i've been also blessed with many folks offering to help out: my mom, my sister and my dear friend.
i was thinking my sister would be good to have around prebirth, 'cuz she's a fiend for cleaning! she also would be good at the birth, helping with my older kids. she was at my first, so she knows what it's like and won't freak out.
my dear friend could possibly be at the birth, but i was thinking of her mostly afterwards... she's the kind who can read my mind, and help me out with a problem even before i'm aware of it. so she'd be a compassionate and wonderful resource right after.
my mom and i have been clashing the last few years. but since she was there at the first three births, she's assuming she's coming to this one. i'm not sure how to tell her not to, because i don't think i could be comfortable with her there (she's been particularly criticizing lately, and that's NOT the energy i'll need at the birth!). so i was thinking about having her come out after dear friend has to leave... i know she'd be helpful, and by then i'll be past my most vulnerable (and probably cranky) stage.
my dh does get some time off, and fortunately we have an older larger house... so we can babymoon upstairs while life goes on with my family downstairs.
btw, thanks for that article. i was wondering what "babymoon" meant!