I didn't read the responses.
Huge cosleeping proponent, but I do have serious safety concerns w/ hospital cosleeping.
I bedshared with both w/o any trouble, but honestly, I didn't feel it was very safe. Such a tiny bed, with the railings, etc. It was very hard to be comfortable and feel safe. Even with my 2nd birth in a more friendly hospital and with more experience, it felt awkward.
With my 1st he mostly stayed in the bassinette thingie, because I felt unfamiliar with babies and unsafe with the situation. There were times that we dosed while nursing. He also did spend time in the nursery because my midwife convinced me I needed my rest and would be best- and the whole hospital stay ways horrid- so I was just an exhausted emotional mess. In the end, the best thing would have been to have gotten the he() out of there and gone home.
I remember panicking that I would drop him because I kept falling asleep with him on my chest. There were not enough pillows to keep my arms around him safely and I was afraid my arm would go down and he would roll off into the arm of the bed or worse, onto the floor etc. I actually walked crying out to the nurses station in the middle of the night (after I had gotten him to sleep) and made them take him back to the nursery. It makes me sick now to think of the time he spent in the nursery-- although they were very responsive about bringing him to me (thankfully). I only wish they had recognizes how distraught I was and helped me feel better.
Now, I had not planned on cosleeping and had just started learning more about it-- so I knew enough to know it would be wonderful, but also enough to know that safe cosleeping required some thought/planning and my assessment of the hospital bed safety was that it was just really not very safe.
At the 2nd hospital w/ dd they were extremely concened when parents were not rooming in and strongly encouraged it. I also witnessed their concern because I was chatting to one and they got all concerned when a mom was walking with dh and baby down to the nursery, they were so releived and happy that it was so dh could help her take her first shower and not because they wanted them to take the baby. It was actually really neat to talk to them about the changes they have made and how they are happy to have an 'empty' nursery, because that means the babies are with mom.
With my dd, I was more confident and wasn't worried about my body-- but the hospital bed was still a challenge. I almost considered plopping the matress on the floor, but there was not enough room to do that and I'm sure that would have given the nurses somethign to talk about. I think I tried to put her in the bassinette and dangle my arm in there, but I've never done really well at actually sleeping unless little one is NEXT to me, so I gave up on that and just had her next to me and slept very little.
If you are not an experienced cosleeper, I would prepare by familiarizing yourself with some general safety information and then think about how that might apply to a hospital bed. I do think I asked for an extra pillow (to help me position my body)and had bought one of my pillows that I always travel with that makes me feel more comfortable when there is an 'edge' involved. And rolled up towels around the arm rest of the bed.
In hotel rooms or visiting family, I usually move a matress onto the floor, roll up towels for the edges, or bring my pillows, all with serve to make me feel the bed is safer... Although with an infant, they rarely (prob only if napping and I left the bed) left the space between my side and my arm around them, making much of my preparation unnecessary (-;
Jessica.. Falling in love all over again..... Dh, Joshua Rebeccaand . for Laura