If your midwife is suggesting induction and you have to give her reasons not to induce, she is a medwife!!!
Avoid induction, you have the right to informed concent and the right to refuse treatment -- it's in the ACOG guidelines.
Read The Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth by Henci Goer. I just got to hear her speak in Charlottesville, VA last Friday. Inductions lead to a higher rate of c/s. And when you are carrying a big baby (which I have) all I heard was oh boy this is a big baby, you may need a c/s. It sets you up for failure before you even begin.
A hint for Big Babies -- move in labor, rock those hips... I was primal and instictively swaying in labor w my HBA2C. She would not have come down to birth if I hadn't -- of course, I was just swaying because it felt good, staying still was too painful. I studied a similar birth relaxation techinque called hypbirth, but honestly I don't know how a woman can move a big baby down without movement. The best relief was in the birth pool, I swayed in there too. But I delivered in our bed, I spend a lot of time on the toilet pushing. My midwife forgot the birth stool, next time I'm getting my own birth stool.
I have heard that if the hospital staff is giving you a hard time you can hide out in the bathroom. And sitting on the toilet pushing was great, my dh was in front of me on a stool so I could hold on and pull myself more upright. I would suggest finding a doula with non-medicated natural childbirth experience, one who can help you voice your wants and desires and refuse treatments you do not want. It is super hard to think about all that while in labor and concentrating on birthing.
Sit Up and Take Notice -- Positioning Yourself for a Better Birth by Pauline Scott is also an excently book about getting your baby in the best birthing position before birth. This book can be ordered through Midwifery Today and ICAN websites.www.spinningbabies.com
also has some good positioning information
Having had a c/s for big baby and then successfully birthing a baby just as big leads me to believe that it's all about the position of the baby and your working that baby down and out. It isn't called labor for nothing.
Ina May Gaskin invented the Gaskin Manuevor for successfully delivering shoulder distosia (terrible speller). I would read up on this manuevor and ask your midwife is she has done it. Basically hands and knees opens up the pelvis a bit more to allow the stuck shoulders to get by the pelvic bone (there is more to it than that of course...)
Ina May Gaskin has two really powerful books the 2nd I liked best Ina May's Guide to Childbirth, the 1st is Spiritual Midwifery.
Remember the size of the woman says nothing about the size of her pelvis. I know 2 short and skinny woman who birthed 11 pounders with no ill effects.
As with any hospital birth, most woman suggest to other woman stay at home as long as you can. I just prefer to stay at home period. My hb was $2200 where as my hospital births leading to c/s were $18,000 and $16,000. We did finally get the insurance to pay for the homebirth, it took a year.