Mama to DS (6/07) , DD (6/09) , and DD (07/12) ..
OTOH, there well may be other options for you to consider. Where I live there is one free-standing BC that will do waterbirth, one like you describe w/a tub but a "get out when pushing" rule, and homebirth midwives who are fine with waterbirths - and some who aren't. The hospitals mostly have 1 or 2 tubs, which you can get if you are lucky, but I don't think most of them permit birth in the tub.
Here as mama to W (2/04), R (5/06), D (7/09), and J (12/9/12!), co-parenting with my DH
I WOH part-time, am a doula & childbirth educator, home/unschool, and hope we are nearing the center of chaos
~Manessa mama to one teenageer, one tweenager, and a toddler
I think it's important to respect the birth center's right to decide what they are willing to do and what they are not willing to do. ... I see this as different from refusing standard procedures in a hospital setting because instead of declining something they want to do, you're asking them to do something they don't want to do.
OTOH, if you don't want to switch to HB & don't have another birth center to consider (I have NO birth centers within an hour's drive of me!) then maybe it won't be so bad to only labor in the tub. I labored in the pool in my backyard before going to the hospital. It was awesome! I know I've read that scientific research shows immersion in water to be effective pain relief. But I didn't mind having to push on "dry land." & you could still catch your own baby without the water birth.
From what others have posted, this is probably the exception rather than the rule - my MW is a little on the rebellious side.
|up until a few months back, it was supposed to be "labor in the tub, get out to push." However, she has mentioned quite a few times that sometimes mamas didn't make it out of the tub, and it sounds like they didn't do all that much to "help" them.|
So they have this rule. The question you have to ask is, how strictly do they enforce it. Maybe they enforce it 100% because they are scared of the consequences - maybe they have to *tell* you the rule but can look the other way and say "oops" with moms who really feel strongly in the moment. They may not be able to give you the answer you want straight out, but there are many situations where the midwives will "wink, wink" at you, even as they are informing you what the policy is.
Its not just waterbirth. I've heard of midwives saying something like, "well, you are not supposed to eat in labor at the hospital" by which they mean "just don't do it in front of the nurses"... And same thing for having your water break - my CNM said 12 hours was the limit for labor to start after AROM, but when I challenged that policy, it became clear (but not stated aloud) that she would be perfectly happy if I delayed the ticking clock by not calling her right away.
Its a really tough situation. As pp's have said, homebirth is the only way to *truly* get out from what the medical establishment dicates. Even then, state laws place restrictions on it (in NJ, attending an HBAC is illegal). But if homebirth is not an option, I hope things can still work out wonderfully for you at the birth center.
BTW, I totally thought I would use the tub for birth #2, and by the time I got to the hospital I was so far along I didn't want to do ANYTHING except lie on the bed and try not to die while pushing. And my birth was perfect, I wouldn't change a thing. So you never know!
I would ask why and likely look for another provider.
Then again I LOVED my 3 waterbirths And could not imagine giving birth on land again.
Mom to a bright & energetic 6 y.o. boy With my sweetie for 10 years now Registered nurse
It sounds crazy, but I wouldn't blame the facility so much as the insurance companies. : Malpractice insurance companies are the ones that put so much pressure on medical professionals to "play it safe" for every situation in the first place. It's about one thing and one thing only - $$$. If it were about the safety of the baby, they would do more research and see that many other labor & birth methods out there are far more dangerous than water birth.
That really sucks that they won't let you deliver in the tub. I had seen a few threads like this around and asked my MW. She said that hospitals don't allow it so I guess that means that some centers will allow it! She did say that if she sees or feels like something needs her attention she would ask me to get out, she said those cases are the minority.
I would keep looking around. I think you should be able to find something. I am delivering in "the hospital" but its kinda its own thing too. If you have time call around and see what you can find!
I'm crunchy... Like a Dorito.
Mama to Sprout 4.09 and Bruises 7.11 handfasted to 9.07
Hospital midwives and freestanding birth centers are being restricted by insurance requirements - its not their fault, and we're lucky any of them are still practicing with all the garbage they have to deal with.
...They may not be able to give you the answer you want straight out, but there are many situations where the midwives will "wink, wink" at you, even as they are informing you what the policy is.
Hospital policy was also routine induction at 42 weeks. When I was 41W3D on a Thursday, she said, "So are you going to let us induce you on Monday?"
Before I could even answer, she said, "I went to 43W with one of mine & it was fine."
Love her! So she basically "said" she didn't agree with routine induction at 42W AND she confirmed that she knows the decision is mine (By saying "Are you gonna let us induce." Instead of saying, "You need to be induced on Monday.)
The only thing I would change about my birth is that I wanted video of the birth (hosptial policy is no video until baby is born & stable- which is an ACOG recommendation.) I suspect that if DH just filmed anyway, at least this MW wouldn't be too insistent in telling him to shut off the camera. Of course, I want an HB for #2, so no worries anyway!