Labor hurts, but afterward you will feel so good about yourself! Your body is designed to do this. I think medication only gets in the way. Either your mind is not all with it, or you are numbed from an epidural and can't work productively with your body, instead only dragging out the process. Go into it optimistically, you can do this! And when it's over, you'll have a beautiful baby in your arms!
"A computer once beat me at chess, but it was no match for me at kick boxing." ~ Emo Philips
Me, DH, DS1, DS2, November 2012 , July 2013 , March 2014
Waiting on my SunshineBaby
To feel the way your body is suppose to work is not painful, it is intense, overpowering and beautiful.
To have to work as a team with the person who helped create the child in you, is a dance. The most wonderful dance my dh and i have EVER danced. Because in our first dd's birth i had an epi and there was no need to dance. It was an experience we will never forget.
I didnt truely believe i was in labor til i hit transition! I had expected it to be as miserable feeling as my first birth (pitocen induced)!! Labor is truely not as painful as others make it out to be!
Because you can stand tall & proud that you stuck to your beliefs and didnt allow others to determine your path!
Because your child will enter this world unadulterated by any medications!!!
My last birth is truly the most beautiful day of my life and it has led me on a new path in my life. Natural childbirth is amazing and after you have had it, you will be able to stand your ground for yourself. You will recover faster then a medicated birth and you will be so empowered!!!!
I am proud that I had enough faith in my body to do what it was meant to do.
I have no worries over DD being affected by medications.
I had a doctor who was ready to take over and start running the show (MY show!) but after DH told him to sit the hell down he stayed away from us. I will have my next delivery at home.
When you feel the baby's body moving inside of you and with you coming down the birth canal right before a contraction and you feel more in tune with the entire universe than you ever thought possible. I wasn't prepared for the fact that the baby would still kick and move while we were in labor. It is beautiful.
The urge to push is incredible. It isn't like, "come on, you are ready to push!" It is, "oh, whoa, i am pushing." It isn't you at all. It is just this powerful force that surges through your body, opens you up and moves that baby out... and that does not happen with a medical birth! God, I could live every day in that moment. It is the best feeling in the world.
Originally Posted by Eman'smom
Hey I had an unmedicated hospital waterbirth birth is so totally cool, you will love it. We walked around the hospital room (we could have left the room I just wasn't comfortable with that), we laughed chatted had a ball. Everyone was totally supportive of my choice. I drank a ton of water, could have eatten but didn't want to. Nurses stayed away midwife checked on us everyonce in a while.
Not everyone would find this cool, but I actually liked the ring of fire (ok maybe that is the wrong word :LOL ) but I could feel myself opening up to let our baby come into the world, for me that was just so neat.
Dh caught both of our children, the man I love who created life with me was the first one to touch our children on the "outside".
Oh and as far as "embarassing stories", we can all imagine those, I didn't have any of those moments. So don't worry.
Your body is amazing, think about how cool and miraleous it is that your body can grow and birth another human being.
I have wanted a homebirth since I found out I was pregnant, but my husband just wasn't going for it. He is scared something will go wrong and it is a valid fear. So I did some searching and found a hospital in my area that offers waterbirths with a midwife! I am so excited!!! Thank you all so much!
Someone else made a comment about getting to the point where you think "I can't do this anymore" or "I can't take it if it gets any worse" and then it doesn't get worse. This is so true. I have reached this point in each of my labors where I actually thought I would not be able to stand another minute of the pain. But in each case, it was immediately before my body kicked in and started pushing and the really bad pain was completely gone. Just remember that this is what your body was made to do. If you believe you can do it, you will. But if you give in to fear (your own or more likely that projected on you by others) you will never make it through. Believe in yourself!!
I have 2 boys - and their labours/births were totally different! I was induced for the first - it was SOOOOOOO painful : - I wanted an epidural, had one and felt blessedly, pain-free! BUT it was weird pushing him out while not feeling anything, and afterwards didn't truly feel like he was my baby.... Also had problems with my milk coming in, and he was a very sleepy baby. Not an experience I wanted to repeat.
The second labour and birth was PHENONMENAL!!! It started naturally and progressed at its own speed (quite quickly actually) and was not very painful at all! I had done some of the pain management techniques in the book Birthing From Within - and that helped IMMENSELY! Lots of visualization (cervix opening) and *accepting* the pain rather than distracting myself from it and trying to get away from it. The only part that was *painful* was transition which only lasted about 45 min, and my doula gave me some Rescue Rememdy which calmed me considerably. I naturally felt the urge to push and it only took about 11 min of my own instinctual pushes and my 9lb 4oz baby boy was born! I brought him up to my chest and I announced to the room that he was a boy and I cut the cord when I felt ready to. It was one of the most sacred experiences I ever had!
Did I mention that this wonderful second birth actually took place in a hospital with a nurse coming in and out and a doctor there as well???!!! Sounds unbelievable - but amazing hospital births CAN happen! I just made sure my wishes were known and my doctor supported me - as long as there was no medical emergency. My doctor even told me afterwards that the instintual way I was pushing (teeny tiny pushes rather than holding them for the whole contraction - like my doctor was trying to get me to do!) was for the best because my baby came out so fast - 9lbs 4 oz and I DID NOT tear!!!!
The most important thing is to prepare yourself as much as possible and TRUST yourself as much as possible. YOU CAN DO IT!!
A friend of mine recently recounted her birth story to me and got me a bit scared about labor (not her intent at all). She had an epidural, three hours of pushing, and baby in the NICU with a pneumothroax due to being the birth canal for so long. She didn't get anytime to bond with her baby and they were basically given the baby back as they walked out of the hospital. She is feeling very nervous about being a new mother (and rightfully so!).
I just can't help thinking maybe she could have avoided some of these issues by not having medication (although I'm certainly not assigning blame). I knew she didn't want a natural birth at all. She said the pain was too much.
Anyway, reading your stories make me feel even more confident about the choices DH and I are making about this birth. I feel quite empowered already.
I can't wait to meet my little one. It can cannot come soon enough.
Mama to my beautiful Ana Carolina (2/07), Isabel Cristina (6/10), and #3 on the way in August 2013!
I kept that in mind with my ds at my home birth. This wasnt a bad thing that was happening. It was the way my body was suppost to be working. How can I call it pain when my body is not being harmed, all it was was my muscles working togather to give me the life that was created inside me. I trusted that my baby knew how be born and I just lost myself in all the feelings, let it wrap around me like a blanket, welcomed every sensation. It was work but we work for everything we have. Mind set can make all the difference in the world, between just having a baby, and giving life.
Midwife & Mom to Gracen 9 , Avery 6 Urijah 4 Greta Sue, 9-9-10 Oh Baby! Due in April
While I was pregnant, I tried to only surround myself with wonderful birth stories, not wanting to fill my head with all the negative ones.
A great book to read for any pregnant woman planning on a natural birth... Ina May's Guide to Childbirth.
We had a homebirth. It was fantastic. The best was being left alone at midnight with my sweet little girl and my husband in our own bed to sleep. No visitors, no phonecalls, nothing but lovin'. Bliss.
Oh, the question was about labor! That really was great, too. Such an education, not like anything I'd read, but still similar. I made it happen. I made HER happen. So awesome.
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I was also surprised that I lost my inhibitions then. I knew I was supposed to, but I'm such a modest person that I didn't think that would happen to me. But it did! I made noises and didn't care what I looked like or what anyone must have thought of me.
I gave birth in a hospital. It was painful, but not painful like breaking a leg or anything I would naturally associate a hospital with. We had fun... especially at the beginning and watched "Princess Bride" on a laptop computer. The hospital staff was very supportive, and I feel like they were a great blessing to me. The only really rough patch was when I was getting close to 10 cm and was having trouble handling the pressure mentally. It didn't hurt. I just wanted to push soooo badly! I blacked out a couple of times during these final contractions before pushing and my mind wandered to other places, kind of like dreaming but not being asleep. It was crazy!
And like everyone else says just having the baby in my arms at the end was such an awesome experience. I felt like something in me clicked. It was a "Eureka" moment when I realized this is what we are meant to do! It was such a sense of extreme fulfillment.
Knowing the hospital's 'most common practices' helped me clearly address what i did and didn't want, put it down on paper in a clear, concise birth plan, and since i was educated about it all there was no-one could second guess my decisions or why i came to the conclusios i came to.
I know you wanted positive experiences only but it is only fair to say there were some complications in my experience that no-one, let alone me in my first birth, could have forseen. However, i think education and clear communication/dialog with the delivery staff is of upmost importance to have a positive experience overall. Empower yourself and it will be the best it can be even if you run into 'issues' of your own.
But one thing people don't tell you: You have breaks!
I went into labor expecting 20+ hours of non-stop, barely-able-to-breathe pushing.
What I got was 2 hours of pushing, with about 5 minutes of pain-free, coherant time between pushes! I couldn't believe it. I even napped between pushes!
But holding your baby and knowing "I did this... I brought this little thing into the world, and I ROCK because of it!" is the.most.awesome.feeling.
Definately a head trip, as a PP said.
However... I can't say i'm quite ready to do it again yet... Poke me in a few years, and we'll talk.
I cant say it was easy but i can say it was worth it i was awake and feeling and was able to leave 24 hours later.
Good luck and you will do great
I actually like giving birth but am miserable being pregnant.
Oh yeah & I'm good at it!, labours have been long to short but I have never spent more then 4 minutes pushing!