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I watched a video of a live cs...i nearly threw up and had a bit of a panic attack

It was so violent. I have more to say but i just cant right now

http://www.or-live.com/distributors/NLM/rnh.cfm?id=213


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OKAY, i am coming back on to "defend" myself. I had a cs. It was necessary BUT my baby suffered a stroke because of it. She has been permanently harmed. I was in maternal special care because of it. I signed out of the hosp AMA after 7 days. DD was in the NICU for 10 days. We are both still suffering (over 2 years later) because of this.

I am sorry that seeing a mother torn up and treated like meat makes me sick to my stomach. I am sorry that seeing a baby yanked up by her tiy little feet makes me have a panic attack. I did NOT say i am discusted with anyone who has a cs. I am so so horrified that it is such a "nothing" procedure that 30% of births are happening this way. Everyday i talk online with moms who are still hurting form thier cs. Being denied vbac. They have been bullied, lied to and pressured. I think the whole thing is sad. I think the doctor was rude and that baby had some trouble. Now with this disclaimer can i go back to showing a link that i think others would find interesting? Having NEVER seen it myself it was HORRIFYING to see what they did to me (actuallu this was better because at least they didnt take out her uterus to sew it up.
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I saw a csection on discovery channel years before I even thought about having kids. Turned me off completely- until then I thought that was the 'easy' way to give birth. Unfortunately for me, ds2 ended up being c/s.

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what a wonderful way to think about the birth of my dear son.
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Ugh. I watched part of it and wow oyu would think the surgeons were working with a side of beef at times. They are so rough with her body.

This isn't the first one I've seen. My mother taped my own and my OB wasn't nearly as rough and it was much quicker.

And when did giving birth become a procedure. The OB kept reffering to VBACs as a procedure. Last time I checked a vaginal birth is the absence of a procedure. :
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I;ve never seen one. They showed a video in the CB classes at the hospital when I was pregnant with my oldest. I left the room. ICK.
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I watched a video of a live cs...i nearly threw up and had a bit of a panic attack

It was so violent. I have more to say but i just cant right now

http://www.or-live.com/distributors/NLM/rnh.cfm?id=213
Uh, it's not much of a picnic for those of us who have to endure them either. No need to throw up over the disgust that some women have c-sections for legitimate reasons. Like because they are dying!!! :

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i cant watch the video. i endured 2 of them. i do have to say that neither of mine were violent..i did have very caring docs, even if they were misguided in their referrals to have the c/s.

edited to add: i dont think the birht of my first 2 sons was "the most horrible thing ever". but, im pms'ing right now so maybe im just a bit sensitive.
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I don't she was upset because she was having a CS but because the surgeon was treating this poor womans body with such disregard. It was violent. Even is it was needed his bedside manner stunk
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Uh, it's not much of a picnic for those of us who have to endure them either. No need to throw up over the disgust that some women have c-sections for legitimate reasons.

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Uh, it's not much of a picnic for those of us who have to endure them either. No need to throw up over the disgust that some women have c-sections for legitimate reasons. Like because they are dying!!! :
Um, my only living child was taken via cs. She had a stroke because of it. She lost 1/4 of her brain. I am still horrified by flashbacks. And if you watch it you will understand my horror. There are pieces of "meat" on his hands like he is making meatloaf. They yank hard on that baby and she is very floppy - they are rough with both her and the mom.
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QUOTE=rozzie'sma]I don't she was upset because she was having a CS but because the surgeon was treating this poor womans body with such disregard. It was violent. Even is it was needed his bedside manner stunk[/QUOTE]
Thank you, yes. I was so shocked and haviing such anxiety over seeing it i just couldnt write anymore. And they were very flippant about cs and its risks and about how it is really all about patient choice.
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Ugh. I watched part of it and wow oyu would think the surgeons were working with a side of beef at times. They are so rough with her body.

This isn't the first one I've seen. My mother taped my own and my OB wasn't nearly as rough and it was much quicker.

And when did giving birth become a procedure. The OB kept reffering to VBACs as a procedure. Last time I checked a vaginal birth is the absence of a procedure. :
Yes i hated the vbac is a procedure liine and also the "baby looks happy to have her birthday" line.
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It didn't seem any more violent to me than I figured it would be. It's major surgery. Every other major surgery I've watched has been that violent or more.

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It didn't seem any more violent to me than I figured it would be. It's major surgery. Every other major surgery I've watched has been that violent or more.
*nods* Watch a total hip replacement if you want to see violent surgery.
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For some babies, their journey through the birth canel is pretty violent. I've seen some bruised and squashed babies so I imagine it is not always smooth sailing vaginally either?
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Helloooooo....Why can't I get it to work for me??
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For some babies, their journey through the birth canel is pretty violent. I've seen some bruised and squashed babies so I imagine it is not always smooth sailing vaginally either?
Nope. Sometimes vaginal birth can be more "violent" than a c/s. Seen it.
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Helloooooo....Why can't I get it to work for me??
I dunno. I didn't watch. I do that for a living, no need to watch as far as I'm concerned. What's your computer saying?
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*nods* Watch a total hip replacement if you want to see violent surgery.
Yep! Those are seriously harsh. The whole popping in and out thing. *shudder*

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i can't see it either

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It doesn't say anything. It shows where it's supposed to play but the box where it should be shown is blank.
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same here, i think we need a real player or quicktime to watch

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It doesn't say anything. It shows where it's supposed to play but the box where it should be shown is blank.
It sounds like you don't have the proper software installed on your computer to watch it.
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Um, my only living child was taken via cs. She had a stroke because of it. She lost 1/4 of her brain. I am still horrified by flashbacks. And if you watch it you will understand my horror. There are pieces of "meat" on his hands like he is making meatloaf. They yank hard on that baby and she is very floppy - they are rough with both her and the mom.
Look, a c-section saved my life when my daughter was already dead inside of me and I was dying as well. Maybe I shouldn't have replied as I'm PMS'ing, but it's irritating to constantly hear how violent, horrifying, and disgusting c-sections are. Like other posters have mentioned, what surgery is a bed of roses?

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I've seen my own csection. It wasn't that rough, and it was MUCH faster. Well, except for the end where the doctor couldn't get a good hold on my baby so she kept slipping back in

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It doesn't say anything. It shows where it's supposed to play but the box where it should be shown is blank.
Does a little drop down bar show up that says you need Active Control X? Often, if I can't see a graphic or something on my computer, I get the little "you need to install Active Control X to view this site."

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Well I can't watch CSI or House without getting queasy. So when our Childbirth class showed the C/S video, I just looked away from the monitor. I looked at DP's face, which was a look of horror. After that class he had a renewed commitment to be the best damn birth coach and advocate possible. He did not want to watch a live C/S, especially mine.
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Look, a c-section saved my life when my daughter was already dead inside of me and I was dying as well. Maybe I shouldn't have replied as I'm PMS'ing, but it's irritating to constantly hear how violent, horrifying, and disgusting c-sections are. Like other posters have mentioned, what surgery is a bed of roses?
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Wow. I am not watching the video. I rarely read things here with such lack of respect for moms and their births. I agree with the pp who said many surgeries are violent, as well as vaginal births. Why all of the judgement??

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