After my first was born, it was really early in the morning (longer labor with my first we were up all night) and I had a first degree tear that was sutured. The midwife stitched me up quickly, and said there were a couple of small areas that didn't need stitching. I take it that meant I tore more than just in my perineum. The few stitches she used were in the perineum.
When the other midwife came postpartum to do a check she looked at my stitches. She said that I had like a small tongue coming out of my vagina and some skin tags. But, otherwise everything looked good.
However, I looked down there, and basically the whole area looks open. It's like you can't tell where the 'opening' is or what. It's just sort of open. Probably too much information, but the inside is tight from kegels, but it's like I can see directly into the vaginal mucosa. I can find tissue tags off to the top, right and left of the opening and of course the 'tongue' next to the perineum.
At first I thought that was normal. I've lived like this for a decade now. However, I happened to see a friend's equipment (cough) and hers looks like it has a defined opening. And, I can see some scar tissue where she had her episiotomy/stitches. Though the opening is a little bit larger than hers before childbirth but it still looks like it is an actual opening. I hope what I'm writing makes sense.
I can feel the area where the 'tongue--what they told me is vaginal mucosa' is hanging out and where it should have been sewn in place if I fold it inward.
I've had multiple other children since and not torn. The last midwife said she might 'try to fix it' if I tore at the last birth, but I did not tear. The midwives I talked to/asked about it basically didn't seem to think it was alltogether unheard of.
I'm wondering, is this a varaiation of normal? And, nope, none of my stitches had 'undone' that was how I was stitched. I feel like I may have opened up a can of worms by even asking. I wonder if the midwife should have stitched more than she should and made sure that all the edges came together correctly.
What should the exterior/entrance to the vagina look like after childbirth?
It has not happened to me (yet) but I can tell you from having conversations with some women that it changes ALOT. Others not so much. I don't think there is any one 'way' that it's supposed to look. One girl described it to me that her insides were now on the outside and that areas would hold water from the bath and fall out when she stood up because of a poor sewing job.
Sorry for the TMI.
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Mine looks vastly different from what it did pre-birth. The walls of my vagina that I can see when I'm squatted over a mirror looks like rough terrain now for lack of a better way to describe it. It used to be pretty smooth if I remember correctly, but not anymore. I don't worry about it though, I just add it to the list of things that changed about my body post-baby.
Is this a cosmetic issue for you or a functional issue? I think skin tags and roughening of tissue (whatever that is called) seem pretty standard, and as a PP has said, cosmetic surgery of the labia and vagina are not uncommon. I have a friend who had a very traumatic birth and had to have reconstructive surgery (removal of skin tags was a part of that), but I don't know many of the details.
I agree with Evie's Mama, though-- as long as everything down there is working properly, I'm not overly concerned with what it looks like. Genitals, IMO, aren't exactly "pretty" in even a pristine state
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BTW If you're squatting over a mirror it'll make your hooha look a lot bigger! That's why it's nice to give birth that way
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I am having this same problem
Only I am 6 months after birth and have two "tongue" like flaps hanging from the entry of my vagina. I cry just thinking about it because I think it looks so odd.
I hate being intimate because these "tongues' create friction that hurts and not to mention i just look weird down there.
My OB said NOTHING to me about these flaps.
So I feel like I have been left in the dark, wondering if I am disfigured or if I have a major abnormality after birth. I have had a million thoughts and questions but the biggest one of all is WHY DIDN'T ANY ONE SAY ANYTHING? or at least explain it.
Thank you for posting this because this is the closest I've come to getting an idea of what I'm dealing with.
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