I know all of the reasons why I WANT a natural labor for my third baby. Its all the same reason that I chose natural for my first two babies.
My labors are shorter than most, but insanely intense... I don't feel like I can do it again. This is how i felt during my second pregnancy, as my first labor was EXTREMELY hard, and I hit a major brick wall during transition, but I just took my second labor as it came and made it through without intervention. It was however equally difficult in different ways and the recovery was traumatic and i had a PP hemorrhage and passed out from blood loss. Eck. not fun to think about.
And, that delivery was only 10 months ago! I (the most fertile human being on the face of the earth my DP jokes) conceived very fast, and I don't feel i have had adequate time to heal from my labor both physically and emotionally/spiritually. I am having so much anxiety about facing another labor. I find myself considering an epidural... but deep down its not what i want. I am just scared, and a little worried my body won;t handle it well since i haven't healed.
But its not something i can stop! the baby is coming and i cant change that. theres only one way out. which is why i'm freaking out. meh.
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I agree with pokey about giving yourself permission to see how you feel when you're in labor. I'm not sure about your reasons for not wanting an epidural since you didn't state them here, so I can't address any specific things about it, but I can tell you my personal experience with it and that is that it really helped me during the delivery of my daughter. One of my deliveries was all natural, and the pain was quite traumatic and I still don't like to think about the delivery. With my other daughter, I got an epidural about halfway through the labor. Before that, the pain was very, very intense, and getting the epidural helped relax me and turned the whole thing into a very peaceful experience.
Have you considered having a doula? I think having one is vital for all births, but short and super intense can so easily feel like you're dying or something horrible is going wrong! As a doula I've been with moms who had less than an hour of labor and still felt I was the reason they survived with their sanity. You really might want to get yourself a really supportive doula this time around. ALSO - a great book to work through these feelings with is Birthing From Within. I highly recommend it. You don't have to do any of the activities, but it really does help you mentally and emotionally prepare. Best wishes for this coming baby!!!
He was born three days ago, naturally and fast as the others. The time came and while the fear was still there my body did what it had to and so did I. My DH was super supportive and that support was crucial.
Also, something to think about. One nurse asked if I'd had any meds and the one who attended my birth laughed and said it wouldn't matter if I'd taken anything because he would've come too soon for them to have an effect. It helped me, even after the fact, to know I'd made the choice right for me.
Not sure that this ramble post will help you, just trying to say it will be ok! No matter what you choose or do.
me, my man, and our boys (1/08 and 3/11)