|View Poll Results: Were You Able to Bedshare in Hospital with Your Newborn?|
|I bedshared without any trouble from staff||180||65.69%|
|I wanted to bedshare and did despite staff disapproval||40||14.60%|
|I wanted to bedshare and didn't because of staff disapproval||13||4.74%|
|I bedshared on the sly to avoid any conflicts||24||8.76%|
|NA-I didn't want to bedshare||4||1.46%|
|Voters: 274. You may not vote on this poll|
DS1 - My OB actually walked into the room the afternoon after he was born, looked in the little bassinet and didn't see him. He then asked me where he was, I move the blankets slightly away and he just smiled. Never had an issue with the nurses about it either.
DS2 - birth center on a queen sized bed had no issue about him sleeping there with me. Since the room was needed for another momma coming in, i was moved to the hospital PP floor for the night. The nurses there freaked out about him being in bed with me and made me put him in the bassinet. I complied, and when she left, brought him back with him and any time she walked in after that I made it look like I was nursing.
DD2 - no issues with it. Not even by our Ped. She just smiled, and even did her newborn check while baby was sleeping in my arms on the boppy. She was a c/s, so the boppy worked great for providing relief from her sitting on cut open belly. There were times I had her asleep and laying at the foot of my bed, with my legs crossed.
One nurse said something like" oh, good, you have the bedrails up with him in there with you" but that was really the only comment.
DD was born at a freestanding birth center so we were home 4 hours later. We all snuggled in the bed there together (DH and DS included) during the overnight hours but DD was the only one sleeping.
I don't know how things would be different (or if they would be) but for the first hour of his life we did skin to skin. He didn't really leave my side while we were in the hospital. Each time I tried to put him down he would cry. I was lucky that my husband was able to stay with me, I don't know what I would've done otherwise for bathroom breaks!
The nurses didn't mention anything about me sleeping with him. After his first bath they mentioned his temp was down....and suggested doing skin to skin!!! This made me happy! When my daughter's temp was off, they put her under the warmer
Good luck! (Oh btw, I'm in Canada, don't know if that makes a difference.)
Gracious Christian Woman, Wife & Mother of Two Breastfed, baby wore and coslept with our intact, vaccine-free boys. Currently homeschooling and excited for more!
However, when he was hospitalized for pnuemonia at 2 yo I did cosleep with him. The removed the crib that was in the room and put in a regular hospital bed with sides and set the O2 tent up around both of us.
ETA- DS barely nursed at all for the first 24 hours. If he had nursed more then I might have actually done it
But with the twins, we had major conflicts over this. What we wanted to do was for me to sleep with one twin, and DH on the cot with the other, and then switch every hour or two, so that each one got plenty of nursing time all day and night. We had this one nurse who got all in a flap about it, and brought in six or so of her colleagues to read me the riot act about it and make threats-- they were going to take the babies and put them in the nursery if I insisted on sleeping with them. So I'd listen politely and put them in the bassinet, and then move them again once they left the room. This went on for that whole nurse shift, and then after that we were the pariahs of the labor and delivery ward. The rest of the nurses left us alone, maybe TOO much, and it was obvious we'd acquired a reputation.
Luckily the midwife attached to my OB practice was supportive, and she got in between the nurses and our family, to shield us from some of the crap.
In both cases I had a c-section, but I declined any meds past the first 18 hours, because I wanted to be maximally alert for the babies, because I'm allergic to several of the common post-op meds, and because I hate being groggy.
I just couldn't understand how anybody expected me to nurse at least 12 times in 24 hours, each baby, one baby at a time-- the ped's recommendation, because of the twins' low birth weight and jaundice-- and still get enough sleep to recover from a section, if I wasn't allowed to sleep with them. Seems to me it was all a scam to get me to give in and allow them to feed the babies bottles.
Same hospital both times. One of the reasons I would never recommend that place.
With dd2, I didn't think they'd let me, but I couldn't bear to have her in the bassinet and not against me. One of the nurses asked me, "Do you want her to sleep with you?" And then she rolled up their hospital receiving blankets to make a tight firm barrier against the rails of the bed, and I was able to have SJ sleep in the crook of my arm. It was lovely. I was only there the one night, so I don't know if other nurses would have been as supportive ....
ETA: I think if I'd had trouble, my OB would have had my back. When I was pregnant with dd2, he asked me where this baby would be sleeping, with dh and me or elsewhere. I said, "With us!" and he said, "Good, I think that's best."
I didn't bedshare at the hospital with dd1 or ds2, but dh was there with dd1, and handed her to me at the smallest sound. With ds2, I had to manage on my own, so he partly bedshared (ie. get up, bring him into bed, and then take a long time to put him back).
I bedshared with dd2. The nurses helped me get her into a good position (getting on my side was hard, so we had her propped with pillows - still hospital ones - so that she could just roll over and latch). During the night, the nurse would come in very quietly and check on us with a flashlight, then go away. That was a welcome change of pace.
It really varies from one time, place and person to another, I think.
Lisa, lucky mama of Kelly (3/93) , Emma (5/03) , Evan (7/05) , & Jenna (6/09)
Loving my amazing dh, James & forever missing Aaron Ambrose (11/07)
1) Birth experiences matter, but they aren't everything, so don't worry if it doesn't go as planned;
2) Life does not follow your plans!
Aside from those first 3 weeks, DD has never spent an evening/night away from me, so overall I consider us very lucky.
Mommy to Kai 2/03, Caden 1/08, Kara 10/09, 3/21/13, &
Cole 2/3/14 ♡ Happily unmarried to Papa since 2002 ♡
~We may not have it all together ♥ but together we have it all~
In reality it was my Mom that was the issue the first night. She is a nurse (though not in a hospital) and she was with me overnight. She had issues with cosleeping so I ended up just not sleeping pretty much. He was on me all night and I left early as I could the next morning. The hospital pretty much didn't say anything to midwifery clients and just let the midwives "deal with them" My midwife though cosleeping was a fabulous idea
With DS#2 I birthed in a hospital that is NOT cosleeping friendly. As in they made me sign a waiver when I was there with him at two months old for breathing issues. However DP was with me and he was sleeping either on me or on DP all night. Noone said anything, but then all they really said to me was "Oh, you're the one still nursing her older child..." and when I'd agree that yes I was they basically left since they figured that meant I didn't need anything (which was fine with me ).
Both boys were vaginal births. With DS1 I had an epidural which had worn off by the time I was back to my room pretty much. Plus gravol (which actually hit me harder then the pain stuff) which made me sleepy but wore off before bed time. With DS2 I had nothing for pain at all and no gravol. I did have a PPH though with DS2 that was quite severe a few hours after the birth and that is why DP had him for part of that night. I needed to regain some strength and I made sure if I had him and fell asleep that DP didn't fall asleep so that he was being watched (I was fine with DP sleeping with him while I slept... it wasn't a long labour so he was well rested coming in and he'd had no blood loss )
Mama to Toad (08/06), Frog (01/09)... and new baby Newt born on his due date, Sep. 8, 2010
When my son was hospitalized when he was 8 months old (for nasty ear infection and RSV). I co-slept with him. They required an oxygen monitor be on him, they said nothing about it except the o2 monitor which he should have had on anyways since he had breathing issues. The nurse was so cute. His oxygen dropped once at night and she came in and was paranoid that i'd be sleeping on him... instead it was from him awake and trying to nurse.
I was hospitalized once when DS was 3 months old and they never said anything about him cosleeping lol I was on a heart monitor and every time he'd nurse I always had people come running in thinking I was having some heart issue because he would play with the monitor. We eventually just took it off when I was nursing or pumping.
With child number 3 hopefully we will have our homebirth and it won't matter
Mama, homeschooler, midwife. DD (13yo), DS (11yo), DD (8yo), DD (3yo), somebody new coming in November 2013.
mama to a sweet girl , & 4 silly boys
dd2- same small local rural hospital, this time a vbac! We coslept without issue during our stay. DH couldn't stay since he was spending nights at home with our dd1, so dd2 did spend some time in her "cradle" while I showered and did stuff like that. (the nursing staff was great though and if a nurse was available they'd stay in the room to hold the baby while mama took a shower or ate a meal.
ds- larger regional hospital, again a vbac. They didn't say anything when I slept with ds in arms. No one seemed surprised, but no one mentioned it. I was there over a weekend though and the staff coming on Monday morning (as I checked out) seemed a bit less open to "alternative" ideas so they may have been unhappy with cosleeping.
Dd2 was born at home and slept with us right away.
At one point the nurse needed to tell me something but the babe and I were both sleeping. So she wrote a note and put it on the kiddo so she knew I'd find it.
With DD2 they said "oh, we have to leave the bassinet in here in case you don't want the baby in bed with you."
With DD3 they said I had to leave a light on while she was sleeping with me. I never figured that one out, but whatever.