If you did keep your hair long what tips would you give to make things work out better? Should I invest in scrunchies? How do you keep little fingers out of it? When does it start falling out post-baby?
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That said, it also makes a difference how "high maintenance" your long hair is, IYKWIM. Personally, since my long hair is straight-ish and fine-ish, it's very easy to make it look "socially acceptable." I have friends with very thick, curly and/or 3C hair who spend more time straightening it and maintaining it, and I could see where keeping it long might be too much to deal with post-baby.
It doesn't need to be washed as often was much easier to get out of the way when my son wanted to mess with it.
I would also really consider carefully that you prefer your hair longer. Everyone is different, but I think that it is often hard enough to feel good about your appearance after a new baby without having a haircut that isn't flattering.
I'd vote to keep it long.
I do miss my hair from an aesthetic standpoint (especially during Halloween or the Ren Faire! I never needed a wig lol). I do not miss taking care of it. Short hair is much easier, and right now that is what matters more to my sanity.
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Nope. My hair has not been an issue at all. I braid it and pin it up when I get dressed in the morning, and I'm good for the entire day. Wash every couple of days. And even with newborns washing it wasn't all that hard.
I do miss my long hair but, I'd had it cut after our wedding so it wasn't long long when J was born. It was too short for me to do more than pull it back in a messy ponytail and I hate that look on me. Some people can pull it off really well but I am not one of them. I end up with straggly wisps around my face and this ugly, awkward thing at the back. And I had to tie it back somehow because otherwise it was always in her eyes.
If it had been long enough that I could do my standard long-haired twist-held-with-a-spike-clip hair do then I probably would have kept it long.
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I agree with what others have said. It depends on the needs of your hair but for myself, being able to just pull it back in a ponytail would make the most sense as far as maintenance.
Scrunchies or soft elastics are good to keep it from breaking, and french braids keep shorter pieces tucked in.
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My goal is to do a long single braid down my back. But, if I let my hair get too long, the weight of it pinned up or pulled back gives me headaches.
I have decided that short hair, while it looks great and fresh on me, requires too much of my time and attention.
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However, it is easiest to maintain my fine thin hair when it is long. It is actually MORE work when it is short, because I have to wash/style it more often, and it usually looks AWFUL when I wake up in the morning (which means no quick out-the-door if we are running late...at least, not without a hat of some sort!). It is collar-bone length right now, so I can easily pin up the front or pull it back in a tail if I don't have a chance to shower. I'm a little worried about the PP shedding, but this pregnancy actually changed the texture of my hair
I plan on cutting an inch or so off to clean it up a bit...but that's it. I leave it up in a ponytail 99% of the time. My son learned quickly that grabbing it hurts and that's been the focus of a few tantrums...
I have actually never noticed the pp shedding...I shed a lot anyway, a bit more pp doesn't make any difference
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braids are your friend. two over the shoulder braids or one long one down your back. everyone's hair is different but i find that when i do the two braids, it's easy to go longer without upkeep and looks relatively decent. it also keeps little fingers from pulling out individual strands, which is what hurts. yanking on thick braids doesn't hurt. hair fallout is a pain pp, but there's not much you can do about it.
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Keep it long! I've known many people who have regretted it and made them feel horrible after they gave birth.
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I really think it is the thickness of my hair. I assure you there is such thing as "too thick" and in pregnancy, I reach that point and go far beyond it...
I had shorter hair already when pregnant with ds 2. I kept meaning to get it cut again prior to his birth, but it was still long enough to pull back during labor which turned out to be nice. Plus then my first 2 hours postpartum free time was a trip to the salon which actually turned out to be really nice to get pampered post baby. We often try to pamper ourselves when pregnant but then often don't continue to or find the time to post baby, kwim.
DS, 10/07. Allergies: peanut, egg, wheat. We've added dairy back in. And taken it back out again. It causes sandpaper skin with itchy patches and thrashing during sleep. Due w/ #2 late April, 2012.
For me, keeping little fingers out was a matter of not really allowing it to happen in the first place. If either of my kiddos got curious about my hair, I'd distract them from it, even at a young age. If DS (1 yr) gets too curious now, I just pull it into a ponytail.
I've noticed an increase in shedding around 2 months pp. I just brush my hair a few extra times to get it out and am sure to brush it before I get in the shower to make sure it doesn't clog the drain.
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i just kept the ends trimmed to keep it from getting dready.
braids were helpful in the newborn days.
my hair fell out when he was 4 to 7 months old,
and then i had these totally awesome little two inch things growing up...
i'm glad i kept it long though.
I kept mine long - and I mean, hip-length - but only by sheer bloody-mindedness. :p I did NOT want to cave and get the "mom cut" - having long hair is part of my identity, as pathetic as that sounds. Unfortunately I was also doing water-only washing at the time, which wasn't as low-maintenance as advertised, for me. My hair got pretty gross without a lot of boar bristle brushing and grooming. So after a few months I switched to baking soda/apple cider vinegar washes, which made things considerably easier - and since then I've switched up to all sorts of methods, depending on the day. Conditioner-only, Indian herbs, however the spirit moves me.
Honestly, my hair (which is now longer than hip-length - I can sit on it) is a pain more often than not, but I like having it around for the days I actually want to do a fancy crown braid (a la my avatar!) or whatever. And it never looked good short when I was a kid, so I don't want to risk it. After this baby, I might get it cut shorter - like, back to waist-length - because it does actually make a difference in terms of feeling more low-maintenance, but I can still do all my hairstyles.
I always wear my hair up anyway, so baby-grabbing was never an issue. (DD does try to "help" me brush it when it's down, though - ulp!) Bunned or braided hair is really impressively baby-proof - whereas a chin-length bob has all these little tempting dangly ends that can't be secured without a good deal of fuss (cornrows? lots of gel? a really wide headband? I dunno!).
Also, yeah, hennaing postpartum sucks. It's a pain at the best of times, but I had pretty ghastly roots by the time I got around to hennaing after I had DD! Still, that's not a hair length issue... and I wasn't willing to give up my red hair. At least it was cheap and didn't require me to put clothes on and go to the hairdresser!
So anyway: I know PP haircuts can make some ladies feel like new women. But if you WANT to keep your hair, fight for it! :) Don't just chop it because that's what mums do - chances are you'll regret it, and feeling sad about that is the last thing you need post-partum.
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