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#61 of 64 Old 05-05-2009, 08:31 PM - Thread Starter
 
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again (and sorry for butting in with a non-C-section related story, but your description really rang a bell with me).
No need to apologize. C-sections are my own personal hell, but I've never suffered from the delusional belief that they're the only kind of hell in the world...or even in the birth world. Traumatic birth is traumatic birth...whether the baby comes through the natural opening or a created one.

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I just wanted to say after reading your first post to this thread that I know exactly what you mean by smelling the baby's head. The top of a baby's head smells better than anything in the world! I'm thinking it must be some biological/hormonal thing that helps with the bonding process for all women.

I don't know, thats just a guess.
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This must be the "other thread"

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Great post by fourlittlebirds. ITA. I think women start in different places and that the bonding process is much more easily interrupted for some than others.

I have had two vaginal births, but my first was traumatic, painful, medicated and Pitocined. The second was a beautiful homebirth where I was not messed with at all. I always suspected that my difficulty bonding with DD had to do with the birth, but after DS I was DAMN SURE it did. The difference was monumental.

I don't know if this helps at all, but sometimes I think about this and one thing that helps is to look at the bond I have with DD now and know how hard I worked for it. I feel proud of it--it is an accomplishment--whereas with DS it was almost embarrassingly easy.

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