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Ok, well I had two hospital births, one with demerol in the IV drip and one with an epidural then I had an all natural with my third, in a birthing center with a midwife. All of the reasons listed here are the reasons I chose it. DD had meconium staining and Im guessing caused by fetal distress caused by the epi (though there were no signs of it and no proof, but somethng caused it). And afterwards he was so much more alert and he nursed right away (dd took weeks to get to nurse properly). No pitocin, no IV. The baby never left my side, he was awake and alert, I went home three hours after birth. THe midwife came to my house for the two day checkup. I could get up and walk. I had tons of attention and help afterwards (the hospital staff abandoned me due to them being swamped that day with births and then I had to pee but still couldnt really walk yet). So yes, all the reasons I wanted the natural birth were right and good. But I never experinaced pain like that and I never got that endorphine rush other women talk about, I never felt more alive or in touch with other women or any of that. I was wishing like heck I had an epi availible. Now, after the fact, Im glad I didnt. But right after birth, I had envisioned nursing him right away and instead I just wanted to be left alone with my feelings of intense relief that it was over.
Maybe I should have learned some kind of pain relief techniques other than just the breathing. Immediatley after I felt better than I did with my hospital births, the tear healed up with almost no pain, and my after contractions werent near as bad (from no pitocin?) but two days later I was tired, I felt like somehad had beat my entire body with a bat. I dont want to ever go through that again. But knowing what I do I dont know if I could have an epi either, which leaves me almost not wanting the fourth and last baby that we had planned on having. Maybe with more time, ds is only three weeks old right now. I want the epi for myself, but then feel guilty thinking about the effects on the baby.
Reading everyone elses responses makes me wonder what the heck went wrong, why I didnt experiance it like everyone else seems to have.
~Me, mama to soapbox boy (1991), photo girl (1997), gadget girl (2003), jungle boy (2005), fan boy (2007) and twirly girl (2011). Twenty five years of tree hugging, breastfeeding, cosleeping, unschooling, craziness!