Mine is super thick, coarse, and wavy. It was down to my waist, all one lenght, when my daughter was born. Let me tell you, before she was born, I loooved my long hair. I thought it looked chic and beautiful. Tons of waves. I never even spent that much time on my hair. But afterwards...
She used to rip it out even when it was braided. It started to look straggly and overwhelmingly huge if it wasn't braided - too thick to ponytail, too massive to put it in a quick bun, absolutely no crown volume whatsoever, no matter what I did, even pinning didn't help.... My face practically disappeared if I left it loose. So when she was 6 months old I chopped it to my shoulders. It looked awesome, super healthy. No more tangles, so easy to care for - a fresh start! Felt like "me" again, not like a "mom" cut, which is what I was afraid of. When I started shedding at 12 months, it was less drainclogging at half the length. I've maintained it at my shoulders for about a year now and I think I'm ready to start growing it again. When it gets long again, it will be healthier than it was before. No more stragglies!
DD1 6/2009 DD2 5/1/2013-5/5/2013 (HIE) DS 3/2014
It's down to the middle of my back now and I think I might grow it a few more inches and then just keep it trimmed. I like to wear it down (I know, I know) but the ability to quickly pull it back in a bun, ponytail, or braid is killer. Short hair doesn't look good on me anyway and I'm having enough problems with my body image right now without adding "ugly hair" to the list.
Loving wife and mama to my sweet little son (Fall 2008) and a beautiful baby girl (Fall 2010)
When a stupid man is doing something he is ashamed of, he always declares that it is his duty. --George Bernard Shaw
As for when it starts falling out after birth, mine was ~3-4 months PP.
Katie - Married to Mike 06/02/01, Mom to Sydney Anne born 11/21/09 and Alice Maeryn & Oliver Thomas born 04/24/13
The only change I made to my hip-length, thick, wavvy hair about a baby was to go no-wash. I brush it out well every day with a spray bottle of water, essential oils, and mild conditioner. I braid it and soak it in water when I take a bath, then brush it out. I actually wash it with shampoo probably once every few months.
I would never cut my hair. I haven't found it hard to deal with at all, having a baby. We'll see how I feel after number two comes around. =)
Arrrghh! I have these and loathe them!
I also cut mine pre-birth, for the reasons OP stated. Big, sad horrid regret =(