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I do not understand all of the articles and posts about home birthing. I do not feel as though my birthing experience was slighted emotionally or in any other way. Doctors and nurses are people who love delivering babies so much that they made the commitment to become educated and make it their career. The hospital staff was VERY supportive of breastfeeding during our stay and after (following up with the on staff lactation consultant). I was not offered formula, but received a bag with baby stuff, a homemade knit cap, breast pads, and several baby books. I feel a deep connection with the women who helped me bring my baby into the world.
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Keep in mind that MDC is a place that natural-minded parents can come and receive support and information about the options available to them. Postings on homebirthing are quite atypical anywhere else, thus anyone interested in homebirth can get a ton of information here....It's good that your hospital experience was wonderful. Mine was as well, but I would likely choose a homebirth in the future. Why? Because I understand the process now and feel quite confident (as did all the women of history before birthing became medicalized) that I can do it either by myself or with a nice midwife companion. Most mommas who choose a homebirth are not coming from a terrible hospital experience--most are simply choosing that path from the beginning. Of those who have a bad taste for hospitals, isn't it great that there is all this support for them here?
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How about: "Why hospital birth? I had a wonderful home birth!"

Two sides of the same coin, OP.
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I do not understand all of the articles and posts about home birthing. I do not feel as though my birthing experience was slighted emotionally or in any other way. Doctors and nurses are people who love delivering babies so much that they made the commitment to become educated and make it their career. The hospital staff was VERY supportive of breastfeeding during our stay and after (following up with the on staff lactation consultant). I was not offered formula, but received a bag with baby stuff, a homemade knit cap, breast pads, and several baby books. I feel a deep connection with the women who helped me bring my baby into the world.
Welcome to MDC!

I had a good experience in the hospital the first time, too, but the homebirth was just *so* much better. Imagine if after all the work that is labor, you get to sleep in your own bed! I didn't sleep well in the 2 days at the hospital at all and was completely exhausted by the time I got home. Also, our home birth provided a very smooth transition from 1 child to 2.

You also need to consider that many hospitals and doctors are not as wonderful as yours were. Many women have extremely traumatic experiences, and many doctors and nurses push meds and unnecessary procedures (like EFM, AROM, and epidurals... ), which can actually increase the chances of needing a cesarean. Read the book "Pushed" if you're curious about what I mean.

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I had four hospital births ranging from pretty good to wonderful - nothing was pushed on me and I was able to delivery completely naturally.

BUT...I always got there at the last possible minute, so they didn't really have time to bother me with anything, and after my babies were born I just wanted to be HOME. I only stayed in the hospital 12 hrs after each one, but they were a l-o-n-g 12 hours.

Then, when #5 came along, my water broke in my midwives office, and they "escorted" me to the hospital. It was miserable. I had no idea midwives would push so hard for interventions. I ended up with an IV, constant monitoring, lots of pointless vag. exams, and the dreaded pitocin. Now, I know that technically you can refuse these things, and I did at first, but when you're in labor you're really in no position to argue. The whole experience was just yucky. I didn't realize how lucky I was with my first four.

I am not willing to put myself and especially my baby through that again, so I will be having a home birth this time, and I can't believe how incredibly relaxed and at peace I feel about it.
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In Houston I have over a 80% chance of an epistiotomy and 40% chance of having a c-section and the number one indicator of c/s is whether I have insurance. The hospitals will not let me refuse EFM, will not let me refuse an IV, and will not let me labor/birth in the shower/tub. The closest hospital which can even be slightly referred to as baby/mother friendly is over an hour away. I don't know a single person who has given birth in a hospital and was not induced or given Pit - generally both.

I know that I can legally fight all of these things, but I can also have my baby in my own home with a provider who has my philosophy of birth and not have to get in a fight with every person who enters my room, while still maintaining the same mortality rate and a lower morbidity rate (only 10% c/s and 1% epi) as in a hospital. It's a no brainer to me.

I am glad you loved your birth experience though! The best outcome we could ever have in this country is for moms to have positive births no matter where they are birthing. There are many moms on here who are for homebirth because of their horrible, awful, sometimes criminal experiences during their hospital births. This is my first and I choose not to take that risk.

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Wander over to the birth trauma forum.

I am so happy for you that you were so lucky and had a wonderful hospital birth! good for you!

Others, like myself, aren't so lucky. We leave feeling broken, depressed, and traumatized. Let's not make light of my (or any other mamas here) situation.

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I love this forum and its support of everything, especially BF and EC. I just don’t understand home birthing and I guess am looking for more information that might make me feel different????? I read a lot of negative comments about hospitals and doctors. I would also be scared that something might go wrong that could be treated at a hospital. This is not something I am opinionated about, just looking for other Mom’s input. There are so many things that never even crossed my mind until I had a baby, now it is a whole new world.
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I'm not againist OB's or hospital births at all. Honestly, I'd like to have a hospital birth. I've heard of wonderful hospital OB's or midwives & wonderful hospitals. I'm jealous of people who have that option really.

I don't live in a very birth friendly state. High c-section rates, many hospitals don't believe in vbacs, doctors believe pregnancy should be done & over with by 40 weeks at the latest. After 37 weeks, every appointment for me was a fight to avoid an induction. They were annoyed I wouldn't allow myself to be induced with no medical reason. The hospital was bad, the nurses fussed at me when I was pushing because I was making noise & they were trying to talk about where they grew up. There were tons of reasons I was very unhappy with not only my birth but my prenatal care. Overall, no one though I should know anything. They tried to avoid answering sinple questions. Wanted me to consent to things without even telling me what it was. Not woman friendly at all in my eyes.

If I had a better doctor or hospital, I'd loved to have gone there. But the few places we have locally were all the same. The thought of doing that again makes my skin crawl. A homebirth is actually not my first choice, my first choice would be a woman friendly ob/hospital midwife & a good hospital. But I don't have that option anywhere around me. So because of that, I moved onto my 2nd option & am planning a homebirth, where I'm able to be involved in my care & birth.
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I do not understand all of the articles and posts about home birthing. I do not feel as though my birthing experience was slighted emotionally or in any other way.
People birth at home for a variety of reasons, because they feel there is value in giving birth there. Common reasons include wishing to avoid the modern obstetrical practices that may be counterproductive to natural labor, and be more about legal or managed care standards; avoiding the environment of a hospital where certain kinds of infections are more common; wanting the ability to make some of the decisions about the care the mother and baby receive; it may be that homebirth is what they can afford. I think people can have good experiences in both places, but your experience doesn't negate a home birthing mother's, and a home birthing mother's experience doesn't negate yours.
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I love this forum and its support of everything, especially BF and EC. I just don’t understand home birthing and I guess am looking for more information that might make me feel different????? I read a lot of negative comments about hospitals and doctors. I would also be scared that something might go wrong that could be treated at a hospital. This is not something I am opinionated about, just looking for other Mom’s input. There are so many things that never even crossed my mind until I had a baby, now it is a whole new world.
Seriously, read "pushed". Really. Here's her blog... http://pushedbirth.com/ The book really goes through all they "why"s and "why not"s of both hospital and homebirth.

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I do not understand all of the articles and posts about home birthing. I do not feel as though my birthing experience was slighted emotionally or in any other way. Doctors and nurses are people who love delivering babies so much that they made the commitment to become educated and make it their career. The hospital staff was VERY supportive of breastfeeding during our stay and after (following up with the on staff lactation consultant). I was not offered formula, but received a bag with baby stuff, a homemade knit cap, breast pads, and several baby books. I feel a deep connection with the women who helped me bring my baby into the world.
I love reading positive hospital birth stories. Thank you for sharing yours. I feel like "good" birthing hospitals are regional. In Portland I know several women who had great birthing experiences in the hospital. And I know two OB's who use and recommend hypnobirthing methods and who have both had med-free births themselves.

A lot women here feel like hospitals are for sick people and not a place for births. For me I just love the care I get from a midwife and I loved birthing in the water. And I know with my last birth I would have had a c-section if I had been in the hospital. Even though I had a safe wonderful birth, I pushed for longer than the hospital would have allowed it.

Homebirths are in a big minority and a lot of women come here for reassurance and acceptance about their choice. But I can see how things can get one-sided and like I said before it is helpful for me to hear the positive hospital birth stories too.

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I love this forum and its support of everything, especially BF and EC. I just don’t understand home birthing and I guess am looking for more information that might make me feel different????? I read a lot of negative comments about hospitals and doctors. I would also be scared that something might go wrong that could be treated at a hospital. This is not something I am opinionated about, just looking for other Mom’s input. There are so many things that never even crossed my mind until I had a baby, now it is a whole new world.
If this were true, more babies would die during homebirths than hospital births, but that's not the case. The countries with the best mother/baby outcomes in the world use midwives (and usually) homebirths for all low-risk births. The US is at the bottom of the list for mother/baby outcomes, below countries like Slovakia and Somalia. It is really hard to get your head around the whole issue until you start reading. I recommend Pushed and Born in the USA. Bottom line is that with a very few shining exceptions, the maternity care system in this country blows.

This is a good recent article on it. This one is pretty good too.

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People birth at home for a variety of reasons, because they feel there is value in giving birth there. Common reasons include wishing to avoid the modern obstetrical practices that may be counterproductive to natural labor, and be more about legal or managed care standards; avoiding the environment of a hospital where certain kinds of infections are more common; wanting the ability to make some of the decisions about the care the mother and baby receive;
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Honestly, OP, if you can't understand why someone would want a HB, you need to read "Pushed" by Jennifer Block, "Born in the USA" by Dr. Marsden Wagner, and see the movie "The Business of Being Born." After exposure to these, I can't understand how someone can NOT understand the desire for HB.

Now... That doesn't mean you should want one for yourself. Women shoudl birth where they feel comfortable. You had a great hospital experience and you would want to go there again. Great! That's fabulous! But you are in the minority in having a birth that was natural (no CS, episiotomy, pitocin, epidural, etc.) - I believe if you add together the rate of births that are CS (31%), + induced + augmented with pitocin, you get like 60-80% or something. (I forget, but I believe it was over 50% that are augmented or induced.)

As for me, I had a good, all-natural hospital birth as well. But I still want to HB for #2 (whenver that happens.) Because it's MY HOUSE, my territory! I feel more in control, I'm not a "patient" & subject to someone else's rules.

For example, the hospital had a rule taht you couldn't walk around outside yoru room carrying your baby. You had to wheel him in a bassinette. They don't want the liability risk of you dropping your own baby. Gimme a break!

Women need to feel comfortable emotionally to birth. There is evidence that NOT feeling at ease emotionally will literally prevent the cervix from opening or cause it to close back up (read "Ina Mays Guide to Childbirth" for great info on that.) I could never feel as comfortable in a hospital as in my own house. (I accidentally did all my laboring at home - left the house for hospital after I felt the urge to push!) So I never labored in a hospital, only arrived & pushed. I can't fathom the intensity of transition anywhere but the comfort & security of my own house.
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I had a pretty good hospital birth with my DD, but I'm still considering homebirth for my next one. Like one of the pps, I got no rest after DD was born because all the hospital people kept coming into my room and wanting to do stuff with DD, when I wanted to rest. I came home exhausted.

Also, during my labor, my MW was constantly whispering to my DH that I would probably need a c/s because my baby was "too big." Not real supportive! I ended up with a wonderful vaginal, natural delivery and an 8# 6oz baby girl. I also felt like my labor stalled out when I got to the hospital. I was 8cm when I arrived and had gone from nothing to 8cm in about 3hrs. It took me another 3 hrs in transition to get all the way to 10cm.

So, I'm not looking at homebirth because I think hospitals are evil. I just want certain things about my next birth to be different and I feel like I can "get my way" if I am at home.

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I think people can have good experiences in both places, but your experience doesn't negate a home birthing mother's, and a home birthing mother's experience doesn't negate yours.
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I had an excellent hospital water birth with my first, and I'm home birthing this time around. One reason being that we moved away from that hospital and the ones I have available to me now are not supportive of my birthing choices, every choice I would want to make regarding how I labor and birth would be a fight and I'm just not willing to do that when I have the option of birthing in my own territory and on my own terms. Even if I had access to a mother-baby friendly hospital I would still homebirth because I have access to home birth midwives now who are well-trained, in-addition to being able to provide compassionate and personalized care and companionship during my pregnancy, labor, birth, and post-partum period. My pregnancies are low-risk and I am a good candidate for home birth, so why should I leave my home in the midst of labor to go to a hospital to birth when my home is perfectly suitable and a much more comfortable place to accomplish this? Where a woman chooses to birth is very individualized and there are many factors that come into play when making the decision to home or hospital birth, there isn't one right way or wrong way for everyone.

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I'm glad you had such a positive experience, GAjenn. However, I have yet to witness what I would perceive as a satisfactory OB/client relationship nor have I attended a hospital birth in which the mother was treated with the respect and dignity she deserves.

However, it isn't 'bad' experiences with hospital birth which have led me to choose homebirth. My first dd was born 10 years ago at home, long before I became a doula and witnessed hospital birth firsthand. 5 years before I gave birth, someone at work passed a copy of Ina May Gaskin's Spiritual Midwifery along to me and it completely transformed the way I thought about childbirth (not that I had thought about it that much - I was a 20 year old free spirit at the time). I knew upon finishing the book that homebirth was for me. I began to view childbirth as a rite of passage rather than a medical event and knew that my chances of being able to experience birth on my terms were greater at home with a midwife.

In the 15 years that have passed since discovering homebirth and the midwifery model of care, I have known many women - family and friend - who have given birth, and have begun work as a doula. When I hear of or witness the hospital birth experiences of these women in my life, I cannot help but be appalled by the standard of care they receive and even worse, shocked that this standard of care is accepted as 'the norm'.

I know that in a little over a month when I give birth at home for the second time, nobody will be pushing me to have an episiotomy, medications and procedures will not be suggested or forced, I'll have the freedom to eat and drink what I please, I won't be hooked up to a bajillion tubes and monitors, I can go outside and labor in my yard, my chances of a c/s are practically nil, I will have the pleasure of reaching down and catching my own baby if I choose, water will be available to me to labor and birth in, I choose each and every person who will be in attendance, a hot meal will be waiting for me after I bathe and will have the comfort of nursing in my own bed while I enjoy my after-labor meal, the list goes on and on and on...

Above all, I firmly believe that my baby's health and safety will be protected by birthing at home with my trusted midwife.

I suggest having a look at The Business of Being Born and Pregnant in America. BoBB is available as a 'Watch Instantly' on Netflix if you have Netflix. Pregnant... is available to watch for free online: http://www.ineedpopcorn.com/fetch.php?id=004188&part=1
I also recommend Orgasmic Birth which I don't think is available online, but can be ordered and actually, there is a showing in a threatre here in my humble city this weekend - so it's out there. I agree that Pushed by Jennifer Block is a great critique on medicalized childbirth. There are many many books...if you hang around this website long enough, you'll hear the recommendations enough to know them by heart.

Again, I am glad that you had a great hospital experience. But aside from considering that you may have just have had an awesome OB and hospital staff, remember that experience is relative and what fits one woman may not fit another. Lots of variables here.
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I thought my hospital birth was a lot awesome-er before I did much research into how it "should" be, if obstetrics was practiced based on evidence... :

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I too was VERY lucky with my hospital birth, in the UK the push to medicate is MUCH less. I had one midwife and my husband in the room and that was all. The midwife was lovely and helpful. I had my baby med free and was given support on breastfeeding she was also all about the 'skin-to-skin' thing and my baby was at the breast within seconds. My baby NEVER left my sight and I was able to take a bath and dress as I wanted. We were discharged 4hrs later. However this is OFTEN not the case, epecially from what I have heard from my new friends here in the US. Hospitals are often quick to push meds, induce etc etc and make women feel undermined and out of control.

I hope to have a 'birthing center' birth next time around (as we will still most likely be here in the US) although, had I been in England next time I would have been very happy to deliver in the hospital which has a 'midwife lead birthing centre' as well as the delivery suit.

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it's easier to be happy when you just accept the "norm", maybe ignorance is bliss? the more i started reading, the more conflicted i became, and the less sure i was of a hospital birth. i had no desire to pay into a system that doesn't 'inherently' respect my needs, where 1 in 3 women have c-sections. i was about as low risk as can be, and i didn't need any of the services offered by the hospital.
i didn't want vitamin k injections, eye goop, hep b vax. i didn't want my baby bathed and bundled or the cord clamped before it stopped pulsing. i wanted to eat and drink and be with my friends and family in the comfort of my home. i wanted to snuggle in my bed with my DP and my baby after i gave birth. i didn't want to be hooked up or strapped up or monitored in any way. i wanted to be free to give birth in the positions i chose, in the place i chose.
and i didn't want to have to put it in a birth plan to make sure my wishes were honored, i chose providers that supported my desires & paid money to a system of healthcare that i feel supports women and babies.
i feel that hospitals are there to help sick people and my baby and i are as healthy as they come!

btw, when i say ignorant, i was referring to myself before i started reading! (just in case that came out wrong)
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I am so happy for you that you were so lucky and had a wonderful hospital birth! good for you!

Others, like myself, aren't so lucky. We leave feeling broken, depressed, and traumatized. Let's not make light of my (or any other mamas here) situation.
Thank you for so politely saying exactly what I was thinking.
I saw the thread title and moused over thinking... I dunno, the thread was about something else. When I read the OP, I burst into tears.

Don't get me wrong, OP. I'm very happy you had an awesome hospital birth! I came pretty close to an ideal hospital birth with DD2, but... well. It usually doesn't happen that way.

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I will never have a homebirth, and I wouldn't want to, other than to avoid hopsital food.

I didn't have a great hospital experience, (I didn't get the epidural I wanted-I still think it might have prevented a c-section in my case. ) But, for me, I WANT constant fetal monitoring during labour. If I coudl get it the last 4 months of pregnancy, I would. No, I'm not kidding. I worried almost constantly, except when I was sleepng or being monitored. Beng at home other than during early labour is WAY out of my comfort zone.

I think homebirth can be great if you are comfortable with it and are low risk. I use to always think I wanted to homebirth. If I'd known before I got pregnant that I wouldn't get an epidural, I might have at least gone with a midwife.

My hospital is bf'ing friendly. The nurses believe epiduarls are dangerous, they are't enouraged at all at prenatal classes, BUT they also give you NO help on how to breathe thru contractions or anything, and the pain control they will give you is a joke. My dr. was good though. The OB/GYN who did the c-section was AWESOME.

If I could have gone home the day after my c-section, and had nursing care at home for a few days, I would have said my hospital experience was great. The 5 day hospital stay sucked though. The nurses refused to beleive I was in as much pain as I said I was, so at least once, I ened up crying myself to sleep waiting for pain meds, because they ignored it when I hit the call button. Turns out my incision was infected, and it might have gotten treated sooner if they believed me. (I told them the pain was gettting way worse instead of better-they did not believe me.)

I actually was more pro homebirth before I started reading here. I'd never ever heard so many stories of things going tragically wrong during labour as I have here. I won't even consider a hospital vbac after reading here. If I ever have another, I'm getting a repeat c-section.
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Feeling secure and relaxed tends to help labour and birth go well. I feel secure and relaxed at home attended by midwives that I know, I do NOT feel secure and relaxed in a hospital environment. Besides that I think it's a bit barbaric to get a healthy labouring woman to squeeze herself into a car and drive to a hospital simply because "that's how it's done". The people who are NOT in labour can travel much more comfortably. And of course, statically there is no advantage to going to the hospital without a medical reason.

ETA: I'm not trying to say homebirth is for everyone, just why I chose it. Everyone's different.
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I'm really glad that you had a great hospital birth. It often doesn't happen that way.

Just as I'll defend your choice to birth where you please and where you feel best, you should defend my choice to birth where I please and where I feel best. I am not going to tell you that you're wrong for wanting/accepting to birth at a hospital, nor should you tell me I'm wrong for wanting to birth at home.

What it's really about is choice. It is MY choice where I birth - just b/c your experience was good doesn't mean that ALL experiences are good. Perhaps take a step back and see the bigger picture, not just the world as it appears from your limited experience (which is a useful skill for all of us).

There have been some very good statistics quoted here, but if you're really truly curious and not just trying to start a fight, then go do some research on your own. Check out the WHO and anyplace that has birthing statistics to see how dismal hospitals in America really are. Compare our rates to the rates in other countries that support other birth options.

This is a place for those of who don't fit into the mainstream feel safe and can congregate - there aren't many of those places out there. If what you read here is upsetting and you don't want to educate yourself as to the true realities of what happens in the majority of hospital births, there are plenty of other places on the web where you can go to sing the praises of OBs and hospitals.

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Most OBs and hospitals have their hands tied by malpractice liability. They have to err on the side of doing more rather than less, even if there's no benefit to the mother or baby. It's almost a clique: no one gets sued for the c/s they do, only the c/s they don't do.

I would have been OK with a hospital birth. I found a wonderful hospital and could have been comfortable there. Although I would have still worried about getting "timed out" and forced into a c/s.

Then I found out I was carrying twins. That changed everything. My twins are spontaneous, not something I chose. But the mere fact of carrying two meant I was nearly assured a c/s at my lovely hospital. I knew I didn't need one. Can everyone understand this: I DIDN'T WANT TO BE CUT OPEN FOR NO REASON!

So I planned a homebirth. Which was wonderful and now I'm a huge advocate. But I'm still angry that I was FORCED to birth at home if I wanted to carry my twins full term and birth vaginally. BTW, both were totally safe. I kept with my OBs and peri until 37 weeks and knew all three of us were in top health and good positions. I paid about $2000 out of pocket, although I had great insurance which would have paid every penny at the hospital. I feel like I ransomed my body from the doctors that wanted to cut me open. A bit dramatic, but essentially true.

OP, keep an open mind and support birth choice. Glad you birth went well.

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It's funny, I've never given birth (obviously, lol), but my thinking has always been "why hospital birth?"

To me, hospitals have always been places for emergencies, places for people who need medical attention, places for people who are sick, injured, etc.

Whereas pregnancy and birth has always been a very natural, normal idea to me. Statistically, the chances of something wrong happening are small. The chances of my having a perfectly normal pregnancy and birth are high. So, why would I, with my healthy self, go to the hospital? I just never grasped that concept. I don't think birth or pregnancy is a medical emergency.

Plus, I also don't want to be cut open. If you look at the statistics for c-sections in American hospitals - it's SCARY to me. They sure don't match the statistics of healthy birth versus something going wrong. Which tells me they're being done for either no medical reason at all or because the hospital interventions made the c-section necessary.

Right now, my partner and I are having the BEST time just visualizing pregnancy and birth. Sure, it may not happen that way. But, I feel very safe knowing I can be in my ow home, comfortable, without having strangers around me. I'm a private person and an introvert. The thought of strangers near me during birth just makes me all kinds of tense.

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I thought my hospital birth was great until I had a homebirth.

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I thought my hospital birth was great until I had a homebirth.
This. Exactly.

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Me, too.

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I thought my hospital birth was great until I had a homebirth.
Exactly!

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