9 weeks ago, I tore (no epi with this babe!) 1st degree, maybe inch, inch and a half long. I was also about a week pp, constipation is what popped mine I healed so well and so FAST. I did not do the sitz baths, I poured catnip and rosemary tea over my bottom after peeing and kept it dry the rest of the time. I didn't want to "waterlog" my tissues, yk.
Now, it is much more open. Looks totally strange to me, but feels fine. I waited til I was about 3 weeks pp before I was truely brave enough to feel around and it is different, but not scary or bad I've even DTD a few times and it feels great. No problems at all in that department!
Hope that makes you feel a little better. I have a feeling it happens so much more than anyone would really think.