hmmm. i hope this is taken in the spirit intended...
i believe that it is good for some things to remain mysteries. so many things are given to children at such a young age. they have to grow up so quickly, and deal with so many things that never were part of childhood before.
now, i agree that they shouldn't be taught that childbirth is scary, dangerous, bad, dirty, so on and so forth. but i also think we shouldn't rush to bring them into the birth rooms. of course, i understand that some families have toddlers at births and that it works out fine... but i've also seen toddlers seriously overwhelmed at births, and it felt almost cruel keeping them there.
it's like the messages we give our children about sex... i want there to be some anticipation, some excitement, but not to the level of "forbidden fruit." i want it to feel more like, "when you are ready to learn about this, you will."
my children knew i was birthing at home, and they were sleeping in the house when i did give birth, but i didn't choose to wake them or have them in the birthing room. but this time, i will have my 13 year old daughter around... if she chooses to be there. it's time for her to learn about this stuff, and i think she's equipped to handle the potential intensity and power of labor.
i just think that maybe we are asking a lot of our smaller children, to witness something that intense. some kids might be able to handle it, but i think a lot of kids aren't quite there yet and we might be doing a disservice expecting them to.
just my 2 cents.