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Originally Posted by morgansmom
after a very long hospital-induced labor, I started to lose it and scream at the top of my lungs. At this point dh left me to go find one of the midwives (they technically had to drop me because of postdates, but one of them stayed around the hospital to kinda be my doula) and when he came back with her, she takes one look at me- sideways on the bed on my knees and chest with my face down smushed against the wall, screaming my a$$ off, and goes "that's not normal, she should have an epidural"
Because I didn't want internal exams, this same mw asked if I had a history of sexual abuse, which I had, and she really latched on to this. She decided that I was laboring abnormally because of childhood sexual abuse and that I wasn't going to be able to give birth. I felt for the longest time afterwards that I must have still been completely messed up but now I just feel that while I had moved on to 'surviving' childhood abuse, she had me pegged as a 'victim' and pretty much made sure it had an impact on my labor. Yes I did get the epidural after she told me I was not normal and I should have one. It hadn't entered into my mind before that, though. I also gave up on the fact that I could have a vaginal birth and ended up with a c/s about an hour later. It's amazing what someone else can bring into your labor and birth just because they decide it belongs there.
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