Ugh, Amy, I know, I know.
of course, MDC was down when I was reeling from a Brush with the Mainstream Birthing Mentality....
I had my cousin (a product of a UC in 1979! Intact, too!) and his wife came over for dinner, and yes, I hoped to inject a little birthing agenda in here and there.
But alas, there wasn't even a point during the whole evening to mutter, gee, get a doula, or read The Thinking Woman's Guide. Nothin'.
And the EXTRA EXTRA EXTRA irritating thing about this is: For the past two years, once a semester, I am her guest speaker on pregnancy & birth in her high school "home ec" (consmer sciences) class.
She has seen my personal evolution from OB induced births are a-ok to a midwifery model of care, she has seen me nurse my baby, in front of her class of teenage students, who didn't know I was breastfeeding 'til I mentioned it AND REMARKED at how cool it was, she and her students have heard my distain for episiotomy, and I'm getting NO QUESTIONS on ANYTHING from her at any point about pregnancy and birth ever, not at my house for dinner, not at Xmas, what?
This mama-to-be, before she was pregant, and before I was going to give my talk at the high school, asked me to 'tone down' my episitomy talk (I can totally respect this, though I don't think I ever said anything out of line--I just scared her students so much the last time that they were hung up on the topic for a few days, which THEY SHOULD BE.)
Which I say to illustrate the fact that this friend knows knows knows the assults that will happen to her person if she chooses to close her eyes to the matter.
And mamas, that's what I'm afraid it's all about for her.
The ONE tiny tidbit I got out of her was when I asked the ONE question: are you feeling excited about your birth?
She answered with something like, yeah, sorta, and that most people ask her if she's scared or nervous, and she admitted that the one fear she has is about during the c-sec if she'll be looking over the little curtain they put over your chest if she'll see stuff, and her friend told her she CAN CLOSE HER EYES and that would make it better.
God help us, this is what 98% of women are expecting when they're expecting.
I guess I should be somewhat calmed by the fact that this woman has a crystal-clear concept of the probility of her c-section, with her "if it happens, it happens" attitude at 30 weeks.
TOTALLY drives me crazy.
Would you buy a house like that? A car like that? no, you'd do a smidge of research, but hey--doctor knows best, just like the carsalesman, hunh?
thanks for listening to MY rant--just know you're in good company, and for HEAVEN'S SAKE, avoid annoying homebirth/cloth diaper/breastfeeding killjoys!!!!!