Originally Posted by GAjenn
After reading all of your replies I am saddened by some of your hospital experiences. Disrespect from doctors and nurses, unwanted meds, sharing of rooms, and that is just a small part. I think if I faced what some of you have, I would be passionate about home birthing as well. I just wish that home birth articles and posts were more about being positive about that experience and less about generalizations about horrible hospitals and doctors.
I was passionate about homebirth and have never had a hospital birth myself, and was passionate enough about it that I decided on having a homebirth 5 years before I ever found myself pregnant. I am passionate about women reclaiming their power and directing their fate, experiencing life to the fullest. I am passionate about bringing new life into the wold in a loving and gentle manner. I am passionate about respecting the primal nature of body and mind by birthing in my own environment, embraced by familiar scents, surroundings, and the select chosen few whom will accompany along my labor journey. I am passionate about having my choices and needs respected and catered to while engaging in the difficult yet exhilarating work that childbirth is.
When it comes down to it, I believe that hospitals are for sick and injured people and that pregnancy and birth are neither illness or injury. I would believe this if every woman on MDC and every client I assisted had an amazing self-directed labor, birth, and postpartum period in the hospital. However, the fact that VERY FEW women I know or have even heard about have satisfactory hospital experiences...
Which is why an automatic comparison between the homebirth and hospital birth inevitably begins. These aren't negative generalizations about OBs and hospital policy. Maternity care in the USA is in a state of CRISIS. It has been for a long time, and doesn't seem to be getting better. In my city, I'd say you have a 4-5 out of 10 chance of surgical birth. I can't help but include what I know about hospital birth through research and have witnessed firsthand when asked "Why Homebirth?". Today's obstetric practices have earned their reputation at the expense of many women and babies, and certainly deserving of a harsh critique.
|I do plan on reading some of your suggestions and hope that all of you get the birth experiences you wish for without looking down upon those of us who like our hospital births.
I don't look down on anyone who likes their hospital birth. As a woman and as a doula, I trust that women are intelligent enough to make their own decisions. They may not be the decisions I would make, but if you are informed and educated and make decisions based on information/education combined with the strength of your own convictions and not the influence of others/desire to please, then I applaud you. Unfortunately, many people research buying a new car more than they do birthing options - not saying that this is you or anyone else in this thread - but I know plenty of people who approach their birth as such. And you know what? That is also their decision to prioritize in such a way and I have no business criticizing them for that either. However, when someone relates their birth story, tells me about their huge episiotomy, how thirsty they were the whole time, and how annoying and pushy their nurse was, them proceeds to say that the birth was 'awesome', I can't help but raise an eyebrow.
Again - not saying that this was your experience or anyone who has posted their experience on this thread. I am happy and hopeful to see such positive hospital stories.