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#1 of 1 Old 03-27-2012, 11:32 AM - Thread Starter
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I love hearing from woman who are content, even truly proud of how they brought their babies into the world. Most often I hear this of women who went through a completely unmedicated birth experience, though I found relief in once hearing a mother claim, "I loved my C-section". It took me back a moment- as I know so many C-sections are viewed as worst case scenarios, some even may arguably be performed unnessicarily, though the fact that someone was proud of herself bringing her baby into the world, even with surgical interventions was wonderful to me after I stopped to think about it. We women are far too hard on ourselves by times- let's celebrate ourselves and all our experiences a little more instead!

Though I appreciate now all that I went through to bring my twins into the world, for so long
I was very hung up over having succum to pain and opting to receive an epidural. I would never think any less of any woman for doing the same in her birth experience, but I still allowed myself to feel deprived of some natural birth rite of passage, and felt I didn't commit fully to the job of bringing these beautiful creatures into the world. It has taken a long time to release these feelings.

I know there are people who go through tremendously tramadic birth experiences, and I don't want to in any way take from the credit these women deserve in thriving through the feelings that would come along with such a thing. I'm just recognizing that I allowed myself to feel some real sadness over merely accepting the support of medical intervention, and I would imagine otter women have experienced similar feelings to this too.

I'd love to hear from anyone who can relate. And what did you do to work through the feeling of loss for a more ideal birth scene or experience?

Happy chatting! Cheers.


"Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you."

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