My Vagina Monologue - Mothering Forums

Forum Jump: 
 
Thread Tools
Old 03-21-2005, 06:30 PM - Thread Starter
 
homebirthing's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2002
Location: Minnesota
Posts: 2,663
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I just saw The Vagina Monologue's last night for the first time. I went onto the site and looked up violence. They left this one out, so I made my own.



*edited because I am not sure about the new Mothering UA agreement and I do not give permission for this to be printed anywhere.
Sucks.

sarah

wife - mother - midwife

CIRCUMCISION

The more you know, the worse it gets.

homebirthing is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Old 03-21-2005, 06:41 PM
 
medaroge's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2004
Posts: 1,120
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Wow, Just wow, that is amazing. Thank you for writing it.
medaroge is offline  
Old 03-21-2005, 07:00 PM
 
darsmama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2004
Posts: 3,984
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Sarah, its obvious you have other talents besides being a great doula!
darsmama is offline  
Old 03-21-2005, 07:14 PM
 
cmb123's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2004
Location: Connecticut
Posts: 1,440
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Beautiful Sarah. Thank you so much for sharing that.
cmb123 is offline  
Old 03-21-2005, 07:25 PM
 
Lucky Charm's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2002
Location: brett favre's house
Posts: 7,478
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Amazing.

I saw the Vagina Monolougues for the first time last night too, and loved it. I want my 17 yr old daughter to watch it so she understands and respects the power and beauty of her vagina.

Like you Sarah, i have the happy husband stitch, and it was and still is awful for me. Almost 15 yrs later it still hurts...my vagina hurts.


Thank you for putting your thoughts into powerful words for us to read.

Lucky Charm is offline  
Old 03-21-2005, 09:58 PM
 
tinyshoes's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: Minneapolis USA
Posts: 1,702
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
tinyshoes is offline  
Old 03-21-2005, 10:09 PM
 
Tummy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2005
Location: In her daddys eyes
Posts: 3,413
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I DONT KNOW WHAT TO SAY!!!!! WOW!
I am at a loss for words, never read anything like that, or perhaps I am at a loss for words because I felt as though I was reading what my vagina has felt!
WOW!!! thank you !!!!
Tummy is offline  
Old 03-21-2005, 10:30 PM
 
candiland's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Waiting for Calgon to take me away.
Posts: 3,890
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Absolutely amazing. Really, really great.
candiland is offline  
Old 03-21-2005, 10:52 PM
 
China white's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2004
Location: My eyes on Mr. Smith, & my hands...
Posts: 2,549
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)


Wow ~ what an amazing piece to read! You described my first birth to a T, including the 'happy husband' stitch. Thank you for giving a voice to the experinces of far too many women. You have a gift with words.
China white is offline  
Old 03-21-2005, 10:58 PM
 
ian'smommaya's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2004
Location: In the apothecary working with the fae.
Posts: 4,071
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
thanks you.

Visit the Holiday Helper thread and join in on the giving and fun! Loving and working with the plants. I have a store! or two!
ian'smommaya is offline  
Old 03-21-2005, 11:01 PM
 
cottonwood's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2001
Posts: 7,153
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
You should send it to Eve Ensler. The VM really need something in there about birthrape (as well as the beauty in non-institutionalized birth, for that matter.) Really. Here is the webpage: http://www.vday.org/main.html
cottonwood is offline  
Old 03-21-2005, 11:20 PM
 
hubris's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2003
Location: VA
Posts: 5,282
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I'm crying. I'm not sure whether to call your poetry beautiful, or horrible (what it describes, not your writing, which is wonderful), or both (beautifully horrible?), but either way, it expresses how I have felt a million times since Griffin was born about my own episiotomy.

Linda, "birthrape" is an excellent term for this. The physical and emotional repercussions run deep.

And it occurs to me that I have never heard women talk about episiotomy scars - what they look like, what they feel like, how they feel about them.

may my heart always be open to little birds who are the secrets of living whatever they sing is better than to know  - e.e. cummings
hubris is offline  
Old 03-22-2005, 12:08 AM
 
Debstmomy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2004
Location: I prefer REALITY, How about You????
Posts: 3,168
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
That was amazing. Can I print a copy of it for my Midwife, giving you full credit, of course?
Again, amazing.

Cristina - "If you find it in your heart to care for somebody else, you will have succeeded." Maya Angelou
Debstmomy is offline  
Old 03-22-2005, 12:15 AM
 
jessikate's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2002
Location: Capitol City
Posts: 1,729
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Sarah, that was an amazing piece of writing. Thank you so much for sharing it. I think you should send a copy to Jeanne, if you haven't already. She'll appreciate it very much, I'm sure.
jessikate is offline  
Old 03-22-2005, 12:27 AM
 
Full Heart's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2004
Location: Surronded by Dairy Farms AZ
Posts: 3,603
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Wonderful! Beyond words. YOu are very talented.

Michelle

Expecting #9.  Always busy hsing.
Full Heart is offline  
Old 03-22-2005, 12:38 AM
 
Gemini's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2003
Location: What a mess.
Posts: 6,992
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Wow. That was great.
Gemini is offline  
Old 03-22-2005, 12:39 AM
 
chickadee79's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2005
Location: PA
Posts: 426
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Beautiful. Absolutely Beautiful. Thank you.
chickadee79 is offline  
Old 03-22-2005, 12:42 AM
 
Turtle Woman's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: South Bay LA
Posts: 705
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Thank you for putting beautiful words to my feelings about a horrible situation I was in 8 years ago. I was not cut but believe my tears and scars were the fault of the Dr.

Mommy to Ryah 12, Reanna 11, Parker 6 and Cooper 3 months
Turtle Woman is offline  
Old 03-22-2005, 12:56 AM - Thread Starter
 
homebirthing's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2002
Location: Minnesota
Posts: 2,663
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Thank you everyone. It is so sad to me that so many of you understand all too well my words and where I am coming from. I did send it into the link that was posted. And jessikate, I will forward this onto Jeanne.

Deb- You can send this to your midwife with my blessings. Thank you!

I was very releasing to write this. I would love to hear others Vagina Monologues. Please feel free to post them here. This is a safe place and a supporting one.


Sarah

wife - mother - midwife

CIRCUMCISION

The more you know, the worse it gets.

homebirthing is offline  
Old 03-22-2005, 01:17 AM
 
fiddledebi's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2003
Location: Evanston, IL
Posts: 1,284
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Hallelujah! Heck yeah! Woo hoo!

That was fantastic!
fiddledebi is offline  
Old 03-22-2005, 02:47 AM
 
Persephone's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2004
Posts: 3,651
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Can I just say thank you to every woman who has talked about this? I'm giving birth at home, and because of your experience, and your talking about it, you've made it so one less woman will have to suffer with the "happy husband' stitch.
Persephone is offline  
Old 03-22-2005, 12:23 PM
 
Lisalee2's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2001
Location: Department of Redundancy Dept.
Posts: 1,892
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Wow. That was so powerful. I think you should send it in.

Lisa ~ Homeschooling mama to 9yo ds and 7yo dd both born at home and expecting #3 in November!
Lisalee2 is offline  
Old 03-22-2005, 01:55 PM
 
mamamoo's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2002
Location: Eastern WA
Posts: 6,920
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Thank you this was amazing. I passed this thread on to two of my mom's groups.
Debi

Single mama to Alex(13), Maddy(12), Sam(8), Violet(6), and Ruby(3). fly-by-nursing1.gif
mamamoo is offline  
Old 03-22-2005, 02:12 PM
 
aswbarry's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2005
Location: MN
Posts: 274
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Love this Sarah! Beautiful! You have a talent for writing. I still need to see the Vagina Monolouges.
Angela

Quoteriginally Posted by aswbarry~A~ Mama to DD 6y, DD , DD 3y and DD 1y
aswbarry is offline  
Old 03-22-2005, 05:07 PM
 
OwensMa's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2004
Location: The land of milk and honey
Posts: 3,520
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
OwensMa is offline  
Old 03-22-2005, 05:31 PM
 
2+twins's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2004
Location: At NPT
Posts: 3,460
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Sarah, that was just awesome! You're very talented. I'm sorry though for your experience. Thank you for sharing this.

Mama to four remarkable kiddos, all born at home.
2+twins is offline  
Old 03-22-2005, 06:21 PM
 
Rosiedoula's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2002
Location: San Diego
Posts: 4
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you Sarah!!! your vagina monologue is standing ovation good. I work at a university where Womens Studies does TVM once a year - they've invited me to share and I'm wondering if I can share your monologue? I've been disappointed that the only monologue that is performed about birth is not sweet, not educational, not even empowering - women and men in this age group need to hear this message. I'm sending out loving and healing thoughts to all of you - and hugging my own vagina (kegel style). Can't wait to read what others write.

Just so you know Sarah, your monologue was linked on the Yahoo doula group this morning - that's when I popped over here and read you : )
For those who have not seen a performance of THE VAGINA MONOLOGUES (TVM) I hope you do if you get the chance.

-Rosie, CD (DONA)
Birth Blessings Doula Care
Rosiedoula is offline  
Old 03-22-2005, 07:26 PM - Thread Starter
 
homebirthing's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2002
Location: Minnesota
Posts: 2,663
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
If you would like to read it, please do!!

wife - mother - midwife

CIRCUMCISION

The more you know, the worse it gets.

homebirthing is offline  
Old 03-22-2005, 09:42 PM
 
Artisan's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2002
Posts: 5,329
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
That was lovely. I have seen Eve Ensler do TVM, and this would be a powerful addition!
Artisan is offline  
Old 03-23-2005, 01:45 AM
 
celmom's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2005
Location: maine
Posts: 1
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

been there!!!
celmom is offline  
 
User Tag List

Thread Tools


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off