Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: Settling in the Sound
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First it was an unwillingness to birth in a hospital. I didn't feel like I would be "safe" there, with people poking and prodding me, knives and needles and infection all over the place. My first was born in the hospital, and while it was not a BAD experience, many things happened there that were unpleasant, and I later learned, not evidence based practices.
From there, I became determined that I would ONLY birth in my own home. I had become convinced of the safety of homebirth. Further, I grew to believe that MANY of the problems in birth were actually CAUSED by the attendants. Regardless of whether in the home, or hospital, or birth center. This is not meant in a cruel way, but the difficult in listening to your body increases exponentially the more you rely on an "expert" to tell you what to do, when to do it, etc.
For a time, I thought we would hire a midwife anyway. My husband was not keen on the idea of a homebirth. He worried about hemorage and tearing, amoung other things. He also didn't want to shell out the almost $4000 for a midwife. It was a very difficult time for me. Ultimately though, it was clear that there was NO money for a midwife, particularily when I didn't really want anyone else there when I gave birth anyway!
It came down to this: A woman's body is MADE to give birth. Left completely alone, and unprepared, probably 90% of births would go just fine. Prepared emotionally, physically, and mentally, outcomes improve even more. But regardless of where you give birth, or with whom, there are NO GAURANTEES. I think most UCers are aware of that, and ready to take on complete responsibilty for their births. Scary, but true. Ever heard the saying, "Birth is as safe as life gets"?
Laura, mama to J (15), N (12), E (9) , M (6), and our little caboose, R (3).