I hope that this post finds you and your babe well. I am proof that anyone can breastfeed if you have the will there's always the way. My advice to you is not to accept even the idea of failure.
Hmmm... let me do this in list form:
1. Avoid pumping if you can. I didn't know left from right when it came to pumping or bf'ing and while in the hospital they gave me the pump- so I pumped... enough to fill thre mini-fridges, before a nurse finally educated me to the fact that I was convincing my body I'd just had sixtuplets and needed to NOT pump so much (my baby is a preemie so he was being gavaged my bm and nursing so I DID HAVE TO pump, but still!). Once home it became evident that pumping got in the way of his natural control over my milk supply. Problems were created via pumping.
2. Your nipples may be sore and burning but using that nipple lube will just delay them toughening up... I had to stop the stuff cold turkey and within a week they were pain free and I could wear shirts without that oily stain on each boob!
3. Don't worry about if your babe is getting enough milk. She is! Unless she's not peeing or pooping you need not be anxious about your production. It's a nat'l process that works so well!
4. your baby may nurse every hour for months... maybe every 3... to each baby his/her own desire. Don't worry if your babies schedule is different than another mother may report of her baby.
5. Be comfortable NIP'ing... do it often so it becomes a regular thing and not an uncomfortable moment.
6. If your baby is big enough nursing at night can be done while you rest! Lay on your side and lead babe too the nipple and latch on. She can wake and nurse to her desire and you can snooze during that time too!