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Originally Posted by valeria_vi
In the Birthing From Within classes they make you do breathing exercises while holding onto ice cubes. The last class we had to dip our hands into a bucket of ice water. I understand that the pain will not be exactly the same, of course, but ... how close is that simulation to what the real thing will be like? My brain tells me it's not all that close at all, so I don't even know why I'm asking but I'm gonna post this anyway.
|A lot of women have mentioned how they forget the pain.. here's my goofiness on that. I don't forget it per se.. I mean, rationally I recall pretty clearly it hurt, but my *body* doesn't seem to remember it.|
grateful mother to DD, 1/04, and DS, 2/08
Originally Posted by loraxc
Forgive me; I know this isn't popular. But I don't really buy the "pain is a state of mind" thing. I was not (anywhere in my conscious mind, anyway) afraid to give birth. I was actually really excited. I had take Bradley and felt really prepared. My husband is amazing; my midwives were good. I consider myself to have a fairly high pain threshold.
The first 10-11 hours weren't so bad. Painful, but I was focused and okay. It really went downhill after that, though--I guess it was when I hit active labor (where I stalled at 4-5 cm for 10 hours). Definitely the worst pain I've ever been in in my life--no COMPARISON to anything else I've ever experienced. I had back labor (posterior baby didn't turn till I was pushing) so I'm sure that's part of it, but...I read a description of back labor before I gave birth that said it was like "having a steel rod go through your spine every 3 minutes." OH COME ON, I thought, it can't be that bad. Joke was on me. It was that bad. I also described it as being like being hit in the back with a baseball bat over and over again.
I felt absolutely no pain in my abdomen, cervix, or anywhere else but the small of my back. The pain bore no resemblance to menstrual cramps, either. It was fascinating for me to experience the post-birth contractions in my abdomen. They felt totally different, and didn't hurt at ALL in comparison.
FWIW, I was transferred to the hospital from a birthing center at 4-5 cm after 24 hours of labor with broken waters--I was GBS positive and outside the BC's protocol. I got Pitocin and, at my midwife's urging, accepted the epidural. My daughter was born 10 hours later after 2 hours of pushing. Yes, it took 8 more hours to dilate 5 more cm, even with Pit ramped up very high. I don't know if my experience is very generalizable as my birth seems to have been somewhat outside the norm.
I am clinging to the beliefe that back labor is very different than labor with a properly positioned baby, because I want to do this natural for #2. But I absolutely fear another labor like that one. It was so long. It hurt so much.