ANYWAY, I'm wondering if there is any correlation drawn between what a MC is like in terms of predicting what labor is like. My MC were so fast and short and intense and then....just OVER suddenly, I'm wondering if that means I might have a fast labor? Or, because they were such early MC, is it unlikely that I could draw a correlation between the two?
Anyone have any experience with this or thoughts on the matter?
I laboured 21 hours with my first. My second miscarriage lasted about 7. I'd take the 21 hours of labour over even an hour of the miscarriage, any day. My miscarriages were all between my first and second child, so I can't tell you whether they signal anything about your labour, though.
For me, at least, the miscarriage was pain was more relentless than the labour pain. The contractions of labour gave me a chance to breathe in between (mostly). The contractions(?) of miscarrying didn't. I just hurt like heck until it was all over with.
Honestly, even though the contractions are a very similar kind of pain, I don't think miscarriage and labour are handled by the body the same way. I have nothing to base that on, except my own experiences, though.
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I can't say if the pattern would have predicted labor patterns, because she was induced, so labor did not go the way it *would* have if uninterfered with.
I am very sorry for your losses.
The 8 week one was the most painful and occurred a few days before a planned abortion, so I really don't think emotional/psychological issues were what made it more painful than childbirth. That miscarriage took maybe 48 hours. I spent most of it curled up in bed surprised at how much it hurt.
The 4+ week miscarriage was about as painful as a really awful period and took over a week to complete. This was a planned pregnancy, but honestly it was early enough that (for me) it wasn't that traumatic psychologically. It was hard physically because there was a lot of blood loss.
My labor was 6 hours, at times uncomfortable, but never really what I'd describe as painful. It was, however, gross. The early stages actually were mostly spent on the toilet and I did puke before leaving for the hospital. The cramping with my both of my miscarriages though was both more painful and uncomfortable than actual contractions. I did have a lot of blood loss in the days following childbirth and ended up taking medication (methergine) to help my uterus return to normal, so in that respect it was like a more intense version of miscarriage.
I know it's easier said than done, but try not to let your memories of pain during miscarriage influence your mindset going into childbirth. The contractions associated with delivering a healthy, full-term baby are a very positive natural physiological function and fear can inhibit them and/or make them more painful. If you can let go of fear and envision what it is the contractions are doing (helping your cervix to dilate so your baby can be born) I think that makes them a lot more easy to deal with. And sometimes painful contractions have a function too, like encouraging you to change position in order to help the baby be born easier. I think the biggest difference between a first trimester miscarriage and childbirth is that a full-term (or near-term) baby is actually sentient and aware and experiencing the contractions with you... knowing that my daughter was feeling every contraction that I felt (and understanding what they meant a lot less!) helped me keep my labor in perspective.
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