I am really curious as to weather this is common. I'm guessing if I had opted to have the stitches they would have sewn it back together, and that's probably the norm for most women that rip through the labia. It's not painful or problimatic in any way right now, but I'm wondering if I ever have another baby,if it may cause another, more severe rip.
Does anyone else want to share how their vagina got "redecorated" after they gave birth, and any problems it caused them?
I had horrible tearing, way worse than I originally realized...all the way up through my clit (YOW!), very deep, tons of internal tearing, and all the way back to my anus (but not INTO it, YAY!)...i did not get stitches, and it took about 10 months to fully heal, and now it is completely...uumm...redecorated. LOL
I haven't had any problems with it....actually, I'm thinking it might be useful, since the whiole area is ..uummm...bigger than before, maybe i won't tear so much with the next baby?
I was pissed beyond belief when I discovered it 2wks post partum. I immediately saw a different doc who told me that it might fix itself with subsequent deliveries, but if it doesn't, when I'm done having children I can get it surgically repaired. My midwife said that, "No one looks the same down there afterward. Not me, not anyone." and that I should let it go.
DH doesn't even notice and I rarely think about it (16 months later).
There are women out there who are having labia surgery to make their labia look adolescent again. That is so gross, and why remove some erogenous tissue unless it is rubbing uncomfortably. But google "labiaplasty" if you want to know.
With DS#2 I had a natural birth at a free standing birth center. I had a couple of small tears, but the midwife called them skid marks, I got a couple of stitches. A week into my post birth I felt better than I did at 2 months post pardum with #1.
So don't be scared that with #2 you will tear as much or more, you never know. And chances are you will tear less since your body has been there done that.
I don't notice anything that feels different down there, DH doesn't either. I'm sure I look different but I never really looked before, and I could care less. I mean it all works.
Anyway I've accepted the fact that having babies changed my Yoni forever and my breasts will never be firm and perky again - but hey, I have 3 beautiful children
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Originally Posted by midwifetx
I always tell women to think of a vaginal delivery as the *ultimate* loss of virginity. Things do look different, and I make sure to tell them ahead of time to expect this. I wish all care providers did. It would have saved me quite a lot of heartache after my first was born.
Originally Posted by 2Sweeties1Angel
Wow, so everything really does look different after giving birth? This will be my first vaginal delivery and I have no idea what kind of "redecoration" I should expect.
As for my "redecoration" (excellent term!) I was victim to a needless silly episiotomy with my first birth, and an extra stitch aka Happy Husband Stitch was added FREE during my repair! That little sewing project caused AGONY for me....couldn't bring myself to inset a tampon without crying at 13 months pp. Intimate activities were not as fun as before, because I was stitched too tight (and no, hubby actually was NOT happy! neither was I. : )
Then during my second child's birth, I tore. I was hoping hoping hoping to not tear, I had a very long crowning stage to prevent a tear, and I tore.
AND it was the best thing ever!! because that tear corrected the nonsense that my sOB had done two years earlier. I did not have stitches; I kept my legs together for the first few days post-partum, it healed beautifully.
No, things are not the same. I have a fine white scar from the episiotomy repair, and a slightly asymetrical look to the skin around that episiotomy scar area. I did cry about both injuries; I mourned the loss and changes that happened to my body.
I encourage all women to get out that hand-held mirror (heck! get our your digital cameras, whoo hoo!!!!!) and look, look, look......and get familiar with the anatomy, the scar, the anatomy if you're pregnant with your first, whatever....because that makes accepting the changes a little less scary and upsetting, I think. Go ahead and cry, pout, bitch, whine.....it's okay to do so.
I had a couple of second degree tears but they were both left unstitched and healed within 10 days.
I had some problems with urinary incontinence for about 12 weeks pp but now everything pretty much works as it did before. I still feel a little sad about the changes though 2 years on but I certainly wouldn't swap my gorgeous dd for my pre pregnancy body
After ds who i had at a birth center w/ mw I had a very small skid mark on my labia near my utethra so when I peed it burned like : that took about a week & half to heal. My vagina is way more open after him as well. But it dosnt cause me any trouble other than I am more apt to "vart" than I used to be
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|Wow, so everything really does look different after giving birth?|
Originally Posted by fourlittlebirds
Not necessarily enough to make a perceivable difference. I didn't have an episiotomy or tearing, and I really haven't noticed any difference. Anyway, you can minimize the redecoration (love that term! ) to at least what is natural, by keeping people's hands (and knives) away from your vagina during birth, and pushing instinctively.
The way to make an episiotomy worse would be for the operator to use blunt, less-sharp scissors, that would crush the tissue while cutting it. How sharp do you think those scissors stay, use after use? :
|How sharp do you think those scissors stay, use after use?|
Everything is one use. The scissors I have in my bag for episiotomy have only been used once (in 349 births as primary or assistant) and are VERY sharp. I don't sterilize them with the other instruments, they have their own pouch so that they don't have to be resterilized as often and so that they maintain their edge.
|anyone else with torn pereniums?|
The only reason I noticed was because it burned like crazy when I had to rinse it. By the time I had it looked at, it was too late to stitch it up. I could go and get it repaired I suppose, but now, almost 2yrs later I hardly think of it. It's just another way I'm different (well, reading these posts I don't feel so alone ).