delivery. At 10.5 months PP we still have not DTD successfully, though the pain is only one of the reasons for that. My birth was very traumatic and I'm pretty sure that the procedures done were not necessary at all, but simply done to punish me for having attempted a homebirth.
My whole pelvic area, not just the vagina, aches when I walk or stand a lot - I think that's the result of the forceps. I'm also pretty sure I was stitched up too tight at the opening - it just doesn't feel anything like it used to.
As a PP said, my vagina and I are not on speaking terms any more. I don't touch or look at it - putting anything in there, even a tampon hurts a lot, and triggers flashbacks.
Poor vagina - I'll send her to a spa too...

Lisa - mama to Eleanor Rose 01/08 and Saoirse Lily 09/10
AutumnAir is offline  
#29 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 09:45 PM
 
MyBoysBlue's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Alberta Canada
Posts: 1,095
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Birth has improved my vagina. Before my first son was born I used to be sore after sex all the time. I didn't have stitches for either birth so I think I just got streatched out enough to improve my sex life.

Wife to DH, Mom to my Intact Boys DS1: Born 02 Pain Med Free Hospital Birth, BF'ed for 9 Months, Partially Vax'd DS2: Born 06 via UC, BF'ed 3 years 10 months, and UnVax'd
MyBoysBlue is offline  
#30 of 105 Old 11-26-2008, 10:00 PM
 
rachelsmama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Halifax, Nova Scotia
Posts: 1,560
Mentioned: 2 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 16 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by phatchristy View Post

As for someone who commented about c-section mom's using it as justification...well, I've met c-section moms who have had a lot of pain with intercourse after their section...for months. They too can develop scar tissue. Some women can also have pain that lasts permanently, and intercourse sensations do change for them as well. I've known a couple who have said they were amazed at how much pain they had afterwards. Again--it's a matter of scar tissue. Exterior vaginal and perineal scar tissue is a lot *easier* to treat than internal scar tissue.
I've had a c-section and I've had a vaginal birth with a 2nd degree tear, and my sex life recovered from the tear a lot faster than it recovered from the section. Things are a little different down there than they used to be, but not bad different, just older and wiser different.
rachelsmama is offline  
Reply

User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off