I probably shouldn't respond to this thread because the 'reality' of birth in North America makes me so darned MAD. I mean really maaaddddd. I used to be an L&D RN working in those hospitals, and it almost killed me. I felt like I was part of the brutality team even though I was like a lioness at the doors of the women I was assisting, trying to stave off Dr Intervention at every turn. Talk about a conflict - homebirth advocate trying to advocate for women who a) were clueless about their strengths (but who were SO EMPOWERED when they discovered them!!! That was a cool part of the work when we could pull it off!), and b) wanted as natural a birth as possible (some of those births were inspiring, too, despite the hospital setting) all within the warped N. American Institutional Culture of birth. Anyway, I sure was the odd one out among my colleagues and it was so exhausting. Those tv shows really capture the truth of it, though. I'll never forget walking down the hall of the first University Hospital I ever worked in, way down south in the USA...a bunch of women drugged out in labour and The Price is Right blaring down the hall - what a spiritual transition; the absurdity of it made me want to cry.
Now for the sad part...fast forward to my own homebirth 5 years later, after I had escaped the hospital. All systems in place - midwives, supportive husband, good health, peace in my heart, confidence in my ability to birth...but my Baby didn't fit through my pelvis - and I mean DID NOT FIT (read 6+ hours of pushing). Oh, I can see the eye-rolling now...sure, sure, CPD, eh? Ah, but this truly was
. I ended up with one of those hospital births - forceps and a c/s!!! OY-Vey! Surreal to say the least. And I am currently a month away from the birth of my second child...by VBAC? Gonna give it my best shot!! Wish me luck or whatever it is I need
Thanks for the thread - it was cathartic.