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the uterine "massage" i received after childbirth to get my sticky placenta out.  it was awful


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Death of my loved one.

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I have had 2 natural child births. With my first, I bled heavily and my placenta didn't detach. So my midwife removed it manually without warning or numbing me. That hurt way worse than the contractions and pushing.
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I have had 2 natural child births. With my first, I bled heavily and my placenta didn't detach. So my midwife removed it manually without warning or numbing me. That hurt way worse than the contractions and pushing.

Oh my god, that is awful! I am so sorry you went through that. greensad.gif After my second daughter was born, I had to have my placenta manually removed in the ER. I had the NICEST doctors ever, they were so sweet and so sorry to hurt me, and they gave me morphine and kept asking if I wanted more because they didn't want me to feel it, but it was still absolutely awful. I remember feeling her hand scraping the top of my uterus and involuntarily trying to push her hand back out. It took a whole bunch of tries. I can't imagine how much worse it would have felt without warning or morphine.
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First birth was easy - it was long, slow and steady and very manageable. I didn't even know I was going through transition. Second Birth was something else. I was induced and went from 5cm dialated to baby being out in less than 15 mins. However, worse than labour pain was the headache I got from sunstroke once, and gallbladder pain when I was in Latin America. I think those were worse. I still would give birth again any day, my experiences haven't made me fear it. I feel so sad when i meet people or hear of people that are absolutely terrified of it before they've ever had the chance to experience it.

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I would take childbirth over when I broke my toe any day.


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I had a broken finger a year ago, and it really wasn't nearly as painful as I would have expected. Childbirth was worse. It throbbed some that night, but not enough to keep me from sleeping, and I think I took a few advil for it over the next few days in order to get through work with a broken right middle finger. But it doesn't really register very high on my list on painful things. Maybe a 5/10.

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Thank you for your empathy. Needless to say, I used a different midwife with my second and had a much better experience.

I am so sorry you had to go through the pain of losing your baby. I can't even begin to imagine the pain. Thank you for sharing. It was very brave of you and touched me deeply.
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If you've experienced both the pain of childbirth and something that hurt worse, tell us about it!

For me, the pain of a bad gall bladder was worse than childbirth. I can't think of anything else that hurt more.


Ear infections.  I've had outer ear infections three times and the pain was worse than natural childbirth.  Lasts longer, too.


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<3 to all the moms who have lost babies! Luckily, I've only suffered great physical pain - no emotional pain to anywhere near that level.
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As for physical pain, I agree that some migraines are more painful than childbirth, to the PP who said that. And I had food poisoning once that was at least equivalent, pain-wise.
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Ear infections.  I've had outer ear infections three times and the pain was worse than natural childbirth.  Lasts longer, too.

I'm inclined to agree with this. I've only really had one ear infection in my life, but it progressed from "Oh, my ear hurts a little, that's odd" to spontaneous eardrum rupture in under 12 hours. HORRIBLE pain. I had whole new sympathy for little kids who get ear infections all the time after that.

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Posting without reading to see if anyone else has shared this but I burned my retinas once (snow blindness) and that hurt worse than childbirth. Way more painful, way more scary, and no perks whatsoever. ;-) 


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Posting without reading to see if anyone else has shared this but I burned my retinas once (snow blindness) and that hurt worse than childbirth. Way more painful, way more scary, and no perks whatsoever. ;-) 

Yikes!!! I didn't even know that could happen!

I threw my back out a couple times really bad, the last time just a few weeks ago and I am pregnant. AWFUL. I had bad back labor with my first and it was easier than the pain I was experiencing.

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I would take childbirth over when I broke my toe any day.

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Idk, I was in transition for an hour, that was pretty stinkin painful!!!

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I had food poisoning once that was worse. The intestinal cramps were outrageous, and it was made worse because you don't know when it will end! At least with labor theres an end in sight, and something to look forward to.


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Losing my son, of course, was the first thing that came to mind. 

 

 

The thing that has hurt the worse in my life was having an internal/external version during the delivery of baby B. That was the most excruciating physical pain I have ever endured. Thank god it was fast. 


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This is going to really piss off some people, but even my mom who gave birth completely drug free, agrees:

 

When you bend an acrylic finger nail really, really hard, bordering on tearing off the nail underneath.  It throbs for a looooong time and hurts for a few days after that.  And yet, my stupid a$$ would go back for more acrylics.  It's much more painful than tearing the actual nail, I'm guessing partly because of the weight of the acrylic as the blood flows to the injured area.

 

That is the worst pain I have felt; no surgery, infection, or injury has come close.

 

ETA: There mere thought of great harm coming to my son is so terrifying and painful that I have broken down dizzy, shuddering, and sobbing a few time times just edging an intrustive thought, reading bad news that has happened to other children,or seeing him almost have an accident. Emotional anguish is definitely incomparable to physical pain in most ways.  I initially thought it was hormones to feel this afraid, but much to my shock the fear has only increased as he has gotten older.  

 

Human beings have an amazing capacity to heal, and thank goodness we do because our families and other children need us to.

 

I wanted to add that I was sexually assaulted at 15 years old.  This physical pain, humiliation, terror, and continued suffering is beyond really intellectualizing, but still is nothing compared to the fear of harm coming to my son. 

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Honestly, giving birth and then having my baby be really sick and die, and not being able to do anything about it. That hurt worse than giving birth.

 

 

I'm just crying, and so sorry for your baby.

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I'm just crying, and so sorry for your baby.

 

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I have had 2 C-sections so from that perspective, the worst physical pain I have ever endured was for a surgery. It was worse than 2 C-section recoveries. I had a breast mass (benign) removed a few years ago. They had to "mark" the mass first before the surgery. The morning of, I had to report to the radiology department before pre-op to get this done. They brought me into a room and set me up in a mammography machine. They visualized the mass then stuck a quite wide needle into the side of my boob all the way through to where the mass was located (just my luck, in the middle), and then inserted it into the mass. I have a high tolerance for pain, but this was no joke. I had no anesthesia, no numbing medicine... nothing. I was crying it hurt so bad... I never do that. To make matters worse, I was hungry/thirsty because I had to be NPO after midnight and was nervous about the status of the mass, etc. So with that situation and the pain, I passed out while sitting up in the mammography machine. Such a weird experience. It took 3 people to remove me from the machine... so I'm told. It hurt so fucking bad. That sucked. The mental anguish between surgery day and the day I got my results wasn't pleasant either. Oh, and I got my results on Christmas Eve 2008. Thepathology results were my Christmas present that year.


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I haven't really experienced much pain aside from childbirth. Never broken a bone, never had a migraine, haven't had surgery since I was a kid (and I don't remember that hurting, I thought the whole thing was wonderfully exciting!) I had pelvic girdle pain when pregnant with DD, which was horrible, and I've had the odd agonising muscle cramp and bad sunburn and so on, and one nasty time at the dentist... but compared to childbirth? Not even close.

 

Except... after DD was born, my cervix clamped down over the placenta and it got stuck. I had to have a doctor remove it with forceps. My midwife told me in no uncertain terms to suck HARD on the gas, and I did - with the strange result that I could observe in a detached, uncaring way that this was the most horrific pain I'd ever felt. It was weird. It wasn't too bad because of the gas, but if I hadn't had it it would have been excruciating. And being at the end of a traumatic labour, when I'd hoped the horrible pain had finally ceased, didn't help psychologically either.

 

And to all the mothers here who've lost babies, I'm so sorry. The fact that you can keep going with life shows so much strength. grouphug.gif


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Firstly, I want to extend my sympathy to all the mamas who have emotional scars (losing babies in pregnancy or after birth; sexual abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse, and any others who I have either missed or who did not feel comfortable sharing their personal story). I can only imagine what you have gone through and are going through, and emotional scars can be the most painful and longest lasting of any pain. Hugs to all of you!

 

Since this is my first (due in November), I asked around to my friends & family who have already given birth for their opinions. Here are a few:

  • My mother: Calcified disc in her back & the surgery to repair it. The continued nerve damage from the back problems.
  • My sister in law: The Pitocin shot after her birth to make the bleeding stop (especially since she really wasn't bleeding excessively anyway). The multiple injections of Lidocaine all around her toenails when she had ingrown nails that had to be cut out.
  • My cousin: The physical & emotional pain of the healing from her "emergency" Cesarean section that turned out to not actually be an emergency. The 6+ months of pain from the incision following the surgery plus the PTSD from how terribly she was treated at the hospital make insignificant the few days of mild pain from her tears followed by a couple weeks of achiness after her natural vaginal birth. Also, the cervical checks they did in the hospital for the first child (she lost count of how many they did but sometimes were as often as every 10-15 minutes) were far more excruciating than any of the contractions, excluding the Pitocin-induced ones that she said nothing compares to.
  • My husband's aunt: Broken clavicle was way, way worse than both her births (she had 2 C-sections, 1 emergent and 1 just because she'd already had a prior C-section). She did have a short period of contractions and early active labor with the first before they found out he was in trouble.
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MOHS procedure on my nose to remove a deep basal skin cancer.  8 hours while awake of 40 lidocaine injections and digging out of nasal skin tissue with a sharp scooping device.  followed by 23 stitches to repair the damage.  ugly, not fun.


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I had a bad stomach virus that hurt my upper abdomen badly enough I thought it was my gallbladder, and it came really close, but so far nothing has surpassed the pain of birth for me. Each one was more painful than the last. After #4, if I were to get pregnant again I would seriously consider a c-section to avoid the pain. I have broken bones and broken teeth and had oral surgery without being knocked out.


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Erinmattsmom- why didn't they give some kind of pain relief for that procedure?! That is terrifying :(


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