Liz, I am very, very sorry that you lost your sweet child. I am especially sorry that you didn't get the care you needed and deserved. Although, my son didn't die, it was a close call with weeks in NICU. He was harmed by my OB. Born healthy and then damaged. I was also harmed by this same OB, and have experienced the lasting effects of that for the 14 years since his birth.
It's all about experience and risk/benefit relationships. I would have NEVER used another OB, though I know in my rational brain that different OBs would have treated my son and I differently. I have seen OBs take such sweet, careful care of mothers that our birth center transferred, and give them and their babies EXACTLY the care that they needed, that our MW staff couldn't provide. But for me and mine, the risk is just too high to chance. So, I do understand your perspective, though I cannot imagine your pain at losing your child.
And, I fully, completely agree (and this will likely get me some flames) that the vast differences in midwifery education for professional (non-nurse) midwives and the lack of a consistent back-up system does more harm than good for mothers and babies. If a midwife is worried about or scared to transfer a woman in a timely manner, or she's practicing without protocol or a system of accountability, women and babies are not safe.
It's why I feel that legislation is very important. It protects consumers, their babies, the midwives and the profession. It only takes one bad apple, well, you know the rest.
My sincere condolences on your child, and I hope you're on your way to peace.