But this time around, I am consistently measuring big. There is no question of the date of conception. I charted like a freak.
My DH was a large baby himself (10lb. 6oz.) so it won't come as a surprise if this porkchop of a guy that I'm gestating takes after his daddy.
I am not a little person. I am 5'7" with a largish frame. Two weeks ago I switched from a HORRIBLE OB practice (way overmedicalized) to a very nice midwife who, unlike the OB practice, does not seem to be concerned with the size of my baby right now.
The OB practice I was with bullied me into an extra ultrasound to measure my baby and to check my fluid levels. The ultrasound dated my baby three weeks ahead and 3.5 pounds at 27 weeks. I refuse to make a big deal out of it... but I can't stop wondering if I am setting myself up for more intervention by insisting that I wait to go into labor on my own. (So far my midwife has said that she might consider induction a wise choice if I approach 42 weeks and the baby is still measuring 3 weeks ahead.)
So, I am interested in hearing about the birth of your 9 pound+ baby. Did you have a successful vaginal birth? Under what circumstances did you go into labor? Did you require intervention? Were there positions you found helpful during labor?
I kind of had a feeling he was going to be bigger than my dd's but never imagined him being 10+lbs. especially since I consistently measured behind with him. Plus with dd2 who pretty much came flying out, I could tell he was going to be a biggun' when I really had to work to get him out....but just because a baby weighs 10lbs. or more doesn't necessarily make him/her a "big" baby, it's the measurements IMO. I've heard of mamas who had little 8lbers with bigger heads and chests than their bigger babies. I think that's what got me was DS's 15" head and chest. He also had a 14 1/2" stomach. So was just plain BIG.
FWIW I am not a tiny person either 5'5" with an I would say medium/average build/frame. I was hard work but definitely doable. I know I had heard of all these mamas who said their bigger babies were easier to birth but in my case that wasn't true.
Also I ended up birthing his head kind of semi sitting sort of.....laying back supported by dh and then when my m/w couldn't get his shoulders to budge she did McRoberts/corkscrew manuever(flat on my back with the student m/w pulling one knee to my ear and dh the other and she had to reach in and unhook his shoulder.
You've already proven you can birth a good sized baby so I don't see why you would have any problems...plus I don't put any stock in fundal height measurements anymore!
~Manessa mama to one teenageer, one tweenager, and a toddler
You can do it! Good for you for not worrying. Oh, and I am built like you, just a couple of inches taller.
Tallulah Dare 8-01, Marcos Gael 12-04, Cormac Mateo 9-09, Leonidas Ronan 11-11
I labored at home and labor did take a while. My first birth (induced) was around 8 hours or so and I had thoughts that the second would be a quick birth. But it ended up taking about 25 hours in all though it didn't really feel like it was that long. I only pushed for 15 minutes or so.
I labored in the tub and then felt like I was either really close and far away and asked my mw for my frist check and was only 7cm. I remember being very disappointed (this was about hour 24ish) and frustrated. I knew I needed to get out of the tub, walk around, and really get things going. But I was also tired and feeling a little overwhelmed too that I had "so far" to go. But some toliet sitting and a trip down and up the stairs and poof, transition done and baby was on her way.
I ended up pushing on my side in bed, not as I'd planned it. Took some time get her head out, but that also helped avoid tearing. But she still came out but wasn't rotating. So my mw had me get on hands and knees and my mw helped get her shoulder under the pubic bone (shoulder dystocia) and out she came... no tears either, even with the mw's helping hand. As I said, only about 15 minutes of pushing in all.
Everything was fine afterwards too. I just hung out in bed for about a week as instructed and held my big-little girl. I was pretty wore out after the birth but that's to be expected.
Karen happily married mother of 3 great children (19, 6, 4), finishing a Masters in Nutrition.
She was born at home, no induction or other interventions. I had thought I would try to use gravity (stay on my feet or squat) but was literally floored by the power of the contractions and laid on the bathroom floor most of the time (nice, cool tile) until moving to my bed (when I realized my midwife was preparing for a bathroom birth). I tried hands and knees but couldn't relax enough and hold my own weight so I ended up birthing with my upper body kind of curled on one side in my husband's lap.
I was my mom's biggest baby at 9 lbs 3 oz. My husband was 10 lbs 2.5 oz. We were both late (more than two weeks) and our daughter was 13 days post. Compared to us, she was a smaller baby
I think that more important than your child's size is what you are permitted in labor. Talk to your midwife about that (is she a hospital midwife?) -- find out about monitoring, walking, etc. You can't know until you're in the situation what is going to work for this birth, so I would make sure all of your options are open!
I totally plan to do it natural next time (and I know babies have a tendency to get bigger the more you have.)
I measured at least 2 weeks behind on all my prenatal appointments and at my final appt. they said a 8 lb baby, so I don't know if I would trust any of that stuff.
Good luck and trust your body! You are going to do great!!!
SAHM to Chloe«- 6/2008 (10 lbs, 5 oz), Hannah- 9/2010 (9 lbs, 12 oz), Liam- 2/2013 (9 lbs, 6 oz)
I did hit a point in pushing where I wasn't progressing as fast as I could have; I had been pushing while sitting sort of on my knees and grabbing my ankles in the birthing pool, but pushed on the toilet for awhile and that helped bring him down to almost crowning, at which point I hoofed it back to the pool (very odd sensation to waddle with a baby's head wedged there!) and slowly eased through the crowning stage. As a result, I didn't have any perineal tears; only a minor labial tear. I was thrilled at how well it all went and was ready to do it again almost immediately (well, after a year or three in between anyway).
If I can do it with a first baby, I have every confidence in your ability to do it too, mama. Good luck!
ETA: I'm average-sized too; 5'5" and was about 155 pre-pregnancy (went up to about 195 pregnant, though... ice cream was really popular in our house all the last trimester! )
Stay-at-home mama married to my best friend of 10+ years. Aspiring midwife loving parenting our beautiful Julian, born 5/24/09. Expecting a second bean in late July 2012!
The smaller one, the labor was very, very intense but not really painful. The bigger one, it was super painful (back labor), but also short, only 4 hours. :
The easiest and least painful of those to push out was my 9lb 6oz baby. My perineum afterwards wasn't even sore, let alone torn--didn't feel like I'd pushed a baby out at all!
My daughter 2 years later was a full pound lighter, but hurt like *&^! coming out...I swear she came out sideways.
I think really big babies are more likely to be forced into the ideal position for birth. Smaller babies have more room to tilt their head/extend their chin, etc.
It is pointless to induce for a big baby. Studies show it doesn't help. And that makes sense, because in the 24 hours before labor starts naturally, your body floods with a hormone called relaxin that makes the pelvis way more flexible. If you induce, you skip that step, and try to push a big baby out through a fairly rigid girdle. You did well to succeed!
I had 5 babies at 9 lbs, and a nearly 11 lb baby 4 days ago!
The hardest labor for me was that of my 4th, only 9lb. Extremely painful and soooo hard to push out. All due to bad position. I pushed for 20 minutes!
The birth of my 11lb was dramatic because she did not rotate after the head come out and was therefore stuck on the neck for 2 minutes between contractions. It was hard work, but the whole second stage was only 5 minutes long (pushed through 2 contractions). It was the HARDEST I ever pushed because I did not have an urge but had to in order to get the rest of the body out, but somehow pushing baby 4 hurt a lot more. I am feeling the bruises more now, 4 days later.
The other 9lb babies came with 1-2 easy pushes
Edited to add: I teared a bit with the first baby, but not since.
Anyway, I labored drug free on pitocin (pain drug free anyway) for about 8 hours (I was 4cm dilated and having semi-regular contrax when I got to the hospital to start the induction...I should have just not gone!) and then pushed for 20 minutes and out came dd, no problem at all. She just slid out like it was nothing. I have nothing to compare it to so I don't know if it hurts more than having a smaller baby, but since it was the contrax that hurt the most anyway I'm assuming it wouldn't have been all that different.
My mom gave birth to four children
#1: 8-3 (only hospital birth - natural though)
#2: 9-3 (me) -- her easiest, quickest birth
#3: 8-9ish (only boy)
And guess which one was her hardest birth? Yup, my little bitty (for our family) baby sister -- #4.
I really don't believe size counts that much at all!
I was induced from nothing and while the experience wasn't "horrible" it was a typical: pit, try to progress, not too much progression, more pit, epidural, birth an hour after epi.
He had mild shoulder dystocia and they did some sort of manuver where they pushed my legs way back to pop him out. I didn't know it at the time, dh told me about it later.
He didn't have a giant head, the mw was laughing while trying to pull his "guts" out because that was his widest part!
I had like 2 stitches from a tiny tear and that was it. He nursed like a champ in the bed.
here's our birth story + pics: http://www.smugmug.com/gallery/8825951_GxcPh/1
my 2nd was 3 days late, 9 lb 11 oz, 5 hour labor, 20 minutes pushing, no tears, nuchal hand.
with my 1st i measured ahead 4 weeks the whole time. with my 2nd, i measured ahead about 2 weeks. neither was induced, neither was a waterbirth. 1st was hospital, 2nd was UC.
my dh and his youngest brother were big (10 and 11 lbs), so it doesn't surprise me. i'm fully expecting this one to be around 10 lbs.
Mine were 10'4 and 11'1. No problems with birth related to it. I was not even in the best birth position (stirrups, erhhh!!! not this time, its a HB!!!) I measured exactly "right" all along. But with the 2nd and biggest baby I never looked as big.
With the 1st I was 10 days past edd and the 2nd 3 days before.
After going overdue with the 1st I had an ultrasound that said 10lbs+. I used a cnm and she and the docs in her practice all took turns filling of my belly saying it was about 8lbs.
Oh, they were both high when I went into labor and still when pushing started. I pushed for 45mins with #1 and 20mns with #2.
I am 5'8 normally 125-129. With the pregnancies I got to 164 and 168.
2nd VBAC 9lb 6oz- at also a little over 42wks
oAlisha- eternal companion to mike:, mother to three energetic boys (02):, (05), and (07) and one sweet little girl 3/13. Two in heaven.7/21/2010, 11/05/2011 .
No rips, tears, or skid marks.
Born at home in my bedroom with two midwives and hubby present. She was my second VBAC.
ETA: Labor was uneventful and was just under 5 hours from onset to birth.
Mama to Nell (11/15/06) and Maggie (10/9/10) . AFTER 2.5 YEARS, I AM AN AUNTIE!!! HOORAY TEAR78 and welcome Anika and Brand New Baby Boy!!!! Circumcision: the more you know, the worse it is; please leave the decision up to your son!
She had fast births and rarely tore. She did 3 at a hospital, was traumatized beyond belief and went on to do 8 u/c at home.
My DD was 11lbs 4oz. But that was the end of the similarity. I had a 3 day labour, 5hr pushing stage and tore like the dickens. She presented transverse occiput...face to the side! I think the duration and effort required of my labour was due to her coming early and being malpositioned and not size, although I'm sure the size didn't exactly help things.
I am hoping for another big baby. OPINION ONLY but I think big babies are just...hardy. They eat better, sleep better, hit milestones sooner and get sick less frequently. Obviously this isn't every case and I'm not trying to generalize. But you're talking about a bigger human, w/ potentially more muscle and proportionate fat stores.
BTW very little dairy/sugar in my diet. I didn't introduce dairy (icecream) until the last couple weeks. I know I enjoyed it and really craved it, but that did not make DD 11lbs lmao.
Also, no history of diabetes/GD diabetes.
The 2nd was 10lbs 4.5oz. He was a little more difficult. For starters, the whole end of the pregnancy was different, so I knew he was malpositioned. I could feel him bumping into my pelvic bone. Usually, I'm 4cm dialated about 2weeks before my due date and I wasn't dialated more than a stretchy 2 with him. So, at 1week overdue, I asked the midwife to break my water. She did that at 8:00pm. I labored all night long, in the tub,out of the tub, walking, climbing stairs, swollen cervix, screaming and begging for a transfer, given lots of homeopathics for swelling, then my midwife had me sit on a birthing stool and push him out while she held my cervix in place. It wasn't pretty. But, Once he clicked into place, the pushing wasn't too bad. He did get stuck for a minute, but I pushed down on my tummy and he rotated out of me. He helped a lot with his birth. I was exhausted and tore for the first time, but not too bad. I thought I was tearing front and back, but it was just back. I didn't care if I was tearing though, I was too into pushing. It didn't help that his head was 15" ! My largest head before that was 13.5".
So, I labored from 8pm to 6am. Not too bad. But the difference was that I had 3hours hard labor when I normally have 1hour of hard labor.
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